NineInchCock_160IQ: I don't expect to be agreed with here. But... just to throw this out there. If you really love someone, shouldn't you want them to be happy? If fucking someone else other than you makes them happy, is that really such a bad thing? If we could remove ego, selfishness, and insecurity from the equation.. wouldn't we all be perfectly willing to accept that our partner might want to be with someone else, and still have feelings for them, not feel threatened by their desire to be intimate with another person. Why is it that most of us feel so powerfully compelled to completely monopolize a person's time, affection, attention, desire... or else we don't want them at all? If we endeavor to OWN someone, make them a slave in terms of sexual expression and amarous feelings, is that really love? How is it anything other than completely petty, jealous, self-serving and small minded? Are we really all so completely neurotic due to some out-dated values system from the dark ages forced down our throats since birth that we can't think a little outside the box when it comes to relationships and love a person without trying to possess them completely?
Again, just throwing ideas out there, I'm not sure I agree with all of the above myself, I may be too jealous, neurotic and insecure to really avoid being a hypocrite if I said that I did. It takes a lot for me to get jealous these days but it does happen from time to time. When you think about it though... this is such an petty emotion to feel. Jealousy, the fear of replacement. I'd like to think I'm better than that.
I've been cheated on, I have cheated, and I've helped others to cheat. I know most women aren't open to the idea of open relationships and that's fine with me, I would rather be with one girl I really loved who satisfied me deeply than a bunch of girls I didn't particularly care for, but wouldn't it be nice if we could all be so supremely confident about ourselves, selfless in regards to our partners, and loving toward each other that cheating was never an issue at all and maybe everyone wasn't so damned uptight about sex?
just a thought. don't shoot the philosopher please. it's late and I'm tired.