Curvy or Skinny: What's your opinion?

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That's what's great about the internet though, you get to know the real person. But that's just it, it's the internet. Physical attraction always wins. I'm just as guilty of it as anyone, but it's sad to think of how many great people are being passed up because they aren't as attractive as others. But you have to be attracted physically, there's just no other way around it I guess.

I'm sure that's why I always get passed up, no one is attracted to me. And then they don't get to see what a great guy I can be.

You're right, we do want both. And it's hard to find.

Why are guys not physically attracted to you? You look amazing.:confused:

Well, supposedly different people are attracted to different things.

I actually was very thin in my teens, but I grew up in an area where no one liked "skinny women". Now I'm too fat for the guys who like slim women (which seems to be most of the guys), too slim for the ones who like BBW's, and not busty enough for either group! :eek: I'm pretty "average", although I'm bordering on "BBW" without the curves. I get noticed just as much now as I did when I was slim though. Not a lot either way, or not enough for me (it could be just that I'm starved for attention though! :biggrin1:) I do get noticed though, sometimes. (one guy I recently met at a party has called me repeatedly since then, too!)

I'm as guilty of this as anyone else though. Of course I'm going to notice a good looking guy before I'd notice an average looking guy, but I'd actually be just as willing to date the average looking guy, if the personality is there (same with the good looking guy too - if you're good looking but you're an asshole, forget it! :biggrin1:)

And I've said this before and I'll say it again. There are very few truly ugly people, just as there are very few true "hotties" of either sex. Most people are somewhere in the "average looking" range, myself included. (I like to think I'm on the upper end of "average" though!)
 

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That's what's great about the internet though, you get to know the real person.

I used to think that too... then I discovered delusion or lies transfer to the internet perfectly, and there is really know way to know a person's true personality, other than spending time with them.

Oh... and BedHeadred has such a soft body.... mmmmmmmmmmmm.
 

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First my mind has got to be engaged by the woman, I really don't care how good looking someone is if they cannot stimulate my intelligence, forget it.
Next it is all about confidence, some women exude confidence and that is just my definition of sex appeal,it just makes me go wild, makes me act like a horny puppy.
Looks are last on my list but they are in no way unimportant... I like women to look like women so for me the curves have it, combine that with classy clothes and by fuck I have a permanently hard cock, it is my ideal image of a woman.
 

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Looks is what attracts,personality and intelligience,humor,etc is what makes or breaks things.I've dated(briefly) a few women who were really hot physically but were so wrapped up in themselves,it wasn't worth it.Lots of women I know who are really HOT,have been told they're hot for years on a daily basis and heard every pick-up line in the book,and some of them because of that develop this superior,my shit don't stink attitude.

Directly on-topic,I tend to be attracted to larger women with big butts,thick thighs and calves,and wide hips.It's something that I just developed as I got older,because growing up I got shoved in my face the thin,big-boobed,flat assed image of 'beauty'.That doesn't represent the average woman,and I can't say I'm overly attracted to that type of body,even though there's nothing worng with it.I'm almost 6'2 and 200 pounds,so I'm just naturally attracted to a larger frame.For one thing,any guy who's ever had sex with a big-butted woman understands the benefits of that lol......
 

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Nothing has ever gotten me aroused faster than the luscious curves of a curvy girl. And also, seeing as I am fixated on large breasts, its not easy to find a pair of those on thinner women. Unless they've been added later...
 

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Anyone can be kind on the internet. Take it for a grain of salt. Sorry its the truth. But when I go to night clubs and meat market restaurants, women who are overweight are totally overlooked, they are ignored. If you are 5'5"., 155 lbs. an attractive, successful fit guy won't even look at you. You are background noise.

This is why I've never tried to get a date at night club/meat market. You're right-- like attracts like, and if someone is only looking for the hottest piece of arm candy, they can find it at a club. People who go to clubs to find mates are looking primarily for someone that looks hot. However, the majority of couples I've met (I photograph 20+ couples a year) don't meet in clubs.

