Cuckolding. ? Gays want to know.

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Ok guys, . . I am curious about a few things related to cuckolding.

I understand that this is a polyamorous arrangement if not triad, at times.

the questions I have are as follows:

1.) How did you get into it? Watching it in porn? Is this from your own personal desires to play with more people?

2.) How much of this interest does your wife or girlfriend share. (IE- do you hide this interest from her, and just post and talk about it online as an internet fetish, or have you actually experienced this).

3.) Would you suggest swinging, cuckolding and polyamoury to say, monogomous comitted people. ?

I can say, I have been open to all my boyfriends and partners, about group sex and polyamory in sexual experiences, from the start of a relationship. I am curious to hear about things like this from a straight person's perspective.
 

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I'd like to hears some of these answers to I don't understand why anyone would want to be a cuckold at all.

To answer Mrslaves question
1 I'm not into it don't plan on doing it. If I watch a scenes that I'd a cuckold scene it would only be because it would be a girl that I want to watch ( being a cuckold or cuckolding another guy)
2 I'm single so i can't answer that
3 again can't answer that question either

I would also like to hear women reasoning why they want to cuckold their men. To bad this is only in ask a straight man
 

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Example: guy on a different floor in our office building I know only by name. Rumors are he and his wife swing. One day I pass them in a hallway, seeing her for the first time. She's a tall slim natural blond in Levis. Her eyes go directly to my crotch and stay there (my bulge tends to advertise itself in suit pants or business casual--everyone knows I'm a big boy). She makes eye contact, flashing her perfect smile. Next day he asks. We set up a day/time. I fuck her for an hour on their bed while he watches. He's straight and does not join us, but gets turned on at the sight of his wife fucking another guy, hard on in his pants. After her nth orgasm riding me, he gets up and leaves the room, which is their signal we're done. She doesn't stop me from rolling her over and finishing, her ankles round my neck, her eyes in mine. Passionate kisser. It was a one-time thing.

1. I got into it because couples asked/invited me and it turns me on to bone another man's woman while he watches.
2. I'm single so wife doesn't come into play. When I am exclusive with a woman I remain exclusive.
3. I suggest it only for couples where both partners really get off on it and both agree on a cuck partner. I don't recommend it with close friends or friends of family.
 

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I can't understand it either.

It's quite different from a threesome (or more-some) when you're not in a relationship with the woman/women involved, but I can't understand why I'd want to watch some other guy with my girl.
 
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1. I think it can be fun in a fantasy, touches on feelings I've had for as long as I can remember, but I'd never be able to handle it in real life.
2. There was a moment early in our relationship when my wife started a conversation about 'group activities' she had with her ex and other couples. I got upset because I felt she had been keeping secrets, and that ended the discussion. At this point, she won't discuss it at all.
3. See above.
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if I was labeling my relationship with my gf I'd call it hotwifing and not cuckolding, the main difference being that I'm not submissive in our relationship and she's not dominant, but for what it's worth:

1.) i got into it slowly, dating my current gf. I've always been a very jealous guy with the girls I'd dated, not a dick about it at all, but I suffered silently. I started dating my current gf and we fell hard in love. the thing was that she was pretty slutty before we started dating, and she was open about it. I struggled with it because on the one hand I admired her alot for being progressive and not being stigmatized by sexist social standards. why shouldn't she be able to go out and fuck like crazy, if I was as hot as her that's what I'd have been doing. but on the other hand I would get super jealous and paranoid... until one day I just stopped feeling jealous and started getting turned on, I guess that's how fetishes start. then when a guy she used to fuck would come up in conversation, I'd ask about him, how was the sex? how big was his dick? that sort of thing turned me on, it all started progressing from there. I didn't get into it by watching that type of porn, but I've always watched a ton of porn, which probaly factored into it. It's like watching a porno with your girlfriend in it, then getting to have your way with the pornstar afterwords. it's not from my own desire to fuck other people. most of the time, if given the option, I'd choose watching her fuck over getting to fuck someone else

2.) my gf loves it now, we've been doing it for about 2 months and it's been more fun than anything for both of us. she wasnt into it at first, she had the same concerns i think most girls do (does he wanna use that as excuse to fuck other girls? is he testing me? does he not care about me?). we talked alot about it and she researched it, she realized that it actually was just a weird kink, and that there was no hidden agenda.

3.) I wouldn't recomend it to anyone who wasn't into it. my buddy Joe with a foot fetish could tell me that I had to try getting jerked off with a girls feet, that it's better than a blowjob. I'd tell him he's out of his mind, but nobody's wrong. it's a sexual preference. if a guy is fantasizing about hotwifing or cuckolding, it's not gonna stop and will probably get more intense. if a couple is into it, as fantasy or reality, why wouldn't they have fun experimenting with it
 

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1.) How did you get into it? Watching it in porn? Is this from your own personal desires to play with more people?
The first porn mag I saw had many men fucking one woman, & I remember thinking: Damn, that hits me right in the groin in terms of how turned on I was. Then, my gf was attracted to one of my friends (not in the traditional sense, but they had lots in common & got quite close). I was driven mad with jealousy, actually severing the friendship in order to make sure they didn't see each other. Then about a year later, we were having sex - and by that point I'd tired of 5 minutes vanilla - & he popped into my mind. I saw him fucking my gf, & it drove me wild with desire. I felt confused, guilty, even sick, but it was what it was!

