Craigslist

[napoleon268]

How safe is craigslist for a young guy without much experience...

 

[ballaratboy]

Prob wouldn't be my first contact, personally I love it, u know what u want and where to get ir

 

[Doodlemansc]

How well do you know how to put on a condom?

 

[napoleon268]

Well. It hasn't been that hard so far haha

 

[880080]

Be careful using any of the sites man -
Philadelphia Man Murdered, Dumped In Alley Following Alleged Grindr Hookup / Queerty

 

[invisibleman]

How safe is craigslist for a young guy without much experience...

Don't do CRAIGSLIST. Especially if you live in the South...or in the Midwest.


If you are a young guy and you want to meet men...try to find a PFLAG group...a GLBTQ community center...and/or go to a local gay nightclub, IF you can.
If you aren't comfortable...or aren't able to do so at the moment...you may have to wait until you can move to an area where there is a gay community where you can get the proper support you need.

 

[PittCoupleN]

How safe is craigslist for a young guy without much experience...

Our experience suggests it's not the particular site that's safe or not but how you approach it.

If you are looking for random, quick hookups with strangers you're increasing your risk of all sorts of bad outcomes no matter where you're looking. If you put some barriers and boundaries in place and do some vetting before meeting some of those risks can be mitigated to a degree.


Regardless which site you are using ...

If you're posting ads put some specific requirements in to generate a response from you. If the person contacting you doesn't included them they're either not taking time to read and just responding to everything or they aren't respectful of your boundaries ... either way trouble ahead. Ask questions, sometimes ask the same one more than once, liars and deceitful people often can't keep track and will trip themselves up when the give different answers to the same question or won't answer at all.

If responding to ads look for red flags. Some we've learned avoid that may or may not apply because we never act precipitously and take our time setting up meetings; anyone who says not looking for "games" or "endless email exchange" which is just another way of saying "I won't make any effort to find out who I'm meeting before doing so" which at the very least means they engage in the highest of risk behaviors and likely don't take their own safety seriously and certainly won't care about yours. People who can only meet as very specific times or locations. Again, at best you're looking at someone who's on the down low and even if they don't mean you harm you could find yourself confronted by a jealous spouse/partner. At worst they could be trying to lure you to a place where you're unprepared and off your guard.

Whether posting or responding a few things we've found useful; NEVER, not ever do you give out your phones number(s) address or other personal information that could be used to locate you until you're reasonably sure the person is trustworthy with such information. Hackers, spammers, identity thieves and worse don't want to exchange e-mail they want your phone number so they can track you down, ignore anyone who is insistent on texting or talking immediately.

First meetings, perhaps more, should take place at neutral locations of your choosing or mutually agreed upon ones even if you have to bear the cost. There are many benefits to doing so beyond not walking into a trap laid by someone with ill-intent including not feeling any sense of obligation should the first meeting turn out to be with someone who's misrepresented themselves.

Unless your goal is to meet anonymously on a whim, apply some of these and come up with some of your own to maintain distance until your certain you want to meet someone and you'll be SAFER at the very least.

We've maintained accounts at many of the well known sites and truth be told our most successful encounters have resulted from Craigslist but we follow our own rules (of which these are just a few) very strictly ... their anonymous e-mail client offers one big benefit for those who use it wisely and that's the ability to vet potential partners without placing yourself at any risk.

 

[PittCoupleN]

One more thing after having read your profile ... although we all get the allure of youth, consider finding some older people, couples perhaps who are interested in helping a young fella figure out some of the stuff you're unsure of or whether you even need to figure it out to satisfy someone else agenda at all.

If someone has made it to their forties, maintained a stable relationship while having "fun" chances are they've taken care themselves, made their own safety a priority and figured out how navigate these waters successfully.

We may not be as pretty to look at but us older folk frequently like to share our learned experience and are willing to take time for everyone's benefit.

 

[craigsmith]

I do CL and in my area it is about the only way to contact anyone for sex. I have never had a problem but am very careful. I have made a few local friends on there who are married like myself and we hook up on a regular basis. They have my email and I have theirs and now that we have our small group of married men, we stick with each other. There are about 4 of us and we hang out on a regular basis and have lots of sex with each other, it is great. Our wives don't put out so we do each other and have a GREAT TIME.

 

[Bluvm]

I think you might have more luck finding something better with a site like Adam4adam.

 

[latinluva]

I wouldn't and don't do craigslist anymore. You never seem to get what you want. I still think the best place to meet a guy is when you're out and about or at an adult bookstore/arcade. At least there you can see and look at a guy, if ya like him.....you can even get a sample in the arcade area. I've met most of my lovers there and became great friends with some regulars. We'd have beers together go out and eat sometimes and fuck and suck a lot. You can pick up on the assholes fairly quick. Always be safe and good luck.


