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  1. D_Crowan Lanreath Tubelugger

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    Hey, guys. I'm 20, and I've always wanted to know: how much does receiving anal sex hurt the first time? It sure seems like it would hurt quite a bit. For those of you who have been on that end, how many times does it take before it doesn't hurt? To be honest, I'm way too scared to try, so I was hoping someone would have some feedback
     
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    Dude if you want it, it doesn't really hurt.

    Now after you have been doing it awhile and it hurts, that just means that you are doing it right.
     
  3. D_Crowan Lanreath Tubelugger

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    what does that mean? does it just have to do with the size or is there technique involved? plus why would you want it to hurt?
     
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    It does depend on the guy your servicing and whether he knows what to do. It might take a lot of experimentation, in my experience it has never hurt for me and alwas been very enjoyable.

    Just take it slow to start with and get to learn what can and can't be done. But really if your not going to enjoy then you brain will make sure it hurts whereas if you really want it and want to enjoy then it will not be too much of a problem. If necessary do a little bit of stretching before hand as part of foreplay. Its up to you.
     
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    Dude it freakin hurts.. lol at least thats my take on it...but obviously there are guys out there that ar eused to it and love it.

    But at least my experience is that it hurts.. and of course if its bigger it will hurt more. The butt is not like a women,, which can expand. No matter what guys will say.. the butt is not made that way...

    Im not saying this to scare ya off to it.. but the first time it will sorta hurt, and at best feel really really awkward... some get used to it and enjoy it... and others are tops.

    For me I have tried it a number of times and every time im like whoa this is not working for me at all. Even when i was dating a guy and totally in love with him.. he wanted me to try and bottom.. and although I made it through...there was more like when will this be over as opposed to man thsi feels great. And trust me... the thought of a hot dudes cock in me in theory sounds great.. but for me it just didnt feel great...

    youll have to have a patient dude for yoru first time.. and if you can withstand that first time pain and wierdness... then maybe youll end up liking it...otherwise bro youre a top LOL
     
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    the only thing going in my butt is a finger and maybe a wet tounge i gotta keep that guy tight back there. besides looks like it hurts like hell:eek::redface:
     
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    Every time I did it, it hurt. That's why I'm a top.
     
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    It takes a little time but its a learned response and it doesn't hurt after you learn how to relax. We're conditioned not to so its hard to let go at first. Start with a finger. work up to two, use lube. lay back and make sure you're being stroked a lot at the same time...believe me, when you want it you'll be ready.
     
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    I never mastered the art of bottoming either. But I gotta say for me it's the emotional stuff more than the physical. I just end up feeling humiliated and violated.

    I wish I were a bottom (or at least versatile) but I'm 100% top.
     
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    As a versatile bear, let me give you the real rundown - yes, it hurts - at first.

    It takes PRACTICE. It's not something you just slam in, contrary to how the pornos look. The anal entry does expand (regardless if it's male or female), but you have to get past the sphicnter muscle - the ring, if you will. That's the tough part, and that takes PATIENCE. Always best to practice alone before taking on the big guys - fingers, dildo, what have you. And lube - LOTS of lube. Lube is your friend!

    You have to find a fella who's patient, and will work his way in slow at first - so that you can accomadate him at YOUR pace. Once you get past that, then you can let your fella buck away, and feel how great it is to have your prostrate gland massaged from the inside out. You can practice with a vibrating dildo to get an idea to see if it makes you feel good. If it doesn't, then it's not for you. If it does, you'll shoot like a geyser.

    As for being loose - in a word, KEGEL! Do your kegels! It's a simple exercise of tensing the testicles and butt muscles. The benefits is that you keep your butt nice and tight, and strong too. It has the added beenfits of stronger sphicnter and bladder control, and farther-shooting ejaculations!
    Do a wikipedia on it - it's dead simple.

    And just to expand on Bbucko said - the emotional aspect DOES play a roll - unless you're into domination/humiliation scences, find a top guy who'll fuck you with pleasure and patience, not with the intent to immasculate you. I learned to be a great top man from being a great bottom bud - see if it works for you.

    Have a good fuck, buddy!:cool:
     
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    telling ur partner it is ur first time and having him willing to take the time to go slowly will make things much better, u must keep telling urself to relax, if u tighten against him it will definately hurt like hell, slow entry with constantly trying to relax is ur best chance
     
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