If you are realistic about your chances, yes you can find men who will be attracted to you. And that will generally be the guys who can't get the hot fit trim girls. Anyone who says different is lying.

Not all men are attracted to the same body type, and you're silly if you think that's the case. Level of attractiveness is subjective, and though we've tried and tried to make it objective, a look through history shows that different things have been considered beautiful throughout human history and across time and culture, not just individuals.

If you an average woman, expect to date average men. Average income, average build, average cock, average looks. Thats how it works.

I dunno about that. I landed a guy making well into six figures, fit and trim, super-intelligent engineer who went to one of the best schools in the country and I weighed 235 pounds at one point. He's also a doting husband and a wonderful father-- more than most women get in a relationship or marriage. I imagine I had something more to offer other than my body and my cunt.

A woman 25 lbs. overweight can expect to date a man 40+ pounds overweight. And society is real cruel now in defining what is overweight.

Though I agree with the last statement, the first is bullshit and doesn't hold water with even a walk through the mall. I've seen plenty of fit, attractive men with more average looking women and vice versa.

But, think what you want. I'm sure you have avery good reason for your bitterness.
 

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Someone please tell me that I'm wrong.

It feels like nowadays men no longer appreciate a little extra weight on women. Seriously, whatever happened to being ok with love handles or having a butt that jiggles a bit? All I ever hear, from men and from women, is that "skinny is sexy."

A lot of men go on and on about how they would never date a woman who weighed more than they did, or how their wives/girlfriends are so fat/overweight and how they wish they would be skinny again. I read about shit like this all the time and I even encounter people who openly talk about it. I rarely ever hear men say they're ok with their wives/girlfriends putting on a few pounds, or that they prefer thicker, curvy types to the skinny types.

On top of that, the mass media portrays women (actresses, musicians, etc) with slimmer physiques as what is ideally sexy and socially accepted. Open up any magazine and all you'll see are tall, slim, airbrushed women. Go to the movies and the majority of actresses you see on the screen are also the same. Don't even get me started on porn stars. I mean, extremely round and perky double-d tits on a stick figure? Come on, get real!

Maybe it's just me, but I really feel like a lot of men no longer find curvy women, or women with a little extra weight, to be sexy. It just seems like they're too busy being fixated on the cultural ideals that women should be skinny shouldn't have a single ounce of fat.

What's your opinion?

I find you sexy Stacy. If those pictures are of you. I like curvy girls with nicely shaped bosoms. I like the softness too. I'd rather not have someone's [pubic] bone digging in me while I'm "laying the pipe".
 

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That's what's great about the internet though, you get to know the real person. But that's just it, it's the internet. Physical attraction always wins. I'm just as guilty of it as anyone, but it's sad to think of how many great people are being passed up because they aren't as attractive as others. But you have to be attracted physically, there's just no other way around it I guess.

I'm sure that's why I always get passed up, no one is attracted to me. And then they don't get to see what a great guy I can be.

You're right, we do want both. And it's hard to find.

Why are guys not physically attracted to you? You look amazing.:confused:

With the way the world works today you have to be a super model, financially set, and INCREDIBLY mentally stimulating or else you're not worth even the ugliest man/womans times.

It's really quite sad we all value ourselves so highly but no one else dare be on the same level.

:: raises up arms :: 'i'm guilty.
 

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Oooh mama, I looove curvy girls! :)

The smallest girl I've ever been with was a waist 32 and the largest a 36. I love a nice meaty ass and curvy legs, nice curvy breasts YUMMY!

I don't like big tummy's or totally overweight though. Lets say the beyonce Knowles type is my type!

Biggest turn off for me is skinny flat assed girls, my friends always tease me about my choice of girls, and then they go all gaga over girls that look like planks, whats attractive about that is beyond me:confused:
 

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With the way the world works today you have to be a super model, financially set, and INCREDIBLY mentally stimulating or else you're not worth even the ugliest man/womans times.

