Cum too quickly

[Oregon97420]

I've read several threads here about Premature Ejaculation and what not and have seen links to books and stuff but. Its embarrassing as hell but here it goes.

I've pretty much given up on sex because I cum so quickly that I don't even get to enjoy it. Its like I'm a kid stick in it and cum and if there is a second time I may get 15 seconds. Its been this way all my life and I'm almost 50. My wife at the time at I replied on other forms of stimulation for her to enjoy and even after 14 years together no improvement. She finally gave up and moved on. Its frustrating to the point that I just walk away when the topic comes up. Its been 9 years since the divorce and I've only recently thought about getting out there again. Even when I masturbate its takes a little longer but there is still no joy. Blowjobs are nice and on occasion will last maybe 30 seconds to a minute but if I stick my dick in something, I'm done before I know it.

I've read about how guys worry about not pleasing their partner but I can't even please myself.

Are there others who have had similar experiences and have overcome it? What did you do?

Please no bashing, if you can't relate, don't comment. I don't need to hear how you've always lasted an hour and hasn't been a problem. Ladies, when your man cums with in seconds how does it feel, what do you think?

 

[Ed69]

http://www.details.com/story/kegel-exercises-for-better-sex-men

"As far as premature ejaculation goes, Kegels work largely by strengthening the urinary sphincter and other muscles that control ejaculation. In a 2014 Therapeutic Advances in Urology study, 82 percent of men who had suffered with lifelong premature ejaculation increased their latency time after just 12 weeks of Kegels.

You can also perform Kegels during your sexploits to delay the inevitable, Paduch says. That's because, when you squeeze your PC muscles, you are telling your brain that you want to pee (don't worry, you won't!). And since your penis has only one urethra, it puts a hold on ejaculation, he explains. When you are getting close, perform five quick Kegels and you should be good to go. Steixner notes that pulling this trick also makes you experience a longer buildup and stronger orgasms."

This is what I did in my 20's to fix the problem,worked great for me.

 

[Oregon97420]

I will give this a try.
By the way, if you're ever on the coast give me a shout.
Thank you,

 

[Dave NoCal]

Failing that, there is now an FDA approved medication for premature ejaculation. I think it is a serotonin re-uptake inhibitor antidepressant recycled for a new purpose with a fancy price increase. This class of drugs, perhaps most notoriously Paxil, often have the side effect of controlling, and even preventing ejaculation. A great male sexual function urologist on the west coast is Dr. Edward Karpman in Mountain View, California.

 

[Hairylegs]

For heaven's sake, see a doctor! You can't cure PE, but it can be treated effectively. Just about any SSRI will slow you up. You aren't alone, it's embarrassing, but fess up and get treated! There are a hell of a lot of guys, young and old who can't get it up. That's why we have viagra. PE is no different.

 

[Oregon97420]

For heaven's sake, see a doctor! You can't cure PE, but it can be treated effectively. Just about any SSRI will slow you up. You aren't alone, it's embarrassing, but fess up and get treated! There are a hell of a lot of guys, young and old who can't get it up. That's why we have viagra. PE is no different.

Getting it up isn't difficult. Cumming isn't difficult I'm just trying to put some distance between the two so I can enjoy sex. Its been the same since my first time over 30 years go.

 

[Nosuportneeded]

For heaven's sake, see a doctor! You can't cure PE, but it can be treated effectively. Just about any SSRI will slow you up. You aren't alone, it's embarrassing, but fess up and get treated! There are a hell of a lot of guys, young and old who can't get it up. That's why we have viagra. PE is no different.

I concur.

 

[mander5161]

Do a google search for tramadol and pe.

 

[Hairylegs]

Tramadol will work, but it will also put the guy to sleep in a few minutes! Prozac was used when it first came out, but that stuff lingers forever with other issues. Zoloft/sertraline is one of the better ones. There is stuff in Europe that is not available in the US for the same purpose. Again, speak to a urologist or your internist. 50-100mg on an as needed basis will work wonders.

