Could use some help

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Redheadchi, Jan 21, 2010.

  1. Redheadchi

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    So my GF recently told me that she doesn't need a BF right now and thinks that we're not in the same place right now. I don't know what she means, is there anyone that might have an idea of what she means? I asked her but I'm awaiting her reply.

    When we first started dating she said she wanted to take things slow. So we would sleep together but I never made a move so as not to mess things up. After about a month she asked why I never made a move on her. After that conversation when I went to make a move she was either tired, or not in the mood, or when we did start to fool around she would be at the point of cumming and ask me to fuck her so I would get ready and then there wasn't enough time before she had to go to work.

    She also told me when I had asked about it that I didn't make any moves or whip it out, so I dont think she ever saw my dick but I've been hard around her and she has felt it.

    She never made any advances towards me and I can't help but feel like I did something wrong. Did I wait to long or not move in hard enough or often enough?

    I just feel like shit and I'm really down on myself, any advice?
     
  2. dolfette

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    sometimes people just aren't ready to be in a relationship. this happens throughout life.
    i had a period in my late 20's where i just needed to be on my own.

    just accept that it's not all you, you, you. you could be perfect and she would still be the same her, not sure what she wanted and how to be.

    be a gentleman, accept what she says, maybe see each other {in a platonic way} if she can cope with it.

    the long and short?

    you can't talk someone into being ready for love.
     
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    she has another guy who's keepin her in cock, she's just playin u 2 c if u stay around...sorry
     
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    I think she means what she says, Red. And if you are sharing living space, separate your stuff a bit. Also begin looking around at other girls. If it were really clicking between you two, the other sex attempts would not have failed so many times.
     
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