How do you make yourself last longer during sex? I recently ended a long celebacy and realised that I was out of practice and wasn't as in control as I used to be with my previous lover. I've been practicing alone and "remembered" how I used to do it: Basically, even before you have the first signs of cumming start to inflate your stomach, keep it tensed that way and concentrate on breathing out slowly (breath in quickly) normally if you do this constantly you will control that orgasm trigger moment. When you want to cum do the opposite, tense up your stomach and think of something that really turns you on.(which is the natural thing we do!!!) I used to rely on emptying my balls to last longer the next time we fucked but full balls give harder erections and harder erections give more orgasms so learning self control is very useful.