 

[bigbucky]

you need a 'scrip of dapoxetine. I have never tried any but read that it stops premature cumming. you can not drink alcohol with this from what I have read. not sure what happens.
I had the same problem as you when I was young. fortunately, my cock stayed hard after cumming, and it would be a 1/2 hour before I came again. women derived a lot of pleasure in that 1/2 hour. lol. between that and having a big cock, I established a reputation. as I got older and more experienced, I gained control. I also met and married a beautiful gal, and she thoroughly liked getting laid. I made damn sure she was satisfied. I used to just kick back and relax. think to myself "there's no better place to be right now anywhere in the world", why? my big cock was buried in a beautiful women who was on top of me, working my cock. she is having orgasm after orgasm to the point that she collapses on top of me, we roll over and I pile drive her into a another orgasm and cum myself. do this 3-4 times a day, you'll get good at it.

 

[Hairylegs]

That's the stuff. I don't think it's available in the US. Canadian prices are about $15 a pill, which translates to $0.50-$1. per minute of good hard thrusting, a bit more if you throw in some viagra to keep you going. Hmm, might invest in some for myself. On the other hand, I might wind up giving my best bud a bad case of bleeding hemorrhoids.

 

[hvdude]

Do you come from the stimulation (physical), the erotic nature of the act (psychological) or both? Sorry to sound old fashioned but have you tried any of the numbing creams/lubricants that are available? There is a website called Cheap Lubes that sells products that might help, if you don't want to go the rx route. You can also try edging. In combination with Kegels this might be the most "organic" way to go.

 

[Oregon97420]

hvdude, I'm not sure if its physical or psychological, its like I stick it in and BAM. I'm done and go soft. I've only had sex twice since my divorce and both times were a lot down. Its depressing.

I've started Kegels but am not sure how it will help. Edging, for me, is a joke because there is no build up.

I just want to be normal!

 

[Ed69]

I've started Kegels but am not sure how it will help. Edging, for me, is a joke because there is no build up.

Ejaculatory control is a learned skill you are not born with it.The kegals will help you learn to control the muscles that make you ejaculate.It's up to you to pay attention to what it feels like just before the point of no return,cause yes there is a build up.Then you make the conscious decision to shut it off.It takes time and work and won't happen over night.If you can hold a fart in,you can learn to hold your load!

 

[Oregon97420]

I'm thinking of buying a fleshlight or male masturbator toy to use in conjunction with the kegel exercises. By the way, how long am I suppose to do these? I'm doing three sets of 10 three times a day and holding tight for 3 seconds each. Thoughts?

 

[lapdog2001]

hvdude, I'm not sure if its physical or psychological, its like I stick it in and BAM. I'm done and go soft. I've only had sex twice since my divorce and both times were a lot down. Its depressing.

I've started Kegels but am not sure how it will help. Edging, for me, is a joke because there is no build up.

I just want to be normal!

Does the same thing happen when you masturbate, or only from sex? Even though it doesn't feel exactly the same, you can try holding off your orgasms while masturbating, learning your point of no return, and stopping to avoid the orgasm. Then slow start back up with the stimulation. You can do kegels as many times as you want, but you seem to be doing it often enough. On some sets, try holding the squeeze for as long as you can. This should help you out.

 

[Ed69]

I'm thinking of buying a fleshlight or male masturbator toy to use in conjunction with the kegel exercises. By the way, how long am I suppose to do these? I'm doing three sets of 10 three times a day and holding tight for 3 seconds each. Thoughts?

I don't know what others have done but I practice holding for 10 seconds while thrusting.And yes the fleshlight is great for this I have the S.T.U. model.

Stamina Training Unit by Fleshlight

 

[Oregon97420]

Ejaculatory control is a learned skill you are not born with it.The kegals will help you learn to control the muscles that make you ejaculate.It's up to you to pay attention to what it feels like just before the point of no return,cause yes there is a build up.Then you make the conscious decision to shut it off.It takes time and work and won't happen over night.If you can hold a fart in,you can learn to hold your load!

I reread this today after holding in a fart for some time at work today. Actually there was an ebb and flow but held it in for over an hour at times it was easy others was a strain but I did it. So what is the difference?

 

[Quiet]

have you tried 100mg of viagra? you might be surprised. if nothing else, second time should be much longer.

 

[Ed69]

I reread this today after holding in a fart for some time at work today. Actually there was an ebb and flow but held it in for over an hour at times it was easy others was a strain but I did it. So what is the difference?

In my experience the only difference is learning that tingle/feeling just before ejaculation.You clamp down with the same muscle's to stop a fart or ejaculation.