The answer to that is, yes, and I do. My wife and I have been married for 7 years and together for almost 10, and she has never enjoyed giving oral sex. This was established very early on in our relationship that she didn't like it and felt uncomfortable with me pressuring her for it, we talked about it a lot. Its now just not something we do
Could you stay with a partner who wouldn't perform oral on you?
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Sometimes you fall in love with a prude, and you have to compromise
It's been a deal breaker in the past. I don't want to live without oral and she wouldn't do it so we could never work.
I’ve only gotten oral twice from current wife,7 years, and only once with ex wife 10 years. Before that only once with a woman I worked with as a birthday gift. So ya...less than a handful...I understand if they don’t want to do it for me but if they hated me doing oral for them it would be. My ex wife hated oral and my current wife prefers it more than intercourse.
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Nah. Knowledge of self is power. I know exactly what level of priority a satisfying sexual connection is for me. Sexual exploration begins well before I know enough to feel any significant attachment to a person.
That being said I don’t think I’ve ever received one from anyone who actually had any interest in doing it. Always felt like it was some form of duty which made it no fun for me. Best sex I’ve ever had has been my hand, No complaints or disappointed looks 
Makes a lot of sense. I fell hard and fast for my wife, so I had so make that compromise, and I don't regret it
. I’ve never asked for it or expected it. I always tried to be the most accommodating lover that I could be given that I am pretty unspectacular below the belt.
My wife's lack of interest in oral really showed too, which is one reason I don't mind it stopped pretty soon into our relationshipThat being said I don’t think I’ve ever received one from anyone who actually had any interest in doing it. Always felt like it was some form of duty which made it no fun for me. Best sex I’ve ever had has been my hand, No complaints or disappointed looks
I’ve seen that me and my wife get along best and our relationship is at its healthiest when I giver her oral on a regular basis and I just take care of myself in the shower at some point afterward, usually morning after in the shower. Given that I can’t meet her needs intercourse wise, she doesn’t have a love of the vibrator I bought her and the long term depression that sets in for me after every sexual attempt I have decided that this is the best way to proceed if she wants me to stay. Now if she wants to move on I’m fine with it but I think she even realizes that this is what is best for me and her. I’ll just have to keep imaging getting a great blowjob as I stroke my less than stellar prick.
My partner doesnt want to give oral - and Ive learnt to respect that choice. Its not the end of the world - there are thousands of other methods about giving and receiving pleasure.
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I could get by without it, so yes I would stay with a partner who didn't fancy it. If they didn’t fancy me, that would be more difficult. My ego is too big for that.
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Yes. I’ve never been too terribly into it, so I could definitely live without.
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Na it's a deal breaker if it's just one sided. With the partner receiving oral but not wanting to reciprocate.
It's part of what being intimate is all about.
Now that's not to say that it's expected every time we have sex. But at some point a good 69 session can be very mind blowing. It just keeps things spicy and interesting from time to time. Sometimes can be very fun during foreplay.
It's part of what being intimate is all about.
Now that's not to say that it's expected every time we have sex. But at some point a good 69 session can be very mind blowing. It just keeps things spicy and interesting from time to time. Sometimes can be very fun during foreplay.
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I know that I am weird, by many standards; but I can take or leave BJs. I love to give oral, I love the pleasure the person receiving it gets and I love the satisfaction I receive. ( sorry guys women only ). I have dated women who were just not into oral; or they were more hey its your Birthday, here is something special. But never a deal breaker. The sex act itself, is only a part of a relationship. I will probably never understand the guys who have great wives, understanding wives, wives, who cook and take care of tons of things, wives who raise their children, wives who do all of the previous things and hold down a full time job; wives who are great in bed. Only the wife, does not submit to oral on demand, so the guy / husband is compelled to seek out a Buddy
I am weird; and I know it.
I am weird; and I know it.
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. My wife is all of those things and more which is why I could care less about her giving me oral.
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sorry guys, it's a deal-breaker for me and always have. i've always considered oral sex a form of self-awareness and sexual growth in a person. the only respectable exception i will make is if someone doesn't want to give and receive oral, in which case would be a deal breaker but then i can totally respect that. i've met too many women who are willing to get eaten out but won't go near a cock, go figure? i'm sure they have their reasons but i don't need to be a part of that.
i love to give and receive so i would expect the same. it's just how i roll. different strokes for different folks. there's too many fish out in the sea for me to settle for one that doesn't suck dick. i think the sexual relationship in any type of relationship is too important to make compromises.
i love to give and receive so i would expect the same. it's just how i roll. different strokes for different folks. there's too many fish out in the sea for me to settle for one that doesn't suck dick. i think the sexual relationship in any type of relationship is too important to make compromises.
