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For awhile now I have been having some fantasies of watching my girlfriend with a very well hung black male. Im sure I am not alone in this fantasy. I have told her about this and she simply told me she thinks it would be strange but maybe something we could get into in the future.

The issue I am having is sorting through what is real and what is bs. You can visit any cuck site and you will see/read about some incredibly over-the-top "real experiences". You can reach out for some advice from couples/bulls but most of what you get is people telling you "I have a 12 inch dick and I will fuck your girl senseless, now send me pics!" or wives telling you "best sex ever, bbc is so unbelievable and I am also bisexual so send me pics!!". It gets old.

My girlfriend (soon to be fiancé if she says yes) left the door open for the future and I have to decide if it is something I want to pursue. I have to believe it would take a couple years of talking about it before it actually happens so I want to make up my mind weather or not it is something I really want to see. The sexiest thing in the world to me is when a woman has an orgasm. Its such a powerful feeling knowing I am giving her such a body trembling experience. Much of what I have read/heard is that men with a larger endowment can give women multiple orgasms in a single session and that is my motivation. I want to sit back and watch some well hung dude taking my girlfriend there over and over again. At the same time, I do not know what is legit and what is fake. I do not really want to spend time convincing her to fuck another man if the experience does not live up to the hype. Does anyone on here have some experience to draw from? I am not looking for pics or anything like that, I am just looking for some real advice/perspective on something that will have an impact on my life.
 

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Is the hype you have built up that a well endowed man will bring your girlfriend to have multiple orgasms? Of course there is no guarantee that that will happen. Not at all.

There are lots of factors that will effect how something like this goes. First and foremost, you should not do it just for your sake. A large penis wont magically bring forth hundreds of orgasms if she's not completely comfortable. And then of course there's a risk that she's just not built to enjoy a large penis.

My general experience is that women don't care too much about penis size, and that comfortability, trust and affection is much more likely to result in great sex than penis size. It always seems to get much better with time.

EDIT: I should add that I have no experience with cuckolding, so take my words as you wish.
 

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Good points. I didn't mean for it to sound like it was something I would force on her, more like something we would pursue together. I was more looking for responses about the actual experience, how it effected them, would they do it again etc. Looking at the original post, I do not think I worded it correctly.
 

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Good points. I didn't mean for it to sound like it was something I would force on her, more like something we would pursue together. I was more looking for responses about the actual experience, how it effected them, would they do it again etc. Looking at the original post, I do not think I worded it correctly.

I actually think you worded it just fine. It did not sound like it was something you would force on her in any way, but it did sound like she didn't immediately share the fantasy. That doesn't necessarily mean that she does not share it or that it's impossible that it will become a fantasy of hers as well. But people participate in fantasies to please their partner quite regularly, and I think this particular fantasy really has to be something that both parties are very much into for it to meet the desired expectations.

Also, I think it was perfectly clear that you are seeking advice from people who have actual experience in this field. I just didn't read the last part of your post thoroughly enough the first time. That's why I edited my post to make clear that I might not be the right person to take advice from here.

There seem to be plenty of people who are experienced in the field of cuckolding on this site. I'm sure some of them will be more than willing to give you some honest feedback.
 

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Sorry to troll post, but I completely don't understand this fantasy, and even if you did have the urge to see that, why any self respecting person in their right mind would act on it. I mean, you've basically verbalized to your girlfriend that you are an inferior pussy. Why??

Also, the well hung black man is a topic that's been discussed here time and time again. The idea that black males are better endowed is a myth that arose years and years ago from, you guessed it, slavery. So I don't see why you'd think black males are any better endowed than whites or any other race, or would prefer to see that.

Also, where are you reading this "multiple orgasms from a larger penis" stuff you're talking about? Almost everything I read says that yes, women may find a large penis slightly preferable either visually/mentally or perhaps physically to a degree, but not to the point where it becomes some "magic wand sent from the heavens" to give multiple orgasms.

I know, off topic here, but this cuckold shit needs to stop IMO, its just not a healthy way to act on or approach things.
 

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So ignore it. I don't understand why you feel the need to chime in if you are so against this stuff.
 

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So ignore it. I don't understand why you feel the need to chime in if you are so against this stuff.

Well if I'm against something, and happen to stumble upon it, I'm going to comment on it.

It's just wrong.

Can I ask why you think its a healthy way to approach your sex life?
 

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It isn't my whole sex life. We have great sex on a regular basis. Just something I would like for us to try. I don't know how to explain it, nor do I need too.
 

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I simply can't understand the need to randomly condemn other people's desires or sexual practices, ones that neither hurt nor oppress anyone. You and your girl friend should experiment with anything you both desire. If she is interested, obviously it is something that excites her as well.