....one bad experience on craigslist, I met up with this guy, nice looking with a wonderful cock. He wanted his cock sucked and I wanted to suck it. Was a nice hook up and a few days later he emailed me again and wanted to hook up again. So I met him in a parking lot and and I was sucking his cock when I heard a loud bang on my door. His wife followed him and was yelling and screaming "faggot, bitch and other names". He got out and I took off.

 

[PittCoupleN]

Interesting that a "young guy" who lists his preference as "unsure" gets people directing him to strictly gay sites and resources.

Seems to us that someone who appears to trying to figure some stuff out should not be looking to those places for people or answers. Maybe some more information about who he's looking to meet might be useful.

 

[williamsw]

one of the big things that a lot of people post on craigslist, is sending your picture , as in "your pic gets mine". like it was mentioned in previous responses by pittcoplen, i am adding this in to the mix of responses ,sending your picture is very dangerous, with photo recognition technology on the increase , you are very vulnerable that your picture could wind up costing you your job or getting one if your company or prospective employer does a comprehensive security check on you. if the person who is posting is REAL , their are ways to connect and be safe . just like face book , i know employers do check social media . something as simple picture could ruin you .

 

[craigsmith]

This is a true story and caused problems for my little girl at school. I had hired this guy to paint my house and he was recommended by someone in the community. Since it was summer time I would get out and help him paint. He was a little odd and I thought he may be gay from his actions but never asked him about it. We never did anything and he never said anything about doing anything. My family went out of town for a week and my parents were keeping an eye on the house for us. I had a swimming pool in the back yard with a fence around it. You had to go through a locked door from the carport to get to it then over a locked gate. On the way to our trip, my parents called and said this guy was at out house with a bunch of his friends swimming in the pool. My wife and I never gave him permission to swim in the pool when we were not there. Sometimes when we were there and he had finished painting he would take a dip but that is all. They had brought beer and was using my grill to grill food etc. My parents asked them to leave and I had to call the police to keep an eye on the property since my parents lived 40 miles away and we were away. I didn't want anyone getting hurt because they could have sued us and I didn't want that. I did not file trespassing charges but told the guy the painting was done when I got back. He had just got a phone that took pictures and I was sitting at my desk without my shirt on, and he just comes in the house and takes a picture of me at the desk. I asked him why he did not knock before entering and he said he wanted to show me his new phone. After that I asked him to leave. Everyone was at home at the time and it seems strange to me but I didn't think anything about it. About 2 weeks later we were going to have a birthday party for my little girl who was in the 5th grade and none of her friends could come to the party. My wife went to the neighbors house to ask why and she said that she had found my picture on match.com asking for sex with men women. It had my picture on it she said. My wife came home and told me this so I went down there and asked her to pull it up and she could not find my picture of profile. From then on the kids at school made fun of my daughter and would not play with her. This was at a catholic school too. They were mean to her and her teachers would not even talk to her either. She home crying about it and we moved her to the public school in another town. I was able to trace this back on match.com where it was paid for on a credit card that had been discontinued from another town. I did not even know the persons name on the card. I have a feeling this guy and who ever this was on the card did this to me because of what I had done with the painting and not letting them swim in my pool. So pictures can hurt someone especially on things like this. Be careful where you put your picture. It can hurt you and your family. Just wanted to share my story with all of you.

 

[MrGoodDate]

You got that one right.

 

[williamsw]

craigsmith.... i understand and the worst part of this issue is not knowing who still has the original posted pictures . they are out somewhere in cyber space ,like i said with facial recognition being on the fast track i hope for and your family they have been deleted permanently .

 

[belowaverage1]

Interesting that a "young guy" who lists his preference as "unsure" gets people directing him to strictly gay sites and resources.

Seems to us that someone who appears to trying to figure some stuff out should not be looking to those places for people or answers. Maybe some more information about who he's looking to meet might be useful.

His post history is all gay and or dick related.

Any guy on this site being assumed gay is a good assumption.

 

[hpdd1420]

I always look for good spelling and grammar in the ad. Someone who is willing to email back and forth a while to see if we're a good fit. I avoid giving out my number and use a texting app with a separate number to keep in touch. That way I can log out of the app to avoid awkward notifications popping up at bad times. Don't ever give out a face pic and avoid someone who insists on one. I like someone who can't and doesn't want to meet up all the time. For one, desperation is not attractive, and two, it means they have a life that they likely want to protect so they're likely to be discreet. Finally, always assume everyone is exaggerating a little. Don't trust claims of a huge cock, that this is their first time, or age. If you're realistic about what to expect and careful about what you reveal about yourself, CL can lead to some fun times.

 

[belowaverage1]

^Avoid people that won't send head shots. It's a security issue.

 

[Hemicudap]

I've had some successful encounters off of CL. However, it's relatively sketchier. There are quite a few apps that make finding a date or a hookup easier.