Cumming from blowjobs
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Maybe you've just had bad head. But I DO have a straight buddy who says this same thing, so I guess it's not unheard of.
I'm convinced that a mouth can feel just as good as any pussy or ass...with the proper technique.
Maybe you have some sort of sub-conscious thing that prevents you from blowing your load in someone's mouth?
I'm convinced that a mouth can feel just as good as any pussy or ass...with the proper technique.
Maybe you have some sort of sub-conscious thing that prevents you from blowing your load in someone's mouth?
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I can safely say that every guy I've given a blow job to (with one notable exception... he was extremely thick and he told me he was tremendously long lasting, and my jaw gave out after about a forty minutes) has cum, whether in my mouth or on my face. <slurp>
Why don't you cum see me and we'll see if we can break your pattern!
Why don't you cum see me and we'll see if we can break your pattern!
My ex gf was very good at felatio. She could deep throat me down to about an inch and a half and could make me come through oral sex. However, I like to get into a woman. This is what really blows my mind.
I like oral sex as a prelude to intercourse. But there is nothing as satifying to me as intercourse with a woman. Watching her body writhe in pleasure or the expressions on her face is what really gets me off. For me orgasms through oral sex are almost entirely a mechanical means for release.
I like oral sex as a prelude to intercourse. But there is nothing as satifying to me as intercourse with a woman. Watching her body writhe in pleasure or the expressions on her face is what really gets me off. For me orgasms through oral sex are almost entirely a mechanical means for release.
valaneva said:
This is key then.
Perhaps performing is your forté. The less you think of it the better it'll be but as you're giving head to the favorite cock you know.... just reach down and touch the precum on your dickhead and praise Jesus you have a nice cock in front of you.
He'll shoot, you'll shoot. Everyone's happy.
You'll be fine.
I used to have that problem as well. It is just a mental thing - you need to find the "zone" and enjoy it. Don't think about cumming, just enjoy the moment.
When I was a lot younger, I would last forever while getting head (even when I wanted to cum) but would cum relatively quickly during actual penetration. My problem with not cumming while receiving head actually helped my stamina during penetrative sex. The mastery of your sexuality doesn't happen over night.
Relax dude, don't worry about - just enjoy it!
When I was a lot younger, I would last forever while getting head (even when I wanted to cum) but would cum relatively quickly during actual penetration. My problem with not cumming while receiving head actually helped my stamina during penetrative sex. The mastery of your sexuality doesn't happen over night.
Relax dude, don't worry about - just enjoy it!
Stronzo said:This is key then.
Perhaps performing is your forté. The less you think of it the better it'll be but as you're giving head to the favorite cock you know.... just reach down and touch the precum on your dickhead and praise Jesus you have a nice cock in front of you.
He'll shoot, you'll shoot. Everyone's happy.
You'll be fine.
i gotcha
:smile:
I am similar to you even though I am uncut, lots of experimenting taught me that the things that I listed in the above post were the most important things in making it possible to come from a BJ.valaneva said:
The sensations are less and happen too slowly during a BJ. Concentrating on what is going on isn't that much of a turn on for me, but mixed in with some memories of things (porn scenes, experiences, fantasies) that have already made me come in the past, my excitement level is raised. Just like the excitement neccessary to cause a premature ejaculation, it is all in the mind.
I learned that if I could reach this level of excitement in my mind, this would speed up the orgasm build up and also it gave me a certain amount of control over when I wanted to come, of course you need to direct your partner to squeeze tighter and wank faster to complete the job.
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This could be a lot of things. You could be getting bad head, but it's more likely that it's just you. It could be that you need to increase your sensitivity, it could be the things that are going on in your head. It could be anything.
Relax. Don't "do it,"
When you want to to go to it.
Some guys just don't come at all from head. I've met two who say they feel it's a control thing. They don't feel in control when they're being serviced. *shrug*
Relax. Don't "do it,"
When you want to to go to it.
Some guys just don't come at all from head. I've met two who say they feel it's a control thing. They don't feel in control when they're being serviced. *shrug*
I almost never come from oral sex, even when she is trying. I chalked it up to being jaded (I've been getting head & straight sex for decades and women rarely have the skill to make me come when they are in control).valaneva said:
Two years ago, I had the pleasure of one woman who was particularly good at oral (she explained that, after the birth of twins, she was unable to have sex for over a year and developed her skills at oral sex during this time). Needless to say, I was surprised.
So... I am inclined to believe that you have had an unfortunate run of partners, vis-a-vis skill levels. Your profile says you are 18, so I am thinking you haven't had a great many partners, but the gay ones should have been able to get you off (unless you have only been with selfish tops).
If you don't want to run through a string of partners, try more intense, or lengthened, foreplay. Try a couple days of sexual stimulation without release (give yourself blue balls so your body will be even more eager to climax). Watch your favorite type of porn while doing this. Extend foreplay to an hour or so; do it in semi-public places so you will be forced to stick with foreplay instead of giving in to your urges too soon.
