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So I bottomed for the first time with my bf last weekend and I did it again yesterday. It felt wonderful and I loved it.

One thing I am wondering about though is that it took me a while to cum. The first time we did it we went for about 15 minutes and we cummed at the same time. The second time was about 15 minutes too and he cummed, but I had to jack off for like 5 more minutes before I cummed.

I've been using a dildo smaller than my bf for a while now to get myself used to bottoming and when I use it I usually cum within like 5 minutes. Any idea why it took me much longer to cum with my bf? Thank you
 

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Thanks, but any idea why it's easier for me to cum using a dildo then when I ride him in the exact same way I do my dildo? lol kinda awkward question
 

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Thanks, but any idea why it's easier for me to cum using a dildo then when I ride him in the exact same way I do my dildo? lol kinda awkward question

My guess would be because your attention is split when you're riding him, but you're all about doing exactly what feels the best when you're using the dildo.
 

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I have the same issue. My partner is 8.5inches and when we and I have sex it takes me a while to cum. But when I use a dildo which is smaller 7.5 I can cum within minuets. In my situation I feel that because the dildo is a little harder and more rigid that it hits my prostate with more pressure where as my partners penis (although rock hard with a huge head) is softer and doesn't hit it with the same pressure. But then again when your using a dildo on your self you can maneuver it in any direction as you see fit customizing your climax. :)
 

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Congrats on jumping into the bottoming world. Obviously, ejaculation is great and I hope you always are able to do it. But over time I have come to enjoy the actual fucking more than the cumming. Don't get me wrong, I love to cum, and do it all the time. But a great love-making session can last a long time and make my whole body tingle & quiver. I can almost go into a trance. Long story short: enjoy the ride and don't focus on the cumming. You'll still cum, but the path to getting there will be more fun.
 

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Congrats on jumping into the bottoming world. Obviously, ejaculation is great and I hope you always are able to do it. But over time I have come to enjoy the actual fucking more than the cumming. Don't get me wrong, I love to cum, and do it all the time. But a great love-making session can last a long time and make my whole body tingle & quiver. I can almost go into a trance. Long story short: enjoy the ride and don't focus on the cumming. You'll still cum, but the path to getting there will be more fun.

That is very true
 

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I guess I don't understand why the OP would want to cum faster than he is cumming. In fact, one of the downsides to masturbation, in my opinion, is that it's boring if you keep it up too long. So cumming quickly is sometimes a virtue in jacking off (especially if you may get caught, or you're just tired and horny, or whatever). By contrast, actual sex with another naked person SHOULD last longer. You're getting to enjoy one another and the layers of enjoyment are more complex. So my advice is not to try to speed up cumming with your partner, but to make it last as long as is comfortable for both of you.

Last, in my experience, bottoming is about the pleasure you give to the top and what amazing feelings you're getting when the prostate is being hit. While the orgasm is great, like mikeyinbrooklyn above said, make it last and enjoy the ride. If you can cum while he is still pounding you, though, W-O-W!
 

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Remember you're new to the sensation of getting fucked. It might take awhile for to get used to it.

Is he taking an active roll in stimulating your dick while he's fucking you? He can jerk you off while he's inside you. You want to vary the experience for both of you so it's not just you jerking yourself off with a dick inside you. Not that there's anything wrong with that but it would be great to experiment too. An ex of mine, great top, used to fuck me in missionary and he'd use a bit of lube on our stomachs and lean in real close. My dick would get caught between us and rub to an explosive orgasm, which would make him shoot hard too. Of course the fact that I was reaching under my ass and massaging his balls helped too! Experimentation is great and otherwise you might as well just stick to the dildo.

And there doesn't have to be pressure on who comes first - plenty of times he would shoot and then slowly jack me off. Oh I'd come,that's for sure.
 

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Also remember, when you are self pleasuring, you just automatically know exactly where to "hit", or what movements to make for that just right feeling.

You'll get more accustomed to his movements, and he'll get more to yours.

Don't rush anything, just enjoy it as it "cums" :wink: