D_Fiona_Farvel
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To answer the question posed in the opening post:
I have been in relationships with two men on the small side of average - at least in length, one was/is quite girthy. Unfortunately, both followed two of my larger partners, so my body immediately missed feeling stretched/full and using a variety of positions - including my favorite, which was just impossible to reproduce with someone of small-average size. Don't get me wrong, the sex was satisfying, but I absolutely craved and began to fixate on what I was missing, so I understand the "back of the mind" thing.
In the first relationship I hid my feelings, which probably contributed to the rather dramatic ending. In the second, because we were in an open relationship, he was aware that I enjoyed more and so I did (with the partner that preceded him). I was quite fortunate finding someone I could open up to about my needs,and vice versa, and believe communication is key to intimacy issues. So, if I may offer advice, it is that you do the same - explain what you want/need and discuss openly. Even though the choice is ultimately yours, respect your partner an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings, then consider them and make the choice that is right for your life and situation.
P.S. LPSG is generally wonderful, but if you are a new woman on the site, learn how to add a nice "fuck off" to assholishness, including the trite fake call out. And if asking for an opinion on a matter that is not mainstream, expect a few posts passing judgment. However, with the wording of the OP, mainly the addition of "am I just a shallow bitch," you had to expect predictable responses would follow. Next time, just know you're probably a bitch - hey, I know I am! - but don't actually give a fuck enough to care if anyone else thinks so as well. :wink: Welcome!
I have been in relationships with two men on the small side of average - at least in length, one was/is quite girthy. Unfortunately, both followed two of my larger partners, so my body immediately missed feeling stretched/full and using a variety of positions - including my favorite, which was just impossible to reproduce with someone of small-average size. Don't get me wrong, the sex was satisfying, but I absolutely craved and began to fixate on what I was missing, so I understand the "back of the mind" thing.
In the first relationship I hid my feelings, which probably contributed to the rather dramatic ending. In the second, because we were in an open relationship, he was aware that I enjoyed more and so I did (with the partner that preceded him). I was quite fortunate finding someone I could open up to about my needs,and vice versa, and believe communication is key to intimacy issues. So, if I may offer advice, it is that you do the same - explain what you want/need and discuss openly. Even though the choice is ultimately yours, respect your partner an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings, then consider them and make the choice that is right for your life and situation.
P.S. LPSG is generally wonderful, but if you are a new woman on the site, learn how to add a nice "fuck off" to assholishness, including the trite fake call out. And if asking for an opinion on a matter that is not mainstream, expect a few posts passing judgment. However, with the wording of the OP, mainly the addition of "am I just a shallow bitch," you had to expect predictable responses would follow. Next time, just know you're probably a bitch - hey, I know I am! - but don't actually give a fuck enough to care if anyone else thinks so as well. :wink: Welcome!
Thank you adding this bit, MB.What, she's a shallow bitch because she's given it a go and it isn't working? So she should suck it up and be sexually frustrated. She's not entitled to sexual satisfaction, is that it?
Good advice! We tried these as well!Not a woman here, but regardless, I believe desiring sexual satisfaction is pretty integral to the structure of a romantic relationship. Now, is he completely against all ideas to help with the situation? Otherwise, you could stay with him and simply use an aid such as some manner of cyberskin extension.
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