It's really quite sad we all value ourselves so highly but no one else dare be on the same level.

:: raises up arms :: 'i'm guilty.

What's sad is by doing this we make ourselves miserable by either being alone or being with people who we aren't compatible with in ways that make lasting partnerships and fulfilling relationships.

What I've learned after 7 years of marriage is that the quality of life we experience together is the most important thing-- it's not the money, it's not how hot we are, and it's not how good we look on paper. What's important is that we are kind to each other, trust each other, are attracted to one another, can talk about anything honestly, enjoy being together and also enjoy being apart. We treat each other with respect and rely on each other in good times and in bad. We feel needed and cared for at the same time.

Eventually looks fade. At some point money and success become empty if you're not fulfilled otherwise. Sex can always get better with some work and communication, and bad times only magnify the good times. I can't stress enough how much being practical and looking at things in the long term help make relationships work. Lust and infatuation fade. These things are love.

Love is like a garden. You build it slowly over many seasons, you tend to it daily, and you put your best self into it to make it what you want. It's serene, not fireworks. Love is subtle and sometimes more utilitarian than sentimental. Love is something that need never stop growing but can if you don't tend to it. It's not something that just happens or just exists. It changes. Like a garden, love has seasons. There will be times where it blooms in profusion, when everything seems like serendipity, and where it's precious and perfect. There are times where it lies dormant, when the only thing that keeps you working on it faith that it will return. Most times it's a comforting, homely feeling that becomes woven into the fabric of your soul. It's complex, and difficult to understand. In the end, if you look at it across the years, it has little to do with the size of your ass or how perky your tits are.
 

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A lot of men are saying they like the slightly bigger "curvy" women. I think the appeal of slightly bigger women to men is that they will not be all stuck up about their looks but not have a total lack of confidence either. I've noticed myself that these women just seem like they'd be funner to be with than the totally hot trim women. Maybe the perception is that they will not be too demanding and will just enjoy themselves. Or maybe they will feel more grateful to be with a guy and therefore are willing to put out more.

Anyone can be kind on the internet. Take it for a grain of salt. Sorry its the truth. But when I go to night clubs and meat market restaurants, women who are overweight are totally overlooked, they are ignored. If you are 5'5"., 155 lbs. an attractive, successful fit guy won't even look at you. You are background noise.

If you are realistic about your chances, yes you can find men who will be attracted to you. And that will generally be the guys who can't get the hot fit trim girls. Anyone who says different is lying.

If you an average woman, expect to date average men. Average income, average build, average cock, average looks. Thats how it works.

I read this once: How come rock stars and actors and sports stars only date super models? Because they can.

If you are a woman, under the age of 40 and dateless, you have too high of standards in who you want as your partner. I know what men think, despite what you read on the internet, and there is a subtle but real dynamic in dating. Personality will not overcome a dramatic difference in looks. A woman 25 lbs. overweight can expect to date a man 40+ pounds overweight. And society is real cruel now in defining what is overweight.
I agree there is some truth here, and I commend you for having the balls to say it.
But all that shouldn't matter if they are genuinely a great person.

Attractiveness is great and all, but personality and compatibility should matter more at the end of the day.
Yes, I think compatibility can make up for a slight mismatch in physical beauty. I'm not sure how much it can make up for. Like if a man and woman both are very devoted to a certain religion, then that becomes more important than a small difference in looks.
Though I agree with the last statement, the first is bullshit and doesn't hold water with even a walk through the mall. I've seen plenty of fit, attractive men with more average looking women and vice versa.
Women tend to rate other women as less attractive than men. Likewise, men rate other men as less attractive. So maybe it's just your perception that these couples have an attractive man and average woman. It works the other way for me. It seems like the women are more attractive than the guys they are with.
 

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That's what's great about the internet though, you get to know the real person. But that's just it, it's the internet. Physical attraction always wins. I'm just as guilty of it as anyone, but it's sad to think of how many great people are being passed up because they aren't as attractive as others. But you have to be attracted physically, there's just no other way around it I guess.

