Curvy or Skinny: What's your opinion?

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  1. D_Ivana Dickenside

    D_Ivana Dickenside New Member

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    Someone please tell me that I'm wrong.

    It feels like nowadays men no longer appreciate a little extra weight on women. Seriously, whatever happened to being ok with love handles or having a butt that jiggles a bit? All I ever hear, from men and from women, is that "skinny is sexy."

    A lot of men go on and on about how they would never date a woman who weighed more than they did, or how their wives/girlfriends are so fat/overweight and how they wish they would be skinny again. I read about shit like this all the time and I even encounter people who openly talk about it. I rarely ever hear men say they're ok with their wives/girlfriends putting on a few pounds, or that they prefer thicker, curvy types to the skinny types.

    On top of that, the mass media portrays women (actresses, musicians, etc) with slimmer physiques as what is ideally sexy and socially accepted. Open up any magazine and all you'll see are tall, slim, airbrushed women. Go to the movies and the majority of actresses you see on the screen are also the same. Don't even get me started on porn stars. I mean, extremely round and perky double-d tits on a stick figure? Come on, get real!

    Maybe it's just me, but I really feel like a lot of men no longer find curvy women, or women with a little extra weight, to be sexy. It just seems like they're too busy being fixated on the cultural ideals that women should be skinny shouldn't have a single ounce of fat.

    What's your opinion?
     
  2. strat69

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    one of the sexiest women I ever had the pleasure of hanging with was a "bigger" girl...very curvy, almost chuncky I guess....but she was intelligent, very creative in bed and ...ahem...had one of the tightest pussies I have ever experienced..
     
  3. davidjh7

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    You basically hit the nail on the head as far as what the problem is---people have totally unrealistic expectations, thanks to advertising and ideals that never existed in reality. We are still living in the "Barbie Doll" perceptions of what is attractive. But remember, while many are screwed up over it (and trust me---it is 1000 times worse in the gay world, since the gay world is a reflection of society as a whole, just exacerbated by 1000 times...)But remember, for ANY look, there is someone who finds EXACTLY that look absolutely HOT! The key is finding them, and in you finding THAT person hot as well. It is a crap shoot--you just have to keep circulating until the laws of chance work in your favor. Few people get a free pass, and most people have to come down to earth about the OTHER person as well....thank God that looks are not THE key thing to making a relationship work, or we'd all be in trouble. Hang in there---it can happen, given enough time and patience--your time will come.
     
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    THAT, my friend, is the hardest thing ever
     
  5. nay-nay

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    i couldn't agree with you more. i forget where i seen it, i think on the tyra banks show, she did an experiment where she had a group of females look at the gossip mags. most of them felt depressed looking at them!

    i have been with a guy before that loved that i was a bigger girl. i felt so secure and was beginning to realise that i was beautiful the way i was. we broke up a long time ago and i moved. i had relatives that were always on my case about how much weight i've gained since they last seen me. they tore me to shreds, to say the least. now i'm back down and i have to start all over trying to work up my self-esteem. sucks when your own relatives tear you down like that. :rolleyes:
     
  6. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    omg i totally know how you feel. a lot of my relatives are the same way and it's a total blow to my self esteem.
     
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    Yeah...I know it can be a bummer sometimes. If you think it's bad now - and you're still in your early 20's - try imaging feeling the same but in your 40's - 60's. I love how men on most online dating sites say they like 40 year old women. I thought they meant 40+ year old women.

    Wrong.

    When they say they like 40 year old women most of them mean only that. 40 is their cut-off age. At 41 there's a significant drop-off in men willing to date you. This is true even if they are in their 40 - 60s age range themselves. I can only imagine it's even harder for the more Rubanesque women out there as I'm at least normal BMI.

    I suppose many men's preferences for younger, slender women is
    similar to many women preferring large penises. Although guys have an easier time getting younger, slender women than women do of getting men with large penises. If a person insists one type of preference is shallow then the other is too since they're both based on being attracted to physical things of the other party that can't be changed.

    The guys who prefer younger, thinner women like what they like and want what they want. Attraction is seldom logical. Some things just turn us on and there really isn't much logic to it.
     
