Does nothing for me at all so I'd probably be hurt especially if I'd told them it does nothing for me but continued to push it in a sexual way
So why lie and say ur asking for a friend be honest or people will refuse to answer your questions especially as a lot check a posters post historyAbout 6 years when I first started. Not full on just trying things on etc
This. All this.How long have you been hiding this from your wife?
(Drop the BS, that’s part of the problem)
personally, CD and sissy attitudes make my skin crawl. It’s not the clothes, it’s the whole vibe that being female is demeaning.
I’m trying to imagine this scenario of a guy who discovered that he would like to be in the lovely lingerie he’s been buying for his wife of, oh, say, a decade. That realization, and the shame of admitting.
I’m trying to imagine the scenario of the wife hearing him, a mix of excitement, shame and pain in his voice.
And all I feel is pain.
I’m blessed that I’ve not walked that road. I tend to like guys who aren’t so masculine identified they’d have to hide something like that. I’m pretty sure the shirt my ex wore at our wedding was designed for women, but it’s a hippy-aimed design, so was unisex. My blouse was sold as a night shirt, soooo...
I’d not be comfortable with a lot of the side stuff that I read from CD/TV folks. And so often it reads like a slide to being a “sissy” to a man.
The aspects that hit hardest are the correlation between feminine or female identified objects being seen as humiliating to a man. As if being female was a horrible thing.
They tend to say girl and not woman, too.
There’s such loathing in the lexicon.
About 6 years when I first started. Not full on just trying things on etc
ok. So, what do you get out of it? What’s the pull?
Break down for yourself why you want your wife to know.
is it informational? Do you want her involved in this particular kink?
Is there a vision of your wife as Domme somewhere in your brain?
and,
Are you trying on her items? Do you get your own? Do you use any of her intimates for masturbatory aids? If you do, what happens to them?
How do you think she will react?
Obvi, I'm not your wife and can't know if she'd respond the same way, but I can say this would not work well for me. What would work (meaning make me honestly and thoughtfully consider it) would for my OH to come to me in a vulnerable and genuine way, hoping to come to a mutually agreeable arrangement.I think part of it is I want to shock her out of her comfort zone.