alleycat: I came across this site about a year ago and on occasion, would sit and read some of the topics. Well, this is the first time I've posted and here's my issue: My fiancee cums too quickly. He says he can't control it. He finally confided in me that it's really embarassing and that he knows he doesn't statisfy me. The thing is, he does statisfy me, in other ways, but he seems to think that he's not a man becasue he can't statisfy me with the actual act of intercourse. I suggested we go to the sex store and see what we could find and he wanted no part of it. If anyone can help me with this, I would love to hear what you have to say. Any ideas on how to get him to last longer or how to get him interested in toys or how to get him to believe that it doesn't bother me and I want to help him. Any advice?????