Current bf size and ex bf size

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Recently I finally admitted to my bf that I had bigger than him before. He always asked me so I finally admitted that I had (he's about average and I've had 8 inches before). Anyway he's acting really weird and jealous about it, asking me if it felt much better and stuff like that...
I'm sure I'm not the only one that has had to deal with this, so do you guys or girls have any ideas about what I could tell him that would make it a little better? Thanks
 
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Yuck. My ex used to talk about her ex's 9.5 inches. It really didn't bother me, though, because he has a premature ejaculation problem - often goes off before he can get it all the way in. So he may have had an inch on me, but it wasn't doing him any good. In fact, she used to say just that, asking, "What good does it do to have all that if you can't do anything with it?"

I hope your current guy is caring and willing to learn how to satisfy you. After all, the biggest sex organ is the brain, as my bride to be is fond of saying. Sex is 95% mental, anyway. I know, because I've had sex with somebody who was 100% mental!

That makes no sense at all, but it made me laugh, so I left it in.

HickboysGirl loves me and never leaves me in doubt about anything. That alone makes EVERYTHING I do with her incredible, from the trout stream to the kitchen to the movie theatre to the restaurant to the bedroom. Even to the altar.

I hope your guy understands that you're with him by choice, that you left the other guy over other issues, and that you are not so shallow that you would choose a partner based on the size of his cock.

Then when you break up with him, tell him it's because he has a small dick and you were lying all along, as riderocket says. I've had it done to me before. :doh: :cockblockedsad: Some people can be so cruel.
 
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Hey sexychick, I saw you posted this in another thread:

"I realized it when I went from my 2nd boyfriend (8 inches) to my 3rd boyfriend (5 inches). Not that I care that much about size, but that's when I noticed that I preferred them big."

You may be sending out signals and not even realizing it. Like a dissapointed sigh when you first see it, or acting disinterested during sex. And he may be picking up on these things. First you have to be honest with yourself about how important size is. You sound like your trying to convince yourself that it's not that important even though deep down it is.

Actually I've noticed this alot with women and penis size. It's obvious that they strongly prefer the bigger ones but most refuse to admit this. Whereas men have no problem talking about how they love women with big breasts. It's 2006, equality is here, why not just admit to it?

Props to Madam Zora, a woman truly ahead of her time... :)
 
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I know how your bf feels, it will get better, I found out about my wifes ex s also. I never hounded her for this info, it just happened one day while we were messing around & she was telling me how big I was, as she had done alot of times, but I never beleived her & figured that she just thought that's what I wanted to hear. Anyway at a little over 7" x5.25" I never really thought of myself as anything but average, so I called her b.s. She ended up telling me I was the longest she had ever had, but had 2 that were thicker one just barely, but he was really short & the other was about 6" lenght but really thick. Knowing that women perfer girth to lenght this really hit me hard, & I thought about it alot for a while, but never asked foor anymore details. It doesn't bother me that much anymore, I still think about it from time to time, but I can't do anything about it so why stress over it. It will get better for him. Sorry if this is hard to read, I suck at the internet , spelling & gramer so I don't normally post in forums.
 
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My wife and I are very open about our past lovers. She had admitted that a big penis turns her on. She said just the visual of it getting erect is extremely sexy. I am average sized and don't mind that she feels this way. I love the honesty between us. I had an ex gf wit a J-Lo type ass that my wife doesn't come close to having so it's all the same. Men prefer some things that there wives don't have and women prefer a big penis.
 
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I recently had an amicable split with a girlfriend who was an unabashed size queen. We still are friends and hang out frequently.

As I expected, she quickly had a new boyfriend. When we were shooting the breeze, I dropped an innuendo about him giving her the big one. She responded by saying "Actually, he's smaller than you. Significantly smaller." She followed it with a sad little pout and a shrug.

The embarrassing thing was I was a little turned on by this info. God, I am a sick fuck.
 
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my gf and me

she said me that Im the best in bed for her, so she admited it , tomorrow we have talked about my penis size. She has asked me how thick was my cock.
I thought she was thinking that Im big, but she said that she was not sure enough thick. then I asked "whats the biggest she ever had" , first she didnt want to talk about it. after my insistences she told me that she has never measured a cock before but Im absolutely not the biggest for her.

I was disappointment , cause I was 8.5 x 6, I have asked how big was he, she said that she didnt know.but said Im not the biggest. and said size is not important too. Of course I m not the biggest cock in the world. but I think a have good package. hearing that made me so bad, maybe rubbish but its happened.

Now I havent mood for making sex with her, thought she still claiming Im the best for her in her whole life. What a rubbish obsession is that.So what do u think guys/girls... impressing women with my size and performance is the biggest turn on for me.so I feel bad now and havent mood for sex.
 
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Marco1 said:
My wife and I are very open about our past lovers. She had admitted that a big penis turns her on. She said just the visual of it getting erect is extremely sexy.
I definitely know this to be true, but for a different reason than most posters to this thread.

