Curved Penis And 'Dry Sex' Woes

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  1. Paul Vincent

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    Hi.

    So me and my girlfriend are in the VERY safe practice of dry sex. Of course I'd like the real thing but I'm not mentioning it until she does or until I get some sort of sign from her...or she opens up more (no not literally).

    Anyways, the thing is my penis curves to the left and this is even more prominent in jeans, even my loosest pair. Therefore when I'm on top of her its hard for me to rub my penis against her womanly parts.

    A good thing to do is have her on top and I push up against her...but then what she does is have us both sit up, and its ridiculously hard for me to stimulate her with my penis (imagine two people sat up, squashed together and trying to rub each other...). Now I don't know if that's a valid or viable position but at least for us it isn't.

    Also, just now we were in the bathroom and I was pushing into her against the wall, but again it was hard to hit the right spot. I mean I might have hit it every other 'thrust' or something but that's no good to me. Then I picked her up and she had her legs wrapped round my ankles, but still I couldnt get contact so I just held her there and kissed her for a while.

    It would be easier if I could take my pants off, my penis needs to be held and pointed in the right direction. But my girlfriend might be offended...and I dont want to do that. You'll probably say ask her, and I will...but any ideas? Comments or anything? I just wrote all that out lol. Most of the time I resort to using my hand to rub her pussy, works well.

    Should I try and straighten my penis out or something? Wear shorts? Help please.
     
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    Paul,

    Talk to her.Obviously if you all are attempting petting she is game to some degree. Tell her how it all makes you feel. Tell her you are going to show it to her.You might talk to her about manually stimulating one another. It will still be outside but both of you might get a bit more satisfaction. She will see what you are working with and learn how to please you and you her as well. YOu know I dont want you to get into trouble or her either but it is beginning to sound like a comedy of errors.

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    "I'm going to show it to you" hehe that would be hilarious.

    But yeah I see what you mean, and we are starting to talk more...so maybe Thursday when I go over I'll tell her...you think it would be easier when we're both drunk? :p
     
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    Paul,
    I wouldn't recommend the "getting drunk" idea. It seems like she has some strong feelings about how far she wants to go with sex at this point. If you solve the problem only by reducing inhibitions with alcohol, you will wind up doing things together that she will later regret. That's no way to proceed when its such a big issue for her. There is no substitute for talking it out and gaining mutual trust and understanding. So that's my strong recommendation. Talk, Talk, and more talk.

    Oh, and by "talk", I don't mean aggressive lobbying. What is needed is a real heartfelt mutual continuing conversation on how to proceed and at what pace. The more she trusts that your concern for her is high, the more she will consider any innovative suggestions you might make.

    I am sure it's frustrating, but communication, understanding, and concern are what lasting relationships are made of.

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    Sorry Paul,

    What was I thinking? LOL! I think that Justasking gave you some wonderful advice. Regardless good communication is key, I probably would have been similar to your girlfriend at that age. So I must commend you for being gentle with her. Best of luck and try not to scare her. Alcohol is a very bad idea she may look at it as coersion when she latter has her wits about her.

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    I know but we're both painfully shy even with alcohol lol. But I agree and we shall talk. It's just frustrating me, the logistics and difficulty of mutual pleasure :D
     
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    Paul,


    I know it's difficult for those of us who are introverted ,but you really can not have the kind of experience the two of you want and deserve. Regardless of what you feel, the two of you need to talk instead of burning with unfulfilled desire....

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