Cursed? Doomed to be single?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by italiancollegeboy, Apr 20, 2009.

  1. italiancollegeboy

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    hey everyone. i'm 19 year old bicurious college guy. i was just kinda feeling down in the dumps, a little low, these past couple days and couldn't stop thinking about my romances or lack there of. It's seemed this year i've come across like 4 or 5 girls who i get to know and sorta develop a crush on. i get the idea that the feeling is mutual and i get a little excited. then, out of no where, i learn that the girl is already in a relationship dating some guy. this has happened repeatedly and i just can't get over this, it shocks me. do i have bad luck? is everyone really taken? am i misreading signals? on the other hand, i've heard from friends that a couple guys have been crushin on me.

    just lookin' for input or thoughts
     
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    from what you've said, there's nothing to worry about yet

    it'll happen, more likely when you are not even thinking about it, or trying for it
     
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    italian college boy - Do the girls pass on you when they see that enormous schlong of yours? Sometimes this happens.
     
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    Maybe your imagination is skewing your perspective. Just cause a girl smiles at you does not mean she is into you. Maybe she is being nice.

    The good thing is that you are still young and you are in college. You will have lots more oppertunities.

    If someone is crushing on you, and the info is reliable, then go for the sure thing. (assuming you are interested in the crusher)
    That is reality and it will take you out of the fantasy world which only seems to frustrate.
     
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    Dude I totally feel you, but you'll find that perfect someone soon. This will pass, and things will be great!
     
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    You're only 19! Enjoy your freedom and play the field. I sure did when I was younger. There's lots of time to settle down. Once you are settled down, you will live vicariously through your friends still enjoying the single life, and when you are middle aged, you will look back fondly on your single days and all the girls you got to have fun with. ENJOY IT!
     
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    sounds like a blessing...
     
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    It definitely happens. As much as society attempts to paint a different picture, in many cases girls are just as randy and in an experimental frame of mind in college as guys are. So many times you will have girls show interest.

    I would say to try and keep it going until they see that weapon of your and then may be they become single.
     
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    thanks for the comments, good to hear new perspectives and what other have to say. feel free to continue with your input
     
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    Hey! I know how you are feeling but, dude you are only 19 and in college. Your bound to meet someone sooner or later! Hang in there!
     
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    I'm certainly guilty of having this feeling myself. Slowly running out of options out here at 25 years old that aren't off the market or not interested in me.

    It's a lonely world kiddo.
     
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    Here's the rub: you'll be fine whether you find love or not. Do not try too hard to find love, most of what you think you know about it is myth. Love does not just suddenly answer all your questions or solve all your problems. A woman is a complicated, demanding, expensive, unreasonable thing. Open your ears, and begin to listen to how 50-year-old men talk about women. If you are a young man who can shed your illusions about things, you can ultimately engage in a healthy relationship. The vast majority of people, both men and women, enter into relationships to get something, to gratify their egos.
    If you say to yourself, "How could I make that girl happy?" and work to maintain that thought, you are on the right track. If you think, "She's cute," you're sunk, my man...
     
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    In the meantime, check out the two guys that have been "crushin" (cruising?) you. A little "BI" experience won't hurt you.
     
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