I'm sure that's why I always get passed up, no one is attracted to me. And then they don't get to see what a great guy I can be.

You're right, we do want both. And it's hard to find.

I agree with you about how the internet can enable us to get to know another really based on how they think and feel...physical attraction can come in later, but I think it comes down to chemistry...someone can be physically attractive yet has no chemistry with you. When I see how some of the women here are fawned over just based on their pics, it kind of makes me sick, and I think if I were to post pics here the men would be on me like bees to honey; but that would just end up pissing me off, because I am still the same woman that posts here without my pics. I have decided not to post pics because for me personally, I want my body to be cherished by a man who loves me for my intellect and heart...my body is just his icing on the cake, and I have no doubt he will enjoy it.
 

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I agree with you about how the internet can enable us to get to know another really based on how they think and feel...physical attraction can come in later, but I think it comes down to chemistry...someone can be physically attractive yet has no chemistry with you. When I see how some of the women here are fawned over just based on their pics, it kind of makes me sick, and I think if I were to post pics here the men would be on me like bees to honey; but that would just end up pissing me off, because I am still the same woman that posts here without my pics. I have decided not to post pics because for me personally, I want my body to be cherished by a man who loves me for my intellect and heart...my body is just his icing on the cake, and I have no doubt he will enjoy it.

I agree with your reasoning:smile:.
 

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A lot of men are saying they like the slightly bigger "curvy" women. I think the appeal of slightly bigger women to men is that they will not be all stuck up about their looks but not have a total lack of confidence either. I've noticed myself that these women just seem like they'd be funner to be with than the totally hot trim women. Maybe the perception is that they will not be too demanding and will just enjoy themselves. Or maybe they will feel more grateful to be with a guy and therefore are willing to put out more.

Please, oh please, tell me you do not mean this! Since when should a woman with breasts and hips be more grateful to be with a guy who would prefer her to an anorexic "totally hot trim" woman? Wow...I am just apalled at your statement!
 

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A lot of men are saying they like the slightly bigger "curvy" women. I think the appeal of slightly bigger women to men is that they will not be all stuck up about their looks but not have a total lack of confidence either. I've noticed myself that these women just seem like they'd be funner to be with than the totally hot trim women. Maybe the perception is that they will not be too demanding and will just enjoy themselves. Or maybe they will feel more grateful to be with a guy and therefore are willing to put out more.

Please, oh please, tell me you do not mean this! Since when should a woman with breasts and hips be more grateful to be with a guy who would prefer her to an anorexic "totally hot trim" woman? Wow...I am just apalled at your statement!
There is some disagreement about what "curvy" means. Some take it to mean wider hip bones and bigger breasts, but some mean more fat. I meant women that are a little out of shape seem funner to be with as a first impression. I can't really explain why I have that first impression. I was trying to come up with reasons why I would think that.

You are right, if a girl has breasts and hips and is in good shape, then most guys would be grateful to be with her.
 

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There is some disagreement about what "curvy" means. Some take it to mean wider hip bones and bigger breasts, but some mean more fat. I meant women that are a little out of shape seem funner to be with as a first impression. I can't really explain why I have that first impression. I was trying to come up with reasons why I would think that.

You are right, if a girl has breasts and hips and is in good shape, then most guys would be grateful to be with her.

Thanks for clarifying, it just didn't sound like something you would say and I was horrified! Anyway about your idea of a woman who is bigger being more fun to be with than some skinny woman is probably due to the fact they are not bitchy from hunger that comes when the skinny girls are too busy dieting and counting calories to enjoy life.
 

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What constitutes for good shape? I dont exercise at all. I dont watch what i eat for the most part. Great now i really do sound like a lazy oaf!
you can still be in good shape...it's just genetics...I never had to exercise until I hit my 40's...just good genes I guess!:smile: