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So, I've found myself falling in love with my coworker. Little backstory is that I am a gay married man. I'm about 10 years older than this coworker. We flirt, but he appears to be straight, although when asking him point blank whether he's gay he won't answer and say that he doesn't like labels. He doesn't seem turned off by my blantent flirting with him and I have admitted to him that I am attracted to him and infatuated with him.

Any thoughts on what to do? Any stories of your own work romance?
 

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Making any advances towards a coworker is most likely going to be nothing more than trouble at work. You will be jeopardizing your career and your relationship with your partner and your workplace. It can be a HUGE disaster.

The person you really need to be talking to is your partner. Discuss your desire or infatuation with your coworker. Discuss the boundaries the 2 of you have with your relationship. Communicating with your partner should always be the first step in a situation like this.
 

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From what you've said, all the flirting and admitting attraction wasn't enough to make him interested in pursuing more. He's probably just enjoying being hit on and liked by guys, regardless of his orientation.

Honestly move on, try to see him and talk to him less. If your marriage is still working or you want it to, this flirt isn't worth it. Most likely if you pursue this guy you won't have a boyfriend or a husband in the end.