  8. davidjh7

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    Nay-nay, my dear, the body is in constant fluctuation---but no matter what, and no matter what any stupido tells you, your face is GORGEOUS--which will not change---you have the primary basic most important feature in a beautiful face, and if I may say so, an incredible chest. Next time someone gets on your case, or you start believing they have ANY validity, go look in the mirror, and remember this statement---a gay man, one of the most shallow, superficial, visually oriented creatures in existence, with absolutely no ulterior motive in trying to get in your pants for selfish personal gratification, told you you were a beautiful woman. This is FACT. If anybody tells you differently, they are wrong. Period. I have studied the phenomenon of human beauty for many years, and how people react and perceive it. You are beautiful. To think otherwise is an error--either on your part, or any others. If you want to lose weight, for health, or energy, or other reasons, fine---if you are healthy and comfortable where you are, that's fine, too. But don't change to meet some ill conceived jealousy motivated put down by a relative. Hold you head high, push that magnificent chest out, and be proud of yourself, and thankful for your gift of physical beauty. And remember, you are far more likely to get that cute stud with the big dick than I EVER will.:tongue:
     
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    If I am interested or attracted to someone, their weight doesn't matter. And it shouldn't matter to anyone else.

    I like both skinny and curvy to be honest, and I'm a skinny guy.
     
  10. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    Nay-nay and Stacy, you both are gorgeous and look perfectly fine the way you are.
     
  12. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    thank you mr. hardcock =)

    <3
     
  13. davidjh7

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    You, Stacy, are a gorgeous creature also---you posses a sensual, beautiful face, and body, for that matter, that will always turn a man's head. I don't know who told you you were fat, they are wrong. You are a woman, and you LOOK like a woman--a real woman, not some Paris Hilton crack whore looking thing. There is a side of me that still has some straight in me, and you definitely bring it to the surface. Face it--you live in LA as well, which is the UBER plastic land. The Industry there has so totally skewed reality of what real people are supposed to be like, I;m surprised you have been able to maintain any sense of sanity at all. You are HOT! FUCK anybody who says otherwise--I have declared it so! (Waves my magic fairy wand :tongue:). I envy the lucky man who is smart enough to pull his head out and win your heart--he is a very lucky guy!
     
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    And by the way, Stacy, I didn't post the last one as an "Oh, I gotta say something nice" statement--it is just the truth--for both of you---your post just came in order after nay-nay's, and I hadn't gotten to YOUR virtual spanking for daring to think that some jerks statement about your looks being anything but beautiful had any validity.:tongue: I can only type so fast...:biggrin1:
     
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    davidjh7 i'm sooo adding you to my buddy list *waves MY magic fairy wand* LOL
     
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    Good---as long as you behave, and start realizing the TRUTH about yourself.:biggrin1: And, BTW, whether they will admit it or not, 95% of American straight males have a total "thing" for Asian women with a nice rack, which you possess...:biggrin1: Work it, girl, and kick the skinny skanks to the curb!:wink:
    Ok--I'll stop gutta speak now--it really isn't my forte` and I don't pull it off very well...:rolleyes:
     
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    My partners have ranged from around 85 to 215 lbs and up to 55 years old.

    Some people enjoy variety.
     
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    To both of you women, when you love yourself,that will project outward
    so that others, can see you in the same way!
    Forget about all the negative things, and images of "the perfect body" shallow advertising types, and magazines tell you. That expectation is not the norm.
    I know plenty of guy's wouldn't date me because, I "didn't have enough
    meat,on my bones!" These were their words! Okay,no big deal,I never had self esteem problems. Though this wasn't always the case. I believe that
    If you look carefully, and have realistic expectations,you will undoubtedly find someone,who will love your gorgeous faces, and curvy bodies!
    cigarbabe:saevil:
     
  19. D_Ivana Dickenside

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    i know, what is this thing about american men and asian women? i was born and raised in LA and i personally think i look like any other woman out there.
     
  20. nay-nay

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    that is the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me, david. brb while i go drain my bucket full of tears. :tongue: lol. :hug: seriously though, i have not cried in a while. this definetely made me cry. thank you. i really appreciate the kind words.

    stacy, you're beautiful. it's good to know someone else understands.

    and thanks bryan, yet again. :wink:
     
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