Coupled Gay Guys: Describe Your Sex Life

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I want to hear about the sex lives of guys who are in long-term relationships with guys. At least 6 months, not necessarily monogamous.

Describe your sex life however you see fit.

Some areas of interest...
  • What kind of sex do you have? How often?
  • What's the hottest sex you have together?
  • What fantasies and kinks have you explored with your partner? What led you to explore those fantasies?
  • How has your sex life changed over time? What led to the change change?
  • How much do you talk about sex outside of your sex life?
  • What about sex with guys outside the relationship? Three-ways, side-pieces, cuckolding, cheating?
  • How have you stayed fulfilled (or not) over the course of your relationship?
  • What's the role of porn, erotica, webcamming or chatting in your sex life? Do you ever enjoy it alongside your partner?
I'm a gay guy in my mid-20s, this is just for my curiosity. I think others might find the responses interesting.
 
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  • What kind of sex do you have? How often? Just normal sex nothing special anymore, 2 times in a month.
  • What's the hottest sex you have together? At the Gay Bathhouse with some guys watching, that was hot as fuck.
  • What fantasies and kinks have you explored with your partner? What led you to explore those fantasies? Everything, he is my first Boyfriend.
  • How has your sex life changed over time? What led to the change change? At the beginning we had sex everytime and everywhere, now after 7 years of relationship it changed to 2 times in a month because of work and things like that.
  • How much do you talk about sex outside of your sex life? Ohh everytime with friends.
  • What about sex with guys outside the relationship? Three-ways, side-pieces, cuckolding, cheating?
    In my thoughts I would like to have an open partnership, I would like to try it out with others. But I would never ask my friend about that. But still I would like to feel and suck another cock.
  • How have you stayed fulfilled (or not) over the course of your relationship? Im really happy, he is my soulmate
  • What's the role of porn, erotica, webcamming or chatting in your sex life? Do you ever enjoy it alongside your partner? Im a webcam model and onlyfans creator (only solo content) my boyfriend knows about that and it is ok for him.
    But he doesn't want to participate.

 

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  • What kind of sex do you have? How often? Pretty basic vanilla sex in the bedroom. We've been together for 11 years, our sex life is down to once or twice a month.
  • What's the hottest sex you have together? We met at an adult bookstore. We went into the theater area and he fucked me in the middle of the room. It was very dark down there and I couldn't see much, I don't think there was anybody else down there but I don't know. When we were done, he gave me his phone number and I called him a week later. That is how we met.
  • What fantasies and kinks have you explored with your partner? What led you to explore those fantasies? We have pretty basic sex, nothing too exciting. The most we do is we will sometimes use some dildos on each other. One time we did go to a different adult bookstore and we both sucked off a guy together. It was pretty hot. But we haven't done that again.
  • How has your sex life changed over time? What led to the change change? The first few years, we had sex everyday, multiple times on some days. Now, we have sex once or twice a month.
  • How much do you talk about sex outside of your sex life? All the time. We often will check out men together. Even though we don't have a lot of sex, we talk about it a lot.
  • What about sex with guys outside the relationship? Three-ways, side-pieces, cuckolding, cheating? We live an hour apart. At one point, we decided to open up the relationship. I have a pretty active sex life outside of the relationship. I think he has a fuck buddy (or maybe two) that he sees occasionally. But the only time we had a 3way was when we sucked that guy off at the bookstore. I've hinted about having a 3rd over, but he always avoids the subject.
  • How have you stayed fulfilled (or not) over the course of your relationship? We are very content with each other in our relationship. I couldn't imagine anybody else I would want to spend the rest of my life with. He is the love of my life and I would do anything for him. We have both took interest in each others hobbies. And we have found a few other things we both enjoy.
  • What's the role of porn, erotica, webcamming or chatting in your sex life? Do you ever enjoy it alongside your partner? We watch porn together sometimes, but we have different taste in men. So it is hard to find porn the pleases both of us. Needless to say, we don't watch porn together very often.
 

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I’m totally in love with my boyfriend and we’re compatible in every way except sexually. He’s never had a casual hookup and I love sex parties. We have sex about once a week. He would like it more but I get bored with the same person. I go online and read true hookup stories and then fantasize about them when having sex with the BF. I wish he were into casual sex as well and we could have threeways together but it’s not his thing.
 
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I’m totally in love with my boyfriend and we’re compatible in every way except sexually. He’s never had a casual hookup and I love sex parties. We have sex about once a week. He would like it more but I get bored with the same person. I go online and read true hookup stories and then fantasize about them when having sex with the BF. I wish he were into casual sex as well and we could have threeways together but it’s not his thing.

Is he at all unnerved by your wandering interests?
 
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If folks only have sex two times a month, what do they do for the other required ejaculations? Can't image cumming only two times a month.
 

