Couples, Who Really Posts?
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Great, but you aren’t identified as a couple, and in our Ask A sections (man, straight man, bi man, gay man, woman, transgender, asexual, couple) only the identified group may respond. Along with the original poster.
But, to fluff the question, a lesbian couple posts often in some Fet Life groups I’m in. They are the only ones who ever I’d who is answering, and that’s only one of them. On other forms, it’s really, really been obvious the male half of a het couple is posting.
But, to fluff the question, a lesbian couple posts often in some Fet Life groups I’m in. They are the only ones who ever I’d who is answering, and that’s only one of them. On other forms, it’s really, really been obvious the male half of a het couple is posting.
We just joined here as a het couple but had been registered as two different users on other sites. So far, I would say we have both contributed equally in terms of posts.
I think when it’s important to know who is speaking, we will identify ourselves. And sometimes it’s really obvious, like if he mentions being tall or I speak of my love for Oreos. But most of the time we share the same viewpoints (except for our opinions on seafood) and speak as a representative of the “team,” so we don’t feel it’s necessary to identify which of us is posting.
I think when it’s important to know who is speaking, we will identify ourselves. And sometimes it’s really obvious, like if he mentions being tall or I speak of my love for Oreos. But most of the time we share the same viewpoints (except for our opinions on seafood) and speak as a representative of the “team,” so we don’t feel it’s necessary to identify which of us is posting.
Great, but you aren’t identified as a couple, and in our Ask A sections (man, straight man, bi man, gay man, woman, transgender, asexual, couple) only the identified group may respond. Along with the original poster
We both post, Mr's C the majority 
Mr C.
Mr C.
Nothing about us is intended to be deceptive - tbubs and I just like being here together - we often are on at the same time - and probably post pretty equally - if it is ask a woman only she will answer - ask a man only I will, but both of us are here
What are we awaiting @Mr. LPSG ‘s word on? Whether the female half of this couple (Tbubs) can answer in the ask a woman thread, and the male half (faust) can answer in the ask a man thread?
Not taking anything personally, just wasn’t sure what we were getting clarified.
I think when Faust said that he was trying to point out that you could tell by the use of pronouns in the first post which one of us was speaking. Just like now.
Yes tbubs - that was exactly the point. Thank you baby.
We are happy not to post where there might be a "guess who" schtick - we are not here to be a schtick - just to hang out together. I can assure you that if you want to ask us anything and it is targeted at one or the other of us, that person will answer.
We are happy not to post where there might be a "guess who" schtick - we are not here to be a schtick - just to hang out together. I can assure you that if you want to ask us anything and it is targeted at one or the other of us, that person will answer.
Though I guess we could be considered mainly a hetro couple, even though my wife is bi-situational and while I have no present desire to explore the other side, I would also never rule it out since she has expressed a desire to watch.
But anyway, despite the fact this site seems uncomfortable with the concept of couples and one can not official identify as such, we should be considered as such even though I, the male half, does all the posting. My wife is aware of my posting and allows me to share any pictures of her as she enjoys the attention and the fact men (or women) still find her attractive at her age. Although I make her aware of any relevant comments her photos might generate she is more comfortable letting me take the lead as she has no interest in online social media sites nor has strong writing skills. So any posts made will be my thoughts and words alone and any questions can only be directed at me.
So while I should only technically be allowed to post in what ever relevant "ask a" section that a straight male is allowed to, seeing as how the whole crux of the recent couples controversy seemed to be focused on those threads, I have vowed just to stay out of all of them to avoid the drama.
But anyway, despite the fact this site seems uncomfortable with the concept of couples and one can not official identify as such, we should be considered as such even though I, the male half, does all the posting. My wife is aware of my posting and allows me to share any pictures of her as she enjoys the attention and the fact men (or women) still find her attractive at her age. Although I make her aware of any relevant comments her photos might generate she is more comfortable letting me take the lead as she has no interest in online social media sites nor has strong writing skills. So any posts made will be my thoughts and words alone and any questions can only be directed at me.
So while I should only technically be allowed to post in what ever relevant "ask a" section that a straight male is allowed to, seeing as how the whole crux of the recent couples controversy seemed to be focused on those threads, I have vowed just to stay out of all of them to avoid the drama.
I have a partner. They are aware of LPSG. I mention them frequently. I discuss site happening with them. Mine is not a couples account.
If you do all the posting, it's your account. Period. Lookit all the dudes sharing photos of random necked women they find on the internet... is that a couple account because it's a dude sharing a chicks pics? No. It's a male account.
Based on your statement above, I'm really confused as to why you think a couple account is appropriate. (Not that it matters because there is no couple designation) It's your thoughts and your words and questions will only be answered by you. Where's there any couple or us/we in that? It's not there. Bottom line, she's your muse. It's your showing off your wife with her permission. And I fully support that! Really, whatever consenting adults do I'm good with! I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you and your wife get enjoyment out of sharing her photos. Y'all do y'all.. just be transparent.
