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Hey, so I know this is stupid/ that I'm stupid for allowing myself to get to this situation but anyways here it goes:
A year ago, I started working for a company and began training. The woman who trained me (a year younger than me) turned out to be one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen (you know, the type that makes you catch your breath...I know how cheesy it is, but when I see her every morning it brightens my day). It didn't hurt either when I found out we went to the same school together, and that she's incredibly, incredibly intelligent. We also share a great deal of personality characteristics. Over the past year, we've become extremely close. We get lunch together every day, text/talk all day during work and after, and also spend a great deal of time hanging out after work. I don't think I've actually spent alone time with one woman to the extent that I spend it with her.
Now here's the part where I'm an idiot: Naturally, this girl has a boyfriend. Not only that; she lives with this boyfriend. She's heading off to grad school this June, most likely, and has told me she's only ever gotten into long term relationships. She also has mentioned before how she doesn't see her current boyfriend being a serious thing. He of course doesn't like me, because I hang out with her so much.
I've never made any sort of move on this friend. I DO NOT want to be a home wrecker, or fuck up my chances of being with her down the road. I literally could see myself going really far with her. But for now, everything action I've made has only been on the friendship level, I've not pushed it further even when there were chances (for holiday party, all of us had our own hotels, she was in mine, alone and we were drinking).
Here's the thing; she's going to be leaving work/I will too, in the next few months. I'm not going to have that everyday rapport with her, which will be really saddening for both of us (we talked about it). Do I tell her how I feel? Or should I continue this, as we both promised to hang out with each other even when we're gone and bide my time?
I don't want to miss out with this girl. I hate saying 'she's the one', but honestly I never tire of her, and at the rate that we hang out, it seems she finds me the same. Sorry for bothering you with all this, but I'm just reaching out.
Thanks
A year ago, I started working for a company and began training. The woman who trained me (a year younger than me) turned out to be one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen (you know, the type that makes you catch your breath...I know how cheesy it is, but when I see her every morning it brightens my day). It didn't hurt either when I found out we went to the same school together, and that she's incredibly, incredibly intelligent. We also share a great deal of personality characteristics. Over the past year, we've become extremely close. We get lunch together every day, text/talk all day during work and after, and also spend a great deal of time hanging out after work. I don't think I've actually spent alone time with one woman to the extent that I spend it with her.
Now here's the part where I'm an idiot: Naturally, this girl has a boyfriend. Not only that; she lives with this boyfriend. She's heading off to grad school this June, most likely, and has told me she's only ever gotten into long term relationships. She also has mentioned before how she doesn't see her current boyfriend being a serious thing. He of course doesn't like me, because I hang out with her so much.
I've never made any sort of move on this friend. I DO NOT want to be a home wrecker, or fuck up my chances of being with her down the road. I literally could see myself going really far with her. But for now, everything action I've made has only been on the friendship level, I've not pushed it further even when there were chances (for holiday party, all of us had our own hotels, she was in mine, alone and we were drinking).
Here's the thing; she's going to be leaving work/I will too, in the next few months. I'm not going to have that everyday rapport with her, which will be really saddening for both of us (we talked about it). Do I tell her how I feel? Or should I continue this, as we both promised to hang out with each other even when we're gone and bide my time?
I don't want to miss out with this girl. I hate saying 'she's the one', but honestly I never tire of her, and at the rate that we hang out, it seems she finds me the same. Sorry for bothering you with all this, but I'm just reaching out.
Thanks