Could you do without a man the rest of your life?

[antiquityscion]

Here is a hypothetical yet serious question, and may take imagining for some here. There is no wrong or right answer, nor intended to be judgmental.


This is the set up:

IF you are in a serious relationship with a man already, just assume for whatever reason for this question, you are not in a serious relationship: EG you never met your man, he left you, he died, got abducted by aliens, whatever...point is, that guy is not around and won't be coming back.

They why is not all that important, but here are just a few possibilities. Maybe you are sick of how men treat you, or feeling like you are the one always compromising. Maybe you found the world's greatest sex toy or you have a girlfriend with a new strap on that makes you cum better and more times than any man ever has. Maybe you are bi, and decided to be exclusively with women from now on? Maybe you just decided to become celibate, or found a new masturbation technique that satisfies you adequately.

The question:

Are you capable of swearing off men? This means no relationship (casual or serious) or sex. Basically no contact with a man whatsoever beyond a strictly platonic friendship.

Could you do it?


If yes, explain what it is about men that would make you do that? Some possibilities, but not limited to them: if not listed, please elaborate: Do men just piss you off or annoy you, and if so, what is it that makes you feel that way? Sex just isn't all that important to you? You like sex with women better, anyway? Have you been mistreated or taken for granted one too many times? Do you have nothing in common with men, other than a penis? Are men too obsessed with having sex with you that you but neglect to give you what you want, that you are tired of it all?

If no, what is it about men you can't live with? Biological need to procreate? You can't resist a male body and/or "traditionally" male personality? You "need" a live penis in you and sex toys don't cut it? You need emotional support only a man can provide, that no woman or machine can? Is it simply just about money/financial security, or material things a wealthy man can provide you, and you just put up with men who provide that? Again, not limited to these options, these are just ideas. Please explain.

 

[antiquityscion]

Clarification: If you did swear off men, this doesn't mean you automatically become lesbian, either.

You can feel free to fantasize about men, masturbate thinking about men, watch porn with men in it, go to male strip clubs. The only thing is you can't have physical contact with a man in any sexual way (including sensual massages, or any touching that while not sexual, could be considered intimate and something traditionally considered part of a relationship), nor can you have a romantically emotional relationship with a man, beyond platonic.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I could never swear off the possibility of a healthy relationship with anyone, no matter if they were male or female.

 

[antiquityscion]

I could never swear off the possibility of a healthy relationship with anyone, no matter if they were male or female.

What is it about men specifically that make you feel that way?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

What is it about men specifically that make you feel that way?

The same thing that makes me feel that way about women.

I tell myself now that if my man left me or worse, I'd never be in a serious relationship again. I know that's how I feel now, but I have no idea who I could meet in the future. That person could be a man. Could be a woman. Either way, I wouldn't know until I met them.

I actually have never had 'romantic' feelings for a woman, only sexual attraction and mutual respect as fellow people of the Earth. That doesn't mean there's not a woman out there who would completely steal my heart away if we were to meet and I was available.

 

[antiquityscion]

The same thing that makes me feel that way about women.

I tell myself now that if my man left me or worse, I'd never be in a serious relationship again. I know that's how I feel now, but I have no idea who I could meet in the future. That person could be a man. Could be a woman. Either way, I wouldn't know until I met them.

Makes sense.

I actually have never had 'romantic' feelings for a woman, only sexual attraction and mutual respect as fellow people of the Earth. That doesn't mean there's not a woman out there who would completely steal my heart away if we were to meet and I was available.

As a bi man, I can relate to this.

 

[693987]

I could never swear off the possibility of a healthy relationship with anyone, no matter if they were male or female.

This. I identify as queer for my sexual orientation. I like and am open to all gender identities. No sex is so great, some individual so amazing that I will magically not find other people attractive. The only way I would "swear off" from people is when I'm in a monogamous relationship, because my orientation doesn't mean anything as far as my capability to be loyal.

So, if I ended up in a monogamous relationship with a woman, or someone genderqueer, or whatever? Yeah, that means I won't be dating, fucking, whatever-ing anybody else.

 

[rtg]

I agree with what the other ladies said.

However, I will point out that I am currently celibate and not dating. I have had sex a whole three times this year and probably only a handful of times over the last year. I don't need a man to keep me satisfied sexually... but having a man to do that with whom I have a connection with is grand. Lately I don't really care that I'm single and not dating...I'm focusing on myself and am even starting to prepare for the possibility that maybe I won't find someone. Right now I'm content with my life but I'm not sworn off men or the hope that maybe one day I'll have a great, healthy relationship.

 

[MickeyLee]

i've spent most of my life without a male partner
if the boy should leave my life for whatever reason i wouldn't have sex with a man again
i don't see me ever hooking up with a person who identified as male
i would return to my lady/gender queer loving ways

why? the boy is a glorious outlier.
i knew him for years before we became a thing
we both often joked that if either of us had a compatible orientation we'd hook up
one day i thought about it, this person is someone i adore and love and enjoy being around
the only reason i wouldn't hook up with him was that he was a dude
life is short, joy doesn't come around often, so i lept
we've been very happy since

i am just not physically attracted to men in an i want to have sex with them way
i might want to make out with a dude, like, i am pansnoggual.
actual sex.. blech

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I would remain single and celibate if my husband dies before I do.

 

[AlteredEgo]

No way! I love men. I would miss everything about sexual intimacy and romance with a man. That masculine energy is a beautiful part of life.

 

[TinyPrincess]

Could I? Yeah, why not?

Would I? Not in a million years - they are handy at doing things, some are even capable in bed