I've stated in other threads that if a couple is sharing a laptop and enjoying the site together and collaborating on answers, I don't have an inherent knicker-twist with the couple designation. Interaction with that account is interaction with the couple collectively. It's not talking to the man this time and the woman the next. It's always the "we". I DO have an issue with not knowing who I'm interacting with at that moment. I just am at a loss to understand why the couple designation is such a hangup for some individuals... individuals who happen to have a significant other.
Based on your statement above, I'm really confused as to why you think a couple account is appropriate. (Not that it matters because there is no couple designation) It's your thoughts and your words and questions will only be answered by you. Where's there any couple or us/we in that? It's not there. Bottom line, she's your muse. It's your showing off your wife with her permission. And I fully support that! Really, whatever consenting adults do I'm good with! I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you and your wife get enjoyment out of sharing her photos. Y'all do y'all.. just be transparent.
I've stated in other threads that if a couple is sharing a laptop and enjoying the site together and collaborating on answers, I don't have an inherent knicker-twist with the couple designation. Interaction with that account is interaction with the couple collectively. It's not talking to the man this time and the woman the next. It's always the "we". I DO have an issue with not knowing who I'm interacting with at that moment. I just am at a loss to understand why the couple designation is such a hangup for some individuals... individuals who happen to have a significant other.
1 cannot identify as a couple.
2 members with their own accounts can and do.
Personally I'm not comfortable with the thought of a woman being here but not EVER speaking her own mind for her own self. I'm more than happy to have more couples here, just with their own individual accounts so we know who we're talking to and so everyone is actually speaking for themselves.
There's just no reason both parties can't have their own accounts. The reasoning of "she doesn't get harassed if the pics are on my profile"... So you/she don't want her reading the filthy things posted about her but you reading it is ok? I know people are still saying what they're gonna say, the comments are still made. Her not seeing it and responding to it herself is ideal? I don't understand how that works.
Other than Tbubs and Faust every couple from SF has basically admitted that she's never the one posting. So how is that a "couple"? It's not. It's just a man with pics of his partner on his profile.
Wanna post as a couple? Make her a profile and let her talk to us herself.
Thank you for your honesty and I do appreciate your understanding. One of the reasons I had an issue with the other thread on this topic is because I felt there were some members there who weren't as supporting in how those who were "pro-couple" felt and because I came three days late to a thread that had already blown up and run it's course, that by the time I expressed my opinion the full weight of that over-and-done controversy came down on me and I was accused of being "rambling" (being an amateur writer I can be detailed and will usually not just pop off a single paragraph response) non-sensical and wanting everyone to bend to my will. The truth of the matter was, unlike some, I actually did read the reasons of those who were against the designation and considered them and based upon the logic, reluctantly agreed they were (and still are) right even if it meant deciding against my own preferences.
One of the main reasons on my agreement was what you and others have brought up in that it is too confusing when two people post on one account and one never knows who the "voice" is at anyone time. This is one of the reasons I am upfront about the fact that even though I identify as a couple, it is only ever me that is doing the posting and will mostly use the "I', but will sometimes revert to the "we" if it is something I'm referring to the both of us. Anyone who knew me and read my posts at the other site knew they were always reading the posts of a male and communicating with said gender just because they did take the time to get to know me and were not just speculating from a label or lack thereof. I never posted like I was two different people posting at different times nor made any attempt to be deceptive on who I was.
So I guess the main reason in my case I sometimes refer to myself as a couple is more of convenience and to actually disprove any deception, rather than feed into it. What I mean by that is the fact already mentioned in that I sometimes post pictures of my wife (or the both of us). Back at the old site, when sometimes a new male member would post pics of his wife or girlfriend there would be a cast of certain regulars (mostly women) who would question them over if he had permission from the other person to do so, sometimes even forming into a page or two long debate about it. Although I was never openly confronted over it and I did understand the skepticism since there was no shortage of fakes and posting of pics taking from other sites; yet at the same time I felt the kneejerk reaction cast suspicion on any man posting and I know I can easily tell a fake over true amateur photos.
Based upon the fact I've already seen that attitude existing over here among some, to me the advantage of a couple label would go a long way to heading off those assumptions and by having both people have to verify together in one picture, any left over assumptions would be totally invalid. I guess there's also the fact that being together over 30 years has a habit of making certain couples feel more as a collective than an individual and it's a hard habit to break
.So to me it has more to do with staving off the critics more than anything else and I am not hung up on the label or the lack of it. The other side has made and won their case and I have not only accepted it, but yielded to the logic. With the exception of this minor pothole, I have enjoyed this site very much and the majority of the existing members I have interacted with have been great and very welcoming. I am glad to be here and hope I can prove I'm not the unreasonable person some may have tried to
portray me as. Thank you once again for trying to understand my point of view and I hope to see you around
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