Principessa
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To the best of my knowledge that has never happend to me.How often do we strongly crush on someone at the same time they're crushing on us?
Hardly ever" ?That implies you've had at least SOME success with straight ppl! I noticed that as well, puzzling isn't it. I've never had success with crushes on guys, gay or straight but the straight ones usually end up a bit perturbed by the vibes I probably give out, subconsciously, and thus even friendship becomes impossible.:redface: Sorry about that; but I think that is a normal reaction for a straight man.
Hmmm, now you've made me think . . . I hate that. :tongue: j/k Seriously, I'm beginning to wonder when the last time was that I had a crush as defined in this thread.to me, crushes are just like sexual fantasies. they add some spice to the day-to-day. the only time it's a problem is when it starts affecting your life in a bad way. i'm married too, and if i keep in perspective what i'm feeling and why, it works out fine. a lot of times it just means i need to reconnect to my husband and our relationship.
Yeah I've tried looking at it that way too and you might be 100% correct but aren't crushes - on "other people" - by their very definition reflective of a desire to connect with those people? For me a crush often has a lustful component. Or are you saying you project your desire for your husband onto other guys from time to time?
Thanks for all the responses so far! Given me quite a bit of food for thought. For me, crushes are at once fun and a pain in the @$$, because every time I've crushed on someone it's been feelings unreturned. You let them know how you felt!?!OMG! I could never, I would never.:redface: I thought the whole essence of a crush was that the other person never knew how you truly felt. It's just so depressing & counterproductive. I agree that it's interesting to know that the body can be plugged into other people so easily, but it's also disturbing that sometimes that seems to occur to the detriment of our solid, reality-based relationships. hmmm. If your crush is having an adverse effect on a real relationship then there is another issue which needs to be addressed.
I had a one night stand that turned into a full-fledged relationship once. :wink:So, a slightly different turn to this question - have you ever had a crush that turned into a full-fledged relationship? Never, but not because they turned me down. I just suffered in silence.Was this a positive or negative experience for you?? dp
I did have a major crush on John F. Kennedy Jr. and was truly despondent when he died.
When Andy Gibb died I was so overwrought I wore black to work for 3 days.