Actually it is. Because if it was who you wanted you wouldnt be settling./QUOTE]
That is based on the logic, that what you want can not change and that your partner doe snot change, which is absurd. Who i wanted with 16 does not have to be the same person i wanted with 18, and even if i still want the exact same thing, the girl that was that at 16 most likely not anymore the same at 18, how can i expect that knowing that i myself have changed too. I have been with a girl that was everything i wanted, everything i could imagine and i was very happy about that, but it did not take. That happens, just because one person is the perfect partner for you in a certain phase of your life, and you are lucky enough to attract her/him, it doesn't mean it will be the perfect partner for the next phase, yet for whatever reason ever one of the two does not cut it and settles for the partner even if it not is the perfect fit any longer.