You want to watch your girl friend with a a very hung black male. If the difference in skin color excites you, acknowledge that it is probably a kind of racism (everything in America has elements of race attached), and, if you find a willing guy, go for it. If his skin color excites your girl as well, it will probably help her have more and stronger orgasms. Getting to know him will help you learn that he is an individual and not just a "BBC"

Here is the word on cock size and women's orgasms. It depends on her. Some women love really deep penetration and the feeling of being stretched and filled by a big penis. The ability of a man to press on the deep places inside her, and stretch her vaginal tissues, creates very powerful sexual sensations. For those women, cock size is very important for possibly more numerous and more powerful orgasms. Of course psychological and emotional aspects are important as well... but for these women, physical proportions really count.

Some women are not multi-orgasmic. Some women have painful sensations with deep penetration, some women don't enjoy being stretched. For these women, a large cock is not a key to more pleasure. Whichever group your girl friend belongs to will help determine whether the experience is fun... but an uncomfortable situation won't help, so find a guy who she likes.
 

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My wife sugarlove and I are an active cuckold couple. I can tell you most of what you read and see is bs. My wife refuses to screen for new men because of the amount of bs men say to get her to chat. Then you have the men who just want to chat and not actually meet. For the female perspective my wife can tell you more but I do know she gets off better with a hung stud. The whys and how's you would have to ask her more.

On another level to maintain an already flourishing relationship we spent years working out the details. When things actually happened we had to scrap it all and just accept what was happening. It works for us but I will say with all certainty that it's not for everyone. If you want to chat feel free. I enjoy giving advice an sharing our stories.
 

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Sorry to troll post, but I completely don't understand this fantasy, and even if you did have the urge to see that, why any self respecting person in their right mind would act on it. I mean, you've basically verbalized to your girlfriend that you are an inferior pussy. Why??

Also, the well hung black man is a topic that's been discussed here time and time again. The idea that black males are better endowed is a myth that arose years and years ago from, you guessed it, slavery. So I don't see why you'd think black males are any better endowed than whites or any other race, or would prefer to see that.

Also, where are you reading this "multiple orgasms from a larger penis" stuff you're talking about? Almost everything I read says that yes, women may find a large penis slightly preferable either visually/mentally or perhaps physically to a degree, but not to the point where it becomes some "magic wand sent from the heavens" to give multiple orgasms.

I know, off topic here, but this cuckold shit needs to stop IMO, its just not a healthy way to act on or approach things.

Unhealthy is giving your opinion on a topic that doesn't suit what you enjoy sexually and telling everyone else they need to never do that because you don't like it. One of the most ignorant aspects of our society. I can't stand that state of mind and it needs to stop!
 

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Unhealthy is giving your opinion on a topic that doesn't suit what you enjoy sexually and telling everyone else they need to never do that because you don't like it. One of the most ignorant aspects of our society. I can't stand that state of mind and it needs to stop!

Oh yeah, that's a real health concern. I better ask the old Doc next time I see him if I'm sick because I have an opinion on a matter that doesn't directly affect me. Uh-oh...I'm voicing my opinion...I think I feel my dinner creeping up!

Bottom line, I just don't see how a man outwardly verbalizing to his partner that essentially, he's insufficient or unsatisfactory is at all beneficial to his confidence or well-being. How can you walk around feeling in any way competent or confident in any facet of life if you're essentially conceding to your partner that you're inadequate.

I mean, if you don't have a large penis and want one, pump it up, try jelqing, use an extender, and just accept what you have. If you think a larger penis would be beneficial in terms of orgasms or pleasure, but a toy, but for God sakes, don't let another man have sex with your wife.

I just don't see how allowing your partner to have sex with someone you deem 'superior' is at all mentally or emotionally healthy in the long run for either partner.

There are people out there with fetishes for dogs or fetishes for children. But I guess no one without those fetishes should voice their opinion on that matter, because it doesn't concern them...
 
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Oh yeah, that's a real health concern. I better ask the old Doc next time I see him if I'm sick because I have an opinion on a matter that doesn't directly affect me. Uh-oh...I'm voicing my opinion...I think I feel my dinner creeping up!

Bottom line, I just don't see how a man outwardly verbalizing to his partner that essentially, he's insufficient or unsatisfactory is at all beneficial to his confidence or well-being. How can you walk around feeling in any way competent or confident in any facet of life if you're essentially conceding to your partner that you're inadequate.

I mean, if you don't have a large penis and want one, pump it up, try jelqing, use an extender, and just accept what you have. If you think a larger penis would be beneficial in terms of orgasms or pleasure, but a toy, but for God sakes, don't let another man have sex with your wife.

