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THIS IS A LONG & DETAILED POST!
I'm looking for a female perspective on this situation, but guys can answer too.
Over the past year I've become really good friends with the Receptionist at the office I work at. We often have lunch together and stop by each others office to talk. We tend to be quite open and honest with each other in our discussions. She has been with her boyfriend since college and I've met the guy a few times over dinner and concerts, etc.
Last week she started being really flirty with me and she wasn't hiding or apologizing for it in any way (not that I'd want her to). For example, I was running cables through her office (I work in the I.T. Dept.) and I was under her desk with my ass poking out.
She walks into her office and says, "*Whistles* Damn its about time I got some entertainment in this office, shake it for me."
I laughed and shook my ass as I said hi to her.
She then says, "If anybody asks for you I'll tell them that they can find you under my desk," as she sits in her chair and pulls up close to her desk (and me) so that I couldn't back out.
Later that day she was in our boss' office, so I walked up to the door and began talking to her as though she was our boss saying, "Marie is harassing me and I'm not sure what to do.....since I'm enjoying it." We burst out in laughter and as she was walking past me she said, "You know you want it."
I actually didn't know how to respond to that, she was being really bold and continued to get even more bold as the week progressed. I was confused by her words and actions towards me until 2 days ago when she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend just over a week ago & moved out. She told me about the break up and that I was the 1st person she had talked to about it besides her sisters who helped her move out. I could tell that she was feeling quite down after explaining things to me, so I asked her to join me for lunch at a Sushi Restaurant. Since I invited her, I told her lunch was on me and she said, "Why don't we share? It will be cute,".
Instead of sitting across from me, she sat next to me as we ate and talked. When we were done she hugged me, which is something that she has never done in the time that I have known her.
She just got a new phone and she emailed me telling me to text her so she can add my number to her phone. I sent her a funny text message with my name so she'd know it was me and she responded with "Didn't we date a few days ago? lol".
I didn't actually think of our lunches as dates, so I replied, "You must have seen the future, because I haven't even asked you out yet."
Should I pursue something with her, especially so soon after her breakup?
I want to respect her and give her some space, but at the same time she seems to want more face time with me than ever before.
Am I assuming too much? Should I just wait for her to make the next move before saying anything? And the obvious question, should I date a coworker? We know other coworkers have dated in our office.
*UPDATE* She added me to her new FaceBook account and she wants to join me for a drink next weekend.
I'm looking for a female perspective on this situation, but guys can answer too.
Over the past year I've become really good friends with the Receptionist at the office I work at. We often have lunch together and stop by each others office to talk. We tend to be quite open and honest with each other in our discussions. She has been with her boyfriend since college and I've met the guy a few times over dinner and concerts, etc.
Last week she started being really flirty with me and she wasn't hiding or apologizing for it in any way (not that I'd want her to). For example, I was running cables through her office (I work in the I.T. Dept.) and I was under her desk with my ass poking out.
She walks into her office and says, "*Whistles* Damn its about time I got some entertainment in this office, shake it for me."
I laughed and shook my ass as I said hi to her.
She then says, "If anybody asks for you I'll tell them that they can find you under my desk," as she sits in her chair and pulls up close to her desk (and me) so that I couldn't back out.
Later that day she was in our boss' office, so I walked up to the door and began talking to her as though she was our boss saying, "Marie is harassing me and I'm not sure what to do.....since I'm enjoying it." We burst out in laughter and as she was walking past me she said, "You know you want it."
I actually didn't know how to respond to that, she was being really bold and continued to get even more bold as the week progressed. I was confused by her words and actions towards me until 2 days ago when she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend just over a week ago & moved out. She told me about the break up and that I was the 1st person she had talked to about it besides her sisters who helped her move out. I could tell that she was feeling quite down after explaining things to me, so I asked her to join me for lunch at a Sushi Restaurant. Since I invited her, I told her lunch was on me and she said, "Why don't we share? It will be cute,".
Instead of sitting across from me, she sat next to me as we ate and talked. When we were done she hugged me, which is something that she has never done in the time that I have known her.
She just got a new phone and she emailed me telling me to text her so she can add my number to her phone. I sent her a funny text message with my name so she'd know it was me and she responded with "Didn't we date a few days ago? lol".
I didn't actually think of our lunches as dates, so I replied, "You must have seen the future, because I haven't even asked you out yet."
Should I pursue something with her, especially so soon after her breakup?
I want to respect her and give her some space, but at the same time she seems to want more face time with me than ever before.
Am I assuming too much? Should I just wait for her to make the next move before saying anything? And the obvious question, should I date a coworker? We know other coworkers have dated in our office.
*UPDATE* She added me to her new FaceBook account and she wants to join me for a drink next weekend.
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