I model for art groups and classes and every once in a great while there will be a female artist or student who makes it known either verbally or otherwise that she is quite intrigued by my penis.

Just the other day I was modeling for a college class who apparently had never drawn from the figure before, so there seemed to be a lot of nervous tension in the air. After a male student cut out of class early the only girl in the class said "I think you scared off Jerry with your big wang." I don't know if I'd call that insecurity on her part or just immaturity. It certainly shows that she needs to get her head screwed on right about drawing class, because that's not what it's about.


When it comes to sex play, consideration of penis size is fair game I think. It's not the sole purview of men, however.
 
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It is really about the confidence that one has with their tool. It has to be certain size, but after that, it is more about the technique.

It takes time, but if you "stroke" his ego, he will be fine.
 
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yeah, he needs to learn to be ok with the fact that he isnt the biggest you have had....he has got to learn that you are with him for more than just a big cock.....

my gf and i, i didnt even ask the question, but it some how came up and she told me that i am the second thickest that she has had, and not by much, and thick is way better than length(for her that is). but after she said that i was like "uhhh, ok....thats fine". he needs to come to reality that other guys out there are bigger! hehe, but as long as you dont go off and fuck another guy, then he should be ok with the fact you have had bigger. my gf has had bigger, but we have amazing sex and she cant imagine being with anyone else, she has even said to friends that if we broke up, she doesnt think anyone else would compare to the sex we have......now i will take that comment over "you have the biggest cock ive ever seen!" comment anyday. big dicks arent always the best in bed. they may be impressive to look at, but that might be it. he needs to, as what was said beforehand, "man up".....it isnt your fault, you were at least honest with him....honesty is much more better then lying about it and then him somehow finding out later on
 
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udubcrew said:
I recently got a drunken "I miss your big cock...he was so good to me" text message from my ex who moved on to another guy recently. I messaged her back with a question mark and she messaged me back with "you soft=him hard :-(" I've been smiling for 3 days straight. I can't imagine how crushed i would feel if I were in his shoes and found out though.

See, this is actually really hot, though, when you consider how powerful your big cock is. When I had a g/f dump me because she found someone bigger, I was so crushed I couldn't have sex for a year. But then when I saw her again and she told me about how she had begged for her big-dicked lover's cock when she had been so aloof with me, I just suddenly totally accepted it and enjoyed it. A few months later I found the love of my life, the woman who was meant for me and preferred my size over the super-big predecessor. But the lust my previous g/f had for huge cock still turns me on. And having been dumped just adds to the excitement by proving how important cock size is to some women.
 
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Well I don't currently have a "boyfriend", but to the casual observer it would seem that I am gravitating towards what me likes :tongue: . I am having a little FWB fling w/a lovely younger neighbor of mine who has the magic penis. It defies logic. He's talented but not the most talented guy I've been with in terms of skill, but did I mention he has the magic penis? I recall Zora and me reaching concensus that a bigger guy doesn't have to be that good, he just has to last. Well the fellow I'm referring to is the largest guy I've been with (almost 8X6 says he; seems about right to me), and they should seriously do a blood circulation study with this guy because he gets that whole thing steel hard and keeps it there for ages :tongue: . 24 y/o and he can go for ages w/o cumming. He moved into my apt. complex in January and I saw him around, but we started sleeping together in March. There was a few months break where he was gone for the summer but for the past few weeks he's been back. I wasn't necessarily looking to hot back in bed with him when he got back but whaddaya know. So yup, there you go :biggrin1: .
 
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Hmmm, interesting thread. First of all, hi all, first post, long time reader.

I agree, don't ask if you don't want to know. But what if you don't ask?

When my wife and I were dating, she volunteered the information. She dated a guy for years that was 10.5. My reaction was 3 fold - I wanted to throw up, then I thought about ex's of mine that had 'unique' qualities, and then I realized I was also turned on. Now that many emotions at one time will definitely give you a headache!

Having said that, I've always wanted to be a fly on the wall when she's talking with her girlfriends about sex and especially dick size preference. Certain reactions of hers tell me I'm not getting the whole story...

FTG
 
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Never asked. Although just a bit above avg., all partners have liked my dick & liked talking about it.

Two unsolicited stories from ex-gf's really threw me though.

1) One girl described an ex's cock, using her hands to show his girth, basically made a circle touching thumbs and index fingers, sliding in maybe one knuckle. She remembered it very well. I really remember my mouth dropping open and my heart sinking. What she ahd with him was just mind boggling. It shook me up, but her half rapturous, half digusted memory was very erotic in the telling. Tried to get her to talk about it again, but she was never in the same mood and always dimissed him as a jerk with no further details.