I just don't see how allowing your partner to have sex with someone you deem 'superior' is at all mentally or emotionally healthy in the long run for either partner.

There are people out there with fetishes for dogs or fetishes for children. But I guess no one without those fetishes should voice their opinion on that matter, because it doesn't concern them...

So do men or women who cheat on their spouses get the same viral behavior you spew or is it strictly for consenting adults having fun sexually with everyone's permission? Just because my wife enjoys fucking other men does not make me inferior to anyone. If that is your view on the scene you are woefully ignorant.

Men who are in this lifestyle are largely college educated and highly successful. Its more of a mental fuck that people like you are unable to wrap your little minds around. It's either that or you view women as property and wouldn't "allow" her to engage in such vile behaviors. There have been seigneurs for ages. This is just a subset of swinging.

You can voice your opinion all you want but if it come back to your bottom line of not understanding how... You will never understand it and no one cares what your theories are.
 

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So do men or women who cheat on their spouses get the same viral behavior you spew or is it strictly for consenting adults having fun sexually with everyone's permission? Just because my wife enjoys fucking other men does not make me inferior to anyone. If that is your view on the scene you are woefully ignorant.

Men who are in this lifestyle are largely college educated and highly successful. Its more of a mental fuck that people like you are unable to wrap your little minds around. It's either that or you view women as property and wouldn't "allow" her to engage in such vile behaviors. There have been seigneurs for ages. This is just a subset of swinging.

You can voice your opinion all you want but if it come back to your bottom line of not understanding how... You will never understand it and no one cares what your theories are.

Fine go ahead then, be a little submissive pussy and let your partner fuck other men. I'm done trying to reason with you.

And no, women are not property, but neither are you, so you shouldn't allow her to "pick and choose" who she wants to fuck like she's deciding what pizza to order. It's part of a faithful monogamous relationship. Nobody owns anybody and nobody fucks anyone else.

But go ahead, if you want to act like your partner owns you and can fuck whoever she wants, then by all means go ahead and be the pathetic man you are.
 

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Fine go ahead then, be a little submissive pussy and let your partner fuck other men. I'm done trying to reason with you.

And no, women are not property, but neither are you, so you shouldn't allow her to "pick and choose" who she wants to fuck like she's deciding what pizza to order. It's part of a faithful monogamous relationship. Nobody owns anybody and nobody fucks anyone else.

But go ahead, if you want to act like your partner owns you and can fuck whoever she wants, then by all means go ahead and be the pathetic man you are.
At no point during any of your rambling was there anything close to an attempt to reason with anyone. My partner doesn't own me not do I own her. It's a journey we take together. Most cuckolds I know, myself included get to be with other women as well. That is why it is a subset of swinging. As the great Oscar Wilde said polygamy is having one wife too many, monogamy is the same. Not everyone was meant to be monogamous. Glad it's for you but it's sure as hell isn't for me!

I simply came to this thread to defend the original poster from you berating his questions on this matter. Just because this site looks down upon this activity doesn't mean it's a depraved sexual deviancy akin to pedaphelia or fucking animals as your previous attempts to "reason" suggested.
 

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Sorry to troll post, but I completely don't understand this fantasy, and even if you did have the urge to see that, why any self respecting person in their right mind would act on it. I mean, you've basically verbalized to your girlfriend that you are an inferior pussy. Why??

Also, the well hung black man is a topic that's been discussed here time and time again. The idea that black males are better endowed is a myth that arose years and years ago from, you guessed it, slavery. So I don't see why you'd think black males are any better endowed than whites or any other race, or would prefer to see that.

Also, where are you reading this "multiple orgasms from a larger penis" stuff you're talking about? Almost everything I read says that yes, women may find a large penis slightly preferable either visually/mentally or perhaps physically to a degree, but not to the point where it becomes some "magic wand sent from the heavens" to give multiple orgasms.

I know, off topic here, but this cuckold shit needs to stop IMO, its just not a healthy way to act on or approach things.


I didn't think it was possible to be insecure when on the internet. You have definitely proved me wrong.
 

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All of you suckers need to cram it. It's just not a healthy lifestyle. I don't care who you are.

Secondly, this was not a question of swingers/ an open relationship. That is a different story. The topic of this thread clearly indicates the FEMALE partner ONLY (not the male) having sex outside the relationship. An open relationship is a different story, cuckoldry however, was the topic of discussion.

I'm done trying to argue with you nitwits and wimps. If you want to allow another man you deem superior to have sex with your woman, go right ahead then. Although I don't know how you look yourself in the mirror and see a respectable, confident man.

But hey, whatever floats your boat I guess.