Couple has dilemma after experiencing huge cock

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Wow, sounds like your wife just discovered she was into big black dick. Unfortunately whatever you do from now on is not going to erase her experiences with the hung black guy from her mind. To me, it seems like the best thing to do is continue having the big dick guy over, since she enjoys it so much. But only when you are there to play with them and share in her big dick joy. This way it's a shared experience which you can both take pleasure in......her feeling that amazing dick and you seeing her reactions and expressions of pleasure when she is. You stated that you really did get off when you saw her on cam taking that beast. The trick is being involved in her delight. And I'll bet after some time the "newness" of experiencing the big black snake will subside and she will focus more on the man she loves who was able to allow her to experience such feelings and share them with her. Good luck.


That's pretty much what I've been thinking. Thanks.

She's gone out of her way lately to make it quite clear that she loves me above all else and this is just a frolic. I've been getting enormous amounts of attention lately. :wink: She's also made it clear that she's perfectly fine to drop it altogether. I think I need closure on this more than she does.
 

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Also...NEVER have a 3rd person with your partner without being there in person!!!! That sounds stupid to me! One reason we stopped trying to find 3rd partners was the fear of happening upon some psycho...see the film "Looking for Mr. Goodbar" or remember "Fatal Attraction." You absolutely MUST be there in person the first time, even the first three times. PERIOD.

And this coming from someone who has no problem with your lifestyle, someone who knows it can be wonderful. But please, audition these guys in person, yourself. Okay? Establish a relationship on a personal level BEFORE allowing them to come in solo.


Yep. That was definitely a bad call on our part and will not be repeated. Ever!
 

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Reading your story puts knots in my stomach. I am convinced that I'm not big enough (I'm 7" x 5.75") and that my girl is going to go out and find someone else with a bigger dick. I'm terrified of exactly what you described, that no matter what I do someone else could fuck her better. You're a better man than I though because due to my own insecurities I could never have a MFM threesome.
 

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Reading your story puts knots in my stomach. I am convinced that I'm not big enough (I'm 7" x 5.75") and that my girl is going to go out and find someone else with a bigger dick. I'm terrified of exactly what you described, that no matter what I do someone else could fuck her better. You're a better man than I though because due to my own insecurities I could never have a MFM threesome.

Someone with this kind of reaction (there were several others above like this, as well) is actually the most likely candidate for eventually trying this. It is exactly how I felt before... when I got to the point where I did try it, it was a way of overcoming the "knots." I was always terrified of my g/f finding someone bigger after it happened to me with my second serious g/f (you can look up other posts by me if you want to find out about it, and I even wrote a couple of fiction stories based on her doing this to me, only took it into a positive fantasy realm of sorts).

After her, I decided with the girl who later became my wife that the only way to be sure this would NOT happen was to insist that if she had ANY desire for a bigger dick, it had to be with me there and that she should be completely open about telling me. It worked, though there were rough spots when she sneaked out and was afraid to tell me. When she was honest, it was fine.
 

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Yesterday I mentioned to my wife the idea of bringing back the big black cock for one more playdate and see how it goes from there. She thought it was a bad idea and said she wants to focus on just us until we're back to 100%. I've learned to trust her instincts so I'm dropping the idea for now.

My concern is that I can't help obsessing about it. I've been away from home for two weeks now and typically I jack off at least once a day when I'm on my own. Usually when we're on the phone together. But for the past two weeks I've been having problems and, while I normally have an erection at the drop of a hat, I can't seem to generate much interest down there at the moment.

I'm back home next Thursday morning for three weeks then gone again from Dec 12th-23rd. Wish I good get my junk back in the game but just not feeling 'up to it' right now. I keep thinking about her having this intense experience that I'm completely outside of.

Yeah, I'm a babbling idiot right now. Just venting.
 

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Yesterday I mentioned to my wife the idea of bringing back the big black cock for one more playdate and see how it goes from there. She thought it was a bad idea and said she wants to focus on just us until we're back to 100%. I've learned to trust her instincts so I'm dropping the idea for now.

My concern is that I can't help obsessing about it. I've been away from home for two weeks now and typically I jack off at least once a day when I'm on my own. Usually when we're on the phone together. But for the past two weeks I've been having problems and, while I normally have an erection at the drop of a hat, I can't seem to generate much interest down there at the moment.

I'm back home next Thursday morning for three weeks then gone again from Dec 12th-23rd. Wish I good get my junk back in the game but just not feeling 'up to it' right now. I keep thinking about her having this intense experience that I'm completely outside of.

Yeah, I'm a babbling idiot right now. Just venting.

Maybe you're conflicted. You can get it all sorted out. I think that you have started something that may end your sexual relationship with your wife. You had better squash the notion of that guy banging your wife.
 

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Maybe you're conflicted. You can get it all sorted out. I think that you have started something that may end your sexual relationship with your wife. You had better squash the notion of that guy banging your wife.


