Couldn't happen to me

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  1. EllieP

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    I'm very embarrassed that it happened to me, but it did, it's over, and I'm going to get through it.

    I am a victim of a cyberstalker, and I am partially responsible for allowing it to happen. It was definitely a case of too much information on my part.

    My weakness: I love talking to people and sharing, and when I talk with nice people I feel like we might share the same ideas. Well, I'm 40 and should be old enough to know better, but here we are.

    I made a silly mistake of uploading a photo that I used for a Facebook account - and it wasn't even my account. It was for a non-profit group I work with. But the guy found the account and tried to "friend" me there. I didn't think it would be a good idea for all of the volunteers to know that I come to a site like this, so I really freaked out.

    I seriously thought about just quitting cold turkey, but as my husband says "then the terrorist would win." So, I'm making baby steps.

    I read my husband's (Captain Elephant) post and I was so humbled by the outpouring of good wishes that I actually cried! See, most of you are very nice people, and I love talking with you. So how could I stay away!

    I'm going to be a lot more careful now, so if you've PMed me in the past I might be a little more stand-offish than I used to be. Sorry about that.
     
  2. dolfette

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    i've had creepy fuckers follow me from here to other sites. though i was less freaked. something about this site... there are some really great guys here, but it also seems to attract the lowest of the low. the mouth breathing pond scum, the predators and stalkers. pity.
     
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    I hate that people that abuse the priviledge of trust, cause normally outgoing people to withdraw and mistrust.

    I'm very sorry that this happened to you, but glad that you didn't let him drive you away.
     
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    I'm so sorry this happened to you Ellie, but I'm glad you're moving on from it. It was considerate of you and your hubby to share your experience - it certainly opened my eyes to the risks.
     
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    hate to see this happen to great people, sorry to hear hope everything works out the best for you and your husband :wink:
     
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    Ellie, I am sorry this has happened to you and I am glad you still decided to stay. You are one of the nicest posters here and it's a shame someone used this against you.
    Something to cheer you up, a pair from the new fall collection:

    Manolo Blahnik Oppure Sandal - Neiman Marcus
     
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    *does happy dance*

    Welcome back, Ellie.
     
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    It is so good to have you back. I missed smiling face and cogent input.
     
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    As the veteran of several cyberstalkers myself, I'm so very glad to see you've returned, E. Consider a (non-creepy) kiss blown in your direction.
     
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    Ellie, I've suffered the same myself, but in the form of an ex partner, and it spilled on to these very forums, and also continues on to this very day, thankfully now though, no longer involving these forums.

    Don't let the bastards grind you down, and don't let em beat you, by making you run from sites, such as here.
     
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    Oh I LOVE red. How about I buy you the shoes and sneak them into your shoe closet when Cap isn't home? Just act like you've always had them, he wont notice a new pair of shoes under your other hundred or so :biggrin1:
    How about those:
    Christian Louboutin - shop online pigalili pot pourri silver

    Or............the whole frigging website!:wink:

     
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    I'm just glad you're not gone. You're always a little sun on a cloudy day.
     
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    Im pretty sure you can block him on FaceBook. That way you, and your organization will be safe from further contact with the individual.

    Be safe
     
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    I'm glad you came back Ellie! *hugs*
     
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    wb Ellie:)
    And I agree with the hubby. Luckily for you, you are not alone in this:)
     
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    Yay! Welcome back you ray of sunshine you! *hugs*
     
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    Yay, Ellie's back!!!
     
  19. EllieP

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    All of you are so sweet, and I appreciate your support so much. I know I kind of overreacted, but it just shook me up. I'm better now. The shoes helped!!! LOL!
     
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    That is so creepy and weird. I'm sorry that happened to you! I go as far about leaving out random life details for fear of being IDed.

    Now, if you give me your full name, address, phone number, measurements, social security number and nude photos, I will send you a sympathy card!


    :wink:
     
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