Jessica said:
To end a relationship because of the size of a penis is really shallow.
I would not want a BF to dump me because I am not " blonde" , or because my eyes are green and not "blue" , or because my breasts are not as "big"
Do not confuse a particular point of attraction, with a irrational pursue for shallowness.
old thread, but had to weigh in.
great post, very rational, but i think the assertion that ending a relationship because of certain physical attributes being shallow is very subjective.
we are all "built" different ways, including the emotional, physical, and sexual spheres. i firmly believe that some people are hard-wired in such a way that visual stimulation is an extremely important factor when choosing or staying with a mate.
similarly, there are those who have a "lust" for intelligence or humor.
i think it can be selfish, dishonest and a disservice to all parties involved when individuals are not honest in relationships. notice, i did not mention size in that sentence because being honest means being honest about size, balancing the checkbook and who you had lunch with last week.
getting familiar with one's own sexual identity might require owning up to the fact that size (or insert other physical attribute) is more important than previously thought. many people think it is distasteful for physical attraction to be too big a part of one's overall attraction, but we are animals and very different animals at that.
i also think it is erroneous to assume that every man who has big penis envy has some deep-rooted self-conscious issues. as one other member wrote, there is, and i paraphrase, "straight guys with big dick fascinations".
hello, i'm one of them. :tongue:
i would have envy, and would like a bigger dick, because i think they look good in the mirror. of course there are other reasons too. it doesn't mean that i hate mine or that it is a detriment to my behavior or performance.
because we tend to reference our own perspectives when relating to others, it should be easy to understand why a straight guy with a big dick fascination (for lack of better label) might have a hard time not asking, not wondering, and not caring about how he measures up with his lover's former partners.
i have found that a more thorough exploration and examination of one's sexual identity makes any anxieties almost disappear; because we would all agree that there is some correlation between our complete state of being and the level of our sexual confidence, etc.
bottom line is, no one should be bashful about liking what they like and trying to get it. i don't see how different 2 inches is any different than 20 IQ points. (BTW, not comparing or equating the two and, the IQ scale is just a reference point for the analogy and not the holy grail).