I thought the OP was asking a question generally about how people label themselves as 90/10, 80/20, 50/50 and so on, so I attempted to respond to what I thought was his question. Perhaps he was wondering what other people consider themselves and why, which, I think, is a valid inquiry, too. If I'm trying to understand something, I may ask others what their experience is regarding it.
On that note, I have 90/10 on my profile, but that is such a shot in the dark that I'm not sure it's exactly accurate. Honestly, I'm attracted to both women and men. I've had relationships with both, although I only had one "relationship" with a man back when I was in college. It was intense and in hindsight, I was clearly in love with him and he with me, although at the time I could not see myself in a long term relationship with another man. My family wouldn't have accepted that in the least, and I could not come to terms with that view of myself.
I also dated women in college, and I enjoyed their company a lot too. I found both males and females sexually attractive, and, at least at that time in life, I was getting more sexual fulfillment from my male lover than from any woman I was dating. That was mainly because I was in a very conservative environment and my buddy and I definitely had more opportunity and more desire to be sexual, so we took advantage of it. I told myself then that my attraction to the same sex relationship was more about the fact that I was actually getting sex than it was about a deep attraction to the same gender. (If I'm honest, I was checking out the other guys in the dorm on a regular basis, and my masturbatory fantasies involved males as much as or more than females.) In a word, I was confused.
Fast forward a few years, and I was in love with a woman whom I married. I never told her about my same sex attraction or the relationship I had in college with another man as she would not have understood in the least. I had decided it was a situational thing rather than a real attraction, and since I'd never been IN A RELATIONSHIP with any other man except for my buddy in college, then I was heterosexual (perhaps with some latent tendencies, whatever those are).
I married young (senior in college), and while I was getting sex at home with my wife, I still found myself drawn to the various glory holes on campus, where I could get a quick blow job from some guy and leave satisfied. For most of that time, I didn't reciprocate because I really did not have a desire to do so. Long story short, I've been married a long time, and my sexual interactions with men have been intermittent, sometimes frequent for a season, other times years without any.
Maybe the 10% is low, but I do not see myself as attracted to men in a major way. I want relationship with a woman, and I don't want to mess that up--although I seem hellbent on doing so sexually at different times in my life. I'd give up the m2m sex if I could, but it keeps drawing me back. Maybe it's lack of self-control. Maybe it's the fact that I like sex a lot more than my wife does and I need more than she is willing or able to give.
If I read this, or if I described my behavior to someone else, I sound like a selfish bastard who has sex with people outside his marriage because he just can't seem to keep his willy in his pants. But I'm not. I'm a good guy, an excellent husband, a great father, a conscientious worker, a compassionate person, and more.
I'm not sure how to put a percentage on that...
On that note, I have 90/10 on my profile, but that is such a shot in the dark that I'm not sure it's exactly accurate. Honestly, I'm attracted to both women and men. I've had relationships with both, although I only had one "relationship" with a man back when I was in college. It was intense and in hindsight, I was clearly in love with him and he with me, although at the time I could not see myself in a long term relationship with another man. My family wouldn't have accepted that in the least, and I could not come to terms with that view of myself.
I also dated women in college, and I enjoyed their company a lot too. I found both males and females sexually attractive, and, at least at that time in life, I was getting more sexual fulfillment from my male lover than from any woman I was dating. That was mainly because I was in a very conservative environment and my buddy and I definitely had more opportunity and more desire to be sexual, so we took advantage of it. I told myself then that my attraction to the same sex relationship was more about the fact that I was actually getting sex than it was about a deep attraction to the same gender. (If I'm honest, I was checking out the other guys in the dorm on a regular basis, and my masturbatory fantasies involved males as much as or more than females.) In a word, I was confused.
Fast forward a few years, and I was in love with a woman whom I married. I never told her about my same sex attraction or the relationship I had in college with another man as she would not have understood in the least. I had decided it was a situational thing rather than a real attraction, and since I'd never been IN A RELATIONSHIP with any other man except for my buddy in college, then I was heterosexual (perhaps with some latent tendencies, whatever those are).
I married young (senior in college), and while I was getting sex at home with my wife, I still found myself drawn to the various glory holes on campus, where I could get a quick blow job from some guy and leave satisfied. For most of that time, I didn't reciprocate because I really did not have a desire to do so. Long story short, I've been married a long time, and my sexual interactions with men have been intermittent, sometimes frequent for a season, other times years without any.
Maybe the 10% is low, but I do not see myself as attracted to men in a major way. I want relationship with a woman, and I don't want to mess that up--although I seem hellbent on doing so sexually at different times in my life. I'd give up the m2m sex if I could, but it keeps drawing me back. Maybe it's lack of self-control. Maybe it's the fact that I like sex a lot more than my wife does and I need more than she is willing or able to give.
If I read this, or if I described my behavior to someone else, I sound like a selfish bastard who has sex with people outside his marriage because he just can't seem to keep his willy in his pants. But I'm not. I'm a good guy, an excellent husband, a great father, a conscientious worker, a compassionate person, and more.
I'm not sure how to put a percentage on that...