2)The other, happened when a coworker (sexual aquaintance) and I were talking about home life and sibling rivalry. She told me her middle brother picked on her, but her oldest brother was her protector and she always worshiped him with total fraternal fondness. I thought she was going to go into tome incest or abuse story... real bummer. She says "I was home last Christmas. I got up one night to pee and I ran into my brother in the hall. He was naked and he has the largest penis I have ever seen. It is unbelievable. I was traumatized." I'm like, what do you mean? What happened. "Nothing, It was just too much. He's 6'5" and it was like semi... and almost to his knees. It was HUGE... HUUUGE... and disgusting." That childhood relationship was over for ever. She couldn't what she saw.

What's starting to take shape, anecdotally, is an impression that most reasonably attractive and somwhat sexually active woman have experienced SIZE. Whether they liked it or not, & they seem remember the incidents in detail.
 
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I have been with several women over the years that have strongly contended that some of the worst sex they have had was with larger dicks since they always felt uncomfortable. I was the first one with a larger than normal one that could satisfy they and not because of the size but because of my intent on pleasing them emotionally and sexually.

Two of my closest friends both had penises at least 2 inches shorter than I had. One of them had more women and repeat customers than I ever did or anyone I ever knew because he had personality and good techniques and was very good at going after someone he wanted for sex. He did not worry whether he had as large a penis as anyone else.

The other friend always laughed and commented that he enjoyed shooting his cum in as much as we with larger dicks had in piping it in.

I know some guys worry about size since there are size stigmas and comparisons everywhere. If your boyfriend didn't want the answer, he shouldn't have asked. I had one very experienced lady who ooohed and aaaahed at my large one for several years and then she ran off with another guy with a very small dick. I asked her why. She replied that he was much younger and had given her a lot of BS about his techniques, etc, but it turned out that he was no good in bed with her and he couldn't satisfy her, not because of his size but because of his bad techniques, his interest in only satisfying himself once in a night, and his lack of interest in pleasing her. He was also an alcoholic and it affected his ability to get erections multiple times a night as I could. We got together again and I gave her some more good loving and she left him. Size had nothing to do with his problem.

The ironic thing was that she had a small pussy opening and a shallow depth and I couldn't even get all the way inside even when I could get in at all. Many times I could only use my tongue and fingers to please her repeatedly to orgasm. She was really seeking someone with a smaller one so she would be more comfortably size wise.

I would suggest you level with him about your true feelings. If you prefer large ones, go with that. If it doesn't make a difference and you enjoy his, be open and tell him. If he has a hang-up now, he will always be bothered by his perceived potential inadequacy later.
 
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my wife had an affair with a man with a very large penis over a year ago. It still really bothers me. yes, she is back together with me, but I always wonder if she is thinking of that huge dick last year and how much better it may have felt. I notice that when she gives me a handjob, for example, she doesn't even look at my penis - she looks at my face.

Weird thing is, I am very successful, well built and better-than average looking, but am still haunted by not having a large penis. I do fantasize about other girls getting nailed by a guy with a huge dick - just not a girl that I'm with.
 
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I'm not sure my point has come across the way I would like it to. It's not so much the physical aspect of women leaving or cheating on a guy who does not have a large endowment. I think having a small penis and being INSECURE about it can lead to many other issues. It can carry over as to how a guy feels about himself inside and outside of the bedroom. It can lead to personality quirks that I'm sure we have all heard about or have dealt with (napolean complex type stuff). I was always led to believe that you should ACT like you have a big dick, whether you do or don't. Be confident. Because if you act like you don't women can pick up on those insecuties and run with them.

I was with a girl once and knew she had been with someone either the same size as me or bigger, and this was before I was fully grown etc (of course I didn't know it yet). And it caused me to act like such a bitch! I was totally insecure and would say things or think things and act certain ways to the point where I didn't enjoy who I was in that relationship. After that I realized I had to grow up. I vowed never again to be like that and haven't looked back since.

If I act like a girl is going to leave me for someone bigger then the chances of it happneing are probably going to be higher. A lack of confidence because of a small penis may lead to one not being able to connect emotionally or physically in the bedroom, regardless of whether or not she can orgasm. So it's not directly because of a small penis, but what can sometimes result from one's inability to carry themselves as if they don't give a fuck how big or small their cock is, because it's your cock and you should be proud of it and in your mind it should swing down to your knees as your walk around because that is the way you should carry yourself in life, in every aspect of it.
 
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My gf told me about a couple of her exes . One had an 8 inch cock one a 10 inch. I only have about 6 inches but it turns me on hearing about these guys. I get her to tell me about them when she gives me a hand job. She finds it weird that I like gearing how they fucked her but I push her to tell me about them as much as possible. She said the 10 inch was too big, she couldn't get him off because it hurt her cunt and was too big for her little mouth. She had to tug him off and he went down on her.
 
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To quote an old adage ... it's not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean. Someone can be huge and just not be good in bed -- perhaps remind him of that. Plus, the emotional intimacy of the sex always makes it better. Not many men buy the "size doesn't matter" line, but you can tell him that you still enjoy the sex becaues he's good at it and because he's him.
If he still feels inadequate, perhaps this situation is hitting at deeper feelings of inadequacy than just his penis.