2.) How much of this interest does your wife or girlfriend share. (IE- do you hide this interest from her, and just post and talk about it online as an internet fetish, or have you actually experienced this).
I told her about it a few years ago. She was 'appalled' - but I've known her for 20 years, so I know she wasn't actually appalled. In fact, she seemed quite titillated. The fantasy drove our sex for a while - when I spoke to her about it during sex - she got wetter (puddles on the bed, never happened before), wilder & came harder than I had ever seen her do before. It wasn't a slight difference - it was massive. It clearly turned her on massively. But when I actually broached doing it, she froze. Said it would be the end of our relationship. Now, if I bring anything up during sex, she changes the subject. Sadly, sex has become boring, mechanical and passionless as a result.

3.) Would you suggest swinging, cuckolding and polyamoury to say, monogomous comitted people. ?
No, I wouldn't. I would suggest it to people where the woman has a very high sex drive & enjoys the physical aspects of sex more than the emotional. I've done years' of (internet) research & the conclusion I've come to is that if the wife doesn't see sex as the man does (a mainly physical seeking of pleasure to satisfy lust), then she's either not going to participate or she will - because she feels she owes it to her husband - and she'll end up resenting and leaving him, or falling in love with a lover, because she equates sex to emotion and vice versa.
 
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Cuckolding is a shared fetish. If only one of the partners is into it, it won't work. Trying to figure out why people like it is like trying to figure out why people get off on SPH, bondage, power exchange or acting like they are wolves (no shit).

IMHO Swinging is probably a mild form of mutual cuckolding.

Sharing a "hotwife" is pretty much a different twist that is closer to cuckolding but still pretty much swinging from just one side.

Sharing the wife was as close as I have come to the cuckold thing from being on the receiving end.

I played with a couple that was into it and I felt kind of fucking silly. I have come across some guys however that really trip on the power angle of it.

I would advise anyone to soft swing, partner swap & threesome first and get comfortable before they jump into the heavy duty shit.
 

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1.) How did you get into it? Watching it in porn? Is this from your own personal desires to play with more people?
The first porn mag I saw had many men fucking one woman, & I remember thinking: Damn, that hits me right in the groin in terms of how turned on I was. Then, my gf was attracted to one of my friends (not in the traditional sense, but they had lots in common & got quite close). I was driven mad with jealousy, actually severing the friendship in order to make sure they didn't see each other. Then about a year later, we were having sex - and by that point I'd tired of 5 minutes vanilla - & he popped into my mind. I saw him fucking my gf, & it drove me wild with desire. I felt confused, guilty, even sick, but it was what it was!

2.) How much of this interest does your wife or girlfriend share. (IE- do you hide this interest from her, and just post and talk about it online as an internet fetish, or have you actually experienced this).
I told her about it a few years ago. She was 'appalled' - but I've known her for 20 years, so I know she wasn't actually appalled. In fact, she seemed quite titillated. The fantasy drove our sex for a while - when I spoke to her about it during sex - she got wetter (puddles on the bed, never happened before), wilder & came harder than I had ever seen her do before. It wasn't a slight difference - it was massive. It clearly turned her on massively. But when I actually broached doing it, she froze. Said it would be the end of our relationship. Now, if I bring anything up during sex, she changes the subject. Sadly, sex has become boring, mechanical and passionless as a result.

3.) Would you suggest swinging, cuckolding and polyamoury to say, monogomous comitted people. ?
No, I wouldn't. I would suggest it to people where the woman has a very high sex drive & enjoys the physical aspects of sex more than the emotional. I've done years' of (internet) research & the conclusion I've come to is that if the wife doesn't see sex as the man does (a mainly physical seeking of pleasure to satisfy lust), then she's either not going to participate or she will - because she feels she owes it to her husband - and she'll end up resenting and leaving him, or falling in love with a lover, because she equates sex to emotion and vice versa.
There's a big differnece in talking dirty during sex, or even fantasizing, compared to acting upon something. Kudos to your chick that she only wants you bro. Embrace it. Try new stuff. You are a lucky guy.

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I'd like to hears some of these answers to I don't understand why anyone would want to be a cuckold at all.

To answer Mrslaves question
1 I'm not into it don't plan on doing it. If I watch a scenes that I'd a cuckold scene it would only be because it would be a girl that I want to watch ( being a cuckold or cuckolding another guy)
2 I'm single so i can't answer that
3 again can't answer that question either

I would also like to hear women reasoning why they want to cuckold their men. To bad this is only in ask a straight man

I find it very sad how you have to defend your total heterosexuality every day on here. That must be a big burden to carry around.
 

