Curious Question About Friendship

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Yes it is called closeted and specific bisexuality.

Makes sense. My best friend and I love women, but we have this crazy chemistry between us. Nothing ever happened. We can tell there's some attraction going on. We don't look at other guys in any kinda way, but we look at each other a lot. It's crazy. He has a wife and I have a girlfriend.
 
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Makes sense. My best friend and I love women, but we have this crazy chemistry between us. Nothing ever happened. We can tell there's some attraction going on. We don't look at other guys in any kinda way, but we look at each other a lot. It's crazy. He has a wife and I have a girlfriend.
No judgement here man. Sorry to be so blunt earlier but a lot of guys come here trying to protect their straight privilege by downplaying the homo/bisexual nature of their extracurriculars, or setting logic traps to fulfill their straight baiting fantasies...you just sound like you found a guy you'd go bisexual for, and are trying to reconcile it with your current heterosexual relationship status....which really isnt even the most pertinent question in such a situation, because the real issue there would be the purported monogamous nature of your guys' respective relationships...It happens to all of us in some sort of way, I have a wife, and am exposed to sexually attractive women everyday, for some of whom I imagine the feeling is reciprocated..It isnt really a problem unless I think being unfaithful is a valid option.
 
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plenty of guys have turned 18 and discovered that it feels good to touch their penis. And they walk in on an older buddy and realize how much more awesome it might feel with someone else. And they keep walking in on each other until they find girlfriends and get married and don't think about it any more. Plenty of college guys want girlfriends but will settle for a convenient warm mouth and be happy to trade. Does it make them gay -if that is what you were asking? unlikely - just taking a rational approach to sex in the 2020s, and not wanting to go through all of the consent forms before having sex.
 
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Plenty of college guys want girlfriends but will settle for a convenient warm mouth and be happy to trade. Does it make them gay
Yeah or bisexual at the least. Im not knocking the opportunism exercised, nor am I even denying that plenty of guys wouldn't at least try it out if they could do so without it being found out. But an actually heterosexual college guy would categorize another mans mouth the same as a dogs, just not an option.

Lemme ask you @warrior08 , I gather from your OP you are very insistent this homoerotic vibe you and your friend share are wholly exclusive to one another only...Honestly why is that even pertinent? I hear a lot of parallelism in heterosexual men whom say, insist upon the value of partners that confirm to certain body standards, but have examples in their behaviors of desiring Non conformants.
 
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Is their such a thing as two straight men possibly experimenting with each other, but no one else?
Answer: yes

There has been some very intense research on the nature of friendship. Bottom line, a friendship builds on each individual’s unique nature and experiences.

Here is how one expert in the area of friendship describes your relationship with your buddy.
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“In light of close friendship’s voluntary, personal, affective, mutual, and equal qualities, such friends negotiate a private moral sphere within the constraints of the cultural and public moralities shaping their possibilities.”

You and your buddy are in a unique relationship (a private moral sphere) that might not last. There are hundreds of variables at play for each of you. Whatever moves you are considering, they should include clear communication, along with elements of support (solidarity), and personal caring.
 

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Answer: yes

There has been some very intense research on the nature of friendship. Bottom line, a friendship builds on each individual’s unique nature and experiences.

Here is how one expert in the area of friendship describes your relationship with your buddy.
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“In light of close friendship’s voluntary, personal, affective, mutual, and equal qualities, such friends negotiate a private moral sphere within the constraints of the cultural and public moralities shaping their possibilities.”

You and your buddy are in a unique relationship (a private moral sphere) that might not last. There are hundreds of variables at play for each of you. Whatever moves you are considering, they should include clear communication, along with elements of support (solidarity), and personal caring.

Thank you.
 
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