Could you stay with a partner who wouldn't perform oral on you?

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    I was wondering if it is a complete dealbreaker for people if their partner wouldn't perform oral on you. Let's say they are a really good match for you in every other way, but they thought performing oral was degrading. Would you want a relationship with this person or would that lead you to not pursue a relationship with them. Would you marry them or enter a long-term relationship? If so, would you get oral on the side? What if your partner wasn't cool with cheating? I'm curious what people's thoughts are...Anyone in this boat?
     
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    Never been with a girl who wouldn't do it. some were better than others, but all tried. If she thinks it is degrading, she has real issues with sex and probably won't change. I can see other "degrading" things popping up in the future.
     
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    Girls that don't want to do it eventually break :wink:
     
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    dated a guy who wouldn't go down. Frustrating but not the reason we split up.
     
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    Mmm, well, if a guy wouldn't do oral? He has other issues, so no, I wouldn't stay with him. In fact, I'd be worried about all other aspects of sex. Like what else did he find degrading but wasn't telling me?
     
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    Yeah because I don't really get off on oral.
     
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    IMO oral is an integral part of your sex life. Deal breaker for me, unless he was willing to work on that.
     
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    Ditto, I love giving head. Its one of the most unselfish acts you can perform (or at least thats what I tell my man, fact is I love sucking on his big cock)!
     
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    No prudes allowed. Dealbreaker.
     
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    couldn't imagine that oral sex would be a deal breaker. I would question the heart and soul of the relationship before I attributed it to not willing to perform oral sex.
     
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    Dealbreaker for me. If you don't you don't, that's fine with me, but we can only be just firends. Especially if you are hung, I'm not going to be able to handle something large if I'm not properly worked up.
    Of course, I'm not stingy in giving it either.
    Since original poster was a guy, I guess he really meant would it be a deal breaker for guys if a girl wouldn't go down on him though. Frankly I wouldn't blame you if it was.
    Life is too short for an unsatisfying sex life.
     
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    Dealbreaker, can't imagine not getting that.
     
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    well, I never thought oral was degrading....im submissive anyway. I (like many women) always said oral is something I would save for marriage. I know if i'm fucking and sucking his dick all the time then nobody else is. No reason to cheat right?

    Well, long story short.....I suck dick now but if I met a guy who didnt give head and I loved him it wouldn't matter. If I loved him oral sex wouldnt mean that much to me.
     
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    Yea it's a dealbreaker. Especially if you expect me to go down on you everytime. Its 2009 almost 2010. It's ok to give head.
     
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    i wouldn't mind.

    shit, who doesn't have some hangups?
     
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    Oral by itself doesn't get me off (need those fingers too!) so it wouldn't be the dealbreaker in and of itself - but the fact that they were unwilling to do something I see as a basic sexual act would have me a bit wary.
     
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    i think if they were trying to fulfil your sexual needs in other ways then it wouldn't be a huge deal.
    but if it was just the most obvious in a long list of unwillingness to consider your needs it would.
     
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    I don't think it would be a good idea to stay with person who felt oral sex as degrading. If the person feels so negatively about oral sex, what else will come up later in the relationship. I would say that is one reason for finding it on the side.
     
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    ..what if that person had been abused that way as a child?
    then feelings of degradation would be very understandable.
     
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    I wouldn't mind, as long as she would allow me to do it on her.

    I love to do oral on a woman, but it is not really important for me if she doesn't want to do it on me.

    In any case, by keeping receiving it for a long time, she might start having second thoughts, who knows?

    Nothing is printed on stone.
     
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