I'm definitely conflicted. But it's a lot more complicated than that. I doubt very much that this will end our sexual relationship. She's been very vocal about how much she's enjoyed all of the oral attention from me lately (and that's one area that I've always excelled at). If you knew us you would understand that it's not a mater of IF we will have others join us, but WHEN and WHO and whether it will be the big black cock or someone new.
 

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Enlighten me. A guy with a greater ability to get your wife off (as perceived by you) is causing you to feel inadequate(?) and therefore unable to get an erection? Or is it something elese causing the difficulty?
 

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Well I don;t think it is easy ..so I am just giving you an idea .that you can consider , taking the latest development into account. I have not read them all

You could arranage a MFMF foursome or watching with a younger Woman . Maybe this woman and the big guy will hit it off and then u can both watch them f**K.
Hopefully they will and then you can f**k ur wife and let the others f**k one another and walk away out of ur life.

Cheers and good luck and ...I would never allow another guy to f**k my partner without a condom...Maybe you should make that a new rule!
I don;t care what savety has been taken. Just the priniciple..I am not sure I would allow it with a condom , but if given enough liberties could be convinced.
 

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Enlighten me. A guy with a greater ability to get your wife off (as perceived by you) is causing you to feel inadequate(?) and therefore unable to get an erection? Or is it something elese causing the difficulty?

I'm not bothered by the fact that he has a "greater ability" so much as that she had what she said was the most intense sexual experience of her life and I missed out on it. The whole reason we started having others join us for play was to experience this together as an enhancement to our sex life. There have been others that I would say have a greater ability than me to get her off but that's never bothered me. I just look at it as that they have a 'different' ability and she and I have always loved sharing those moments and reflecting on them later. We've had some hot sex that involved talk of past partners.

This may sound really stupid but it's kind of like if I missed out on the birth of one of our kids or something. There's this major event sitting out there that's firmly etched in her mind and I'm completely disassociated from it. But, as opposed to an event like giving birth, this is something we DO have the opportunity to repeat and share together. But Skull might be onto something when he said, "sometimes your darkest fear is your deepest fantasy!" I'm afraid that pursuing this could result in a huge train wreck.

I want to just forget the whole mess and move on. But every time my cock starts to stir it creeps back into my mind and I get a sick feeling in my gut.

I understand how ridiculous that is. But that's the way it is right now.
 

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I don't think purusing it will be a train wreck as long as she plays by the rules of having you present going forward.

This is just like falling off a horse or taking a spill on a bicycle, motorcyle, snowboard, etc. Stop dwelling on it and move forward in life.

If you need something grander than this guy bring home as many big cocked guys from LPSG as your wife (and you) can handle. Throw a gangbang party fuckfest that will leave her totally spent and bowlegged for a month. You'll forget about that other minor event in a minute.
 

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so just join her with the big guy once she's returned to a place where you two are 100% as you put it. you're saying the source of your angst is from not having been there when she had her greatest experience sexually, so remedy that. of course time can also heal this, i've gone through periods of MASSIVE obessing over sexual situations and they do in fact fade with time, just keep your #1 priority in mind the whole time, your relationship with your wife and your wife alone. sounds like if she's not wanting to bring mr. big guy back in yet thats where her priority is and that's a huge help for you both. but once you are back together, for you, you probably need to have him back to you can get that monkey off your back.
 

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so just join her with the big guy once she's returned to a place where you two are 100% as you put it. you're saying the source of your angst is from not having been there when she had her greatest experience sexually, so remedy that. of course time can also heal this, i've gone through periods of MASSIVE obessing over sexual situations and they do in fact fade with time, just keep your #1 priority in mind the whole time, your relationship with your wife and your wife alone. sounds like if she's not wanting to bring mr. big guy back in yet thats where her priority is and that's a huge help for you both. but once you are back together, for you, you probably need to have him back to you can get that monkey off your back.


I think instead of having him back (might be tough emotionally for both her and me) I'll suggest that TOGETHER we find another guy who's even better than him. That might take awhile but it will be fun trying!

Damn, just thinking about that is getting me hard. :biggrin1:
 

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true, this is true. but the poor big black guy, think of his needs ;-)

kidding, but hoping you can find another that touches her that special way
 

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A final note:

I just read a thread called "Wife cheated with a MASSIVE guy" and the author was throwing some kind of fit which I couldn't quite follow. But he seemed to be attempting to insult many people here.

I just want to go on record as saying that when I had a serious crisis to deal with I looked around the net for a place to talk about it. It wasn't a topic I wanted to share with my brother (who has always been a great confidant) or any of my close friends. Somehow I stumbled upon this forum and I was quite surprised to find such a great community of mature, articulate, good-natured people.

I'm much more at peace now having shared my story and received your valuable insights in return. I probably won't be returning here after I go back to my wife tomorrow. Time to close this chapter and move on.

So I'll leave you with this....

THANK YOU! :biggrin1:

Have fun out there and be safe.

-Pseudo
 
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