crazy situation needs a womens perpective

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^ The third person perspective... Its a tried and true go to strategy. Helps to remove oneself from the situation.


It would help IF (and that is a HUGE "IF") Yman actually wanted help.
He's far too intent on attention seeking and, damned me, he keeps this thread alive for that exact purpose.

You're casting your pearls before swine, I'm afraid.
 

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^you know me... Tossing pearls left and right! Maybe someone will pick em up. Shame that poor fella is gonna get his heart broke. But better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.
 

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This guy never wanted advice, he had made up his mind he was going to have her at any cost before he started this thread... he's just looking for someone (anyone) to validate his decision.

So here goes: Yeah, buddy, sounds good! Fuck the girl! Hang on for years while she leads you around by your dick! Should be fun! You da man!
 

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ok update, we had a very long text conversation last night that became very sexual. The further we get into this the more confusion it becomes. I am very lost on how to handle this now?

I would say she doesn't know what she wants.

I would advise to lay back, and be her friend, but refuse anything more until she has her shit together.

its perfectly fine for you to tell her that what you want is more than a fling or a flirtation... and that she should look you up when she's ready for that...

But do not think with your dick when your heart may be involved, unless you really don't mind having it shattered.
 

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Think both of you have given me the best advice of anyone.... She does have a wild side and she does want to explore it, and she has a boyfriend who stifles her and she told me she stays in it for the security... its a touch balance. I want to be what she needs me to be.... A sounding board, a buddy, and someone to get wild with..

But I have needs too... I need a girl who is there for me too, and someone who is available to me more than once every few weeks.... This would be so much easier if I didn't like her so damm much... I think there are only 2 girls in my whole life I have felt this way for.... sigh

only 2? well, as a dear friend said to me about my own love life, you are hardly an old age pensioner!
 

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I don't know whether the OP was genuinely seeking advice or is an attention whore or some kind of combination of both. However, I'm surprised that some responses here have trouble understanding his inability to see the situation as outsiders see it or to accept advice that has been offered. This is a constant in affairs of the heart. The heart always wins over the head. We see what we want to be true, because we desperately need it to be so.