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A lot of times bringing another dude into a straight scene is a straight man's excuse to get naked with another dude. It's a way to have male bonding without crossing the line. And it's a way to get up close and personal with another dick (for whatever reason: comparing, etc.).

MFM are getting more and more popular..
 
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To me this is a sign of a weak male. Why would a straight male want to watch his girlfriend or wife fuck another guy? If your girlfriend is into sleeping with other guys then why date or marry her? Just sleep around with a lot of people. But I thought the whole part of people being in little relationships was because they were in "love" and wanted to be with just that person.

^^ To me, this message is a sign of a weak imagination.
 

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1.) How did you get into it? Watching it in porn? Is this from your own personal desires to play with more people?

My wife and I are swingers, and my ex wife and I were part of the Denver Polyamory community for over 20 years. So, I speak from experience. Cuckolding is misunderstood by most people. I share my wife because I enjoy seeing her with other men, but I also love fucking other mens wives. Most cuckolds don't get the respect they deserve. These are men who are willing to share their wife with other men, and often be humiliated for doing so.

If you think about it, most guys could never imagine allowing their wife to have another guy's cock in them. Most men are too possessive (insecure) to be cuckolded, with their knowledge. The cucks who allow me to fuck their wives often tell me that they love seeing my big cock stretching their wife's pussy or ass, but it is the wives that tell me that the sex they have with their husband after they have sex with me is better than when they just have sex with each other alone.

My first wife loved sex as much as my current wife does. And my first wife was being gang banged the first time I saw her. I was in the military and my to-be wife was fucking everyone. I loved that about her. I even asked her to marry me when I was the 6th guy to fuck her that day. And she said yes. I guess I have always been impressed by women that are not afraid to let other people know they love cock. My current wife loves to fuck black guys, but that doesn't bother me because most of them are not much bigger, if at all, than I am. So, I guess that cucking other guys is just something I have always done, but I also realize that these men are special in the fact that they have something that other men want, and they are okay with sharing it.

The first time I cucked a guy was when my best friend was dating this girl, when we were freshmen in high school. He wouldn't fuck his girlfriend and so I did. It ruined our friendship, but that didn't stop me from fucking his girlfriend, even when she started dating other guys. I cucked 5 other guys with this same chick. And it was a blast knowing that the guys she was dating took her out, spent money on her, did everything they could to get sex with her, and all I had to do was have a big dick.



2.) How much of this interest does your wife or girlfriend share. (IE- do you hide this interest from her, and just post and talk about it online as an internet fetish, or have you actually experienced this).

We're swingers and my wife loves sex as much as I do. So, she gets as much with other guys probably more than I do with other women.

3.) Would you suggest swinging, cuckolding and polyamoury to say, monogomous comitted people. ?

Every couple that I have been involved with has told me that me having sex with the wife has improved their marriage, communication and the sex they have together. I would tell other people to see cuckolding as a way to improve their marriage.
 

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I was just reminded that cuckolding isn't always about sex. A good friend of mine lost his wife to another man because the other man could give her the $$$$ lifestyle she wanted. It started out as an affair and then she kicked my friend to the curb.

One of my wife's good friends lost his wife for a similar reason. His wife wanted the $$$$ lifestyle, so he worked his butt off as a PhD engineer while earning his MBA at night school. One day he came home from a business trip, she wasn't there, and he listened to the phone messages her lover had left for her. While he was out earning money for her to spend....she got lonely.
 
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I was just reminded that cuckolding isn't always about sex. A good friend of mine lost his wife to another man because the other man could give her the $$$$ lifestyle she wanted. It started out as an affair and then she kicked my friend to the curb.

One of my wife's good friends lost his wife for a similar reason. His wife wanted the $$$$ lifestyle, so he worked his butt off as a PhD engineer while earning his MBA at night school. One day he came home from a business trip, she wasn't there, and he listened to the phone messages her lover had left for her. While he was out earning money for her to spend....she got lonely.

Don't underestimate the importance of money in any relationship.
 
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I was just reminded that cuckolding isn't always about sex. A good friend of mine lost his wife to another man because the other man could give her the $$$$ lifestyle she wanted. It started out as an affair and then she kicked my friend to the curb.

One of my wife's good friends lost his wife for a similar reason. His wife wanted the $$$$ lifestyle, so he worked his butt off as a PhD engineer while earning his MBA at night school. One day he came home from a business trip, she wasn't there, and he listened to the phone messages her lover had left for her. While he was out earning money for her to spend....she got lonely.

There have been a couple of wives in my past that wanted to live the lifestyle I could afford them, but to me cuckolding is about enhancing an already great marriage. It sounds to me that your friends didn't have the close marital relationships they thought they had. I am so sorry to hear this.