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  • What kind of sex do you have? How often? All kinds. we are both mainly bottoms though he mainly fucks me or we fist each other.
  • What's the hottest sex you have together? Any time we are together the sex is hot.
  • What fantasies and kinks have you explored with your partner? What led you to explore those fantasies? We are both leather pups (and I am also a Furry). We both have a love of big toys, especially bad-dragon, and fisting. We enjoy the sexual exploration of the male body.
  • How has your sex life changed over time? What led to the change change? It's pretty much been the same over the year we've been together. I spend the weekends with him and we travel together and lift at the gym together. He is non-monogamous like me but not as hypersexual socially as I am. That is, I will be the one more likely to be fond getting railed in the corner of a bar.
  • How much do you talk about sex outside of your sex life? All the time. It is a part of being a healthy male.
  • What about sex with guys outside the relationship? Three-ways, side-pieces, cuckolding, cheating? We both view monogamy as a phony social construct that equates Love and sex. This has created a toxic environment for most human relationships as they are based on jealousy and physical ownership of the other when Love is a spiritual and emotional commitment that surpasses the physical. Plus, sexual monogamy is the rare exception, not the rule among mammals. We have been to events like Pig Week in Fort Lauderdale together and he has served as cameraman on several of my porn shoots. We play together as well as separate.
  • How have you stayed fulfilled (or not) over the course of your relationship? Our relationship works because sex is not an issue and with it all the toxic jealousy that comes with that pseudo-moral baggage is thus removed. We enjoy each other's company on every level.
  • What's the role of porn, erotica, webcamming or chatting in your sex life? Do you ever enjoy it alongside your partner? I work in the sex industry (JaredEriksonXXX) and produce my own justforfans content. He has been cameraman on several of my porn shoots and enjoys seeing my getting used by other guys.
 
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[*]What kind of sex do you have? How often? - most days, often twice a day (morning/evening) pretty vanilla as he's newish still to gay sex but getting braver and letting me fuck him harder
[*]What's the hottest sex you have together? - when we've been texting each other during the day and he comes back from the gym all pumped up, I literally have to jump his bones and fuck his brains out - he likes it
[*]What fantasies and kinks have you explored with your partner? What led you to explore those fantasies? - not much yet, we've cammed ourselves and watched back which just led to more sex
[*]How has your sex life changed over time? What led to the change change? - we've only been together a year, he's much younger and was a virgin when we met, so we've gone from being very gentle and working on his trusting me to look after him to bareback and him occasionally taking the lead (I like it when he does)
[*]How much do you talk about sex outside of your sex life? - we have many other interests outside of sex so its not our main topic of conversation at all, but we do talk about sex pretty often, what we'd like to try, what we like/don't like, and after watching any porn whether we'd like to try
[*]What about sex with guys outside the relationship? Three-ways, side-pieces, cuckolding, cheating? - he doesn't want it, and i'm completely against it having been cheated on myself - i'm monogamous and cheating would mean it was over completely. Consensual 3 ways we've discussed but neither are up for it (but who knows in the future, never say never)
[*]How have you stayed fulfilled (or not) over the course of your relationship? - still early days for us, we both have our own full lives (covid excepted of course) own friends etc so we have interests outside our sexual side, non sexually we literally just chat about everything, we've a very open communication style
[*]What's the role of porn, erotica, webcamming or chatting in your sex life? Do you ever enjoy it alongside your partner? - yup we've watched porn together, sometimes we've ended up laughing or grossed out, usually just makes us even more horny so we fuck. But don't actually watch that much

I'm a gay guy of 55 my bf is 24
 
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  • We both view monogamy as a phony social construct that equates Love and sex. This has created a toxic environment for most human relationships as they are based on jealousy and physical ownership of the other when Love is a spiritual and emotional commitment that surpasses the physical. Plus, sexual monogamy is the rare exception, not the rule among mammals.

Agree 100%. Never been into the 'stuck together like glue' kind of relationship overseen by jealousy. Too many people can't separate love and sex. Certainly in the nudist scene, sex is just another social activity that guys might do together.
 

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I'm going to skip the details.
We met 32 years ago when AIDS was killing many of our friends, most of his (yes 100+ friends).
We were always completely safe.

We were always completely monogamous.

We at first watched porn together and jerked together, but then when I was going through some major stress with work and parent dying, he started watching porn alone. After that we watched porn in different rooms, which makes me very sad to think about now.

We never fucked because of the scare from AIDS.

Then he had operations that left him on crutches and in great pain. Then he had infections that almost killed him, several times. And now he doesn't want to be touched sexually and he's decidedly unsexy too.

So we haven't had any definition of sex in over 20 years. I started having regular FBs about 7 years ago. He gave me permission but doesn't like it or want to know.

With COVID, even FBs are impossible to think about.

We are legally married, I dearly love him, but sex us out of the question.