Daddy/Boy Relationships?

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    I have always been attracted to older men, so am used to being the younger one in my relationships casual or serious. I recently got out of a relationship and have been online looking for fun. I have met online the sexiest older man ever, the epitomy of my type 45, rugged, masculine, handsome and muscled. Our chats are always hot and we are planning to meet up soon.

    But, basically he is a "Daddy" and wants me to be his "Boy", the chats we have had and the idea of this kind of role play really turns me on. But, I am very curious, can anyone enlighten me on the dynamics/rules/expectations of a Daddy/Boy relationship? Or any experiences of your own current or past? Cheers!
     
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    I don't really approve of them, a relationship should be about equality, when it's only role playing in sex that's not so bad, but when the whole relationship is informed by a kind of daddy/son behaviour that's icky.
     
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    One of my old roommates is 23 and is now living with his boyfriend that is 50. Personally, it's not something for me, but if both of you are happy then you should go for it. However, take it slow. Be sure that it's not all about the sex because sex isn't a basis for a long-term relationship if that is something that you want.
     
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    I feel you, should have been more clear. This isn't a relationship at all. More of a fuck buddy situation
     
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    You may find this article enlightening.
     
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    Make it up as you go along
     
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    Interesting article. But I am not an adolescent boy?! :rolleyes:
     
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    What does he want your role as "boy" to be? I am curious as well.
     
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    The reality is that no relationship is equal. All social relationships are in a perpetual flux of power. I think it's better to acknowledge and negotiate that power than to pretend it doesn't exist.

    Most daddy/son relationships have explicit boundaries and that's a good thing. Some are only daddy/son in the bedroom, others go further so that the daddy essentially adopts his son and they live publicly as father and son.

    The relationship plays out a scenario that is very attractive to some gay men because it exemplifies what is arguably the closest male/male relationship that most men have. Many young gay men feel that their father never validated their sexuality or even their manhood. Their fathers never gave them the sense that it was good to be a man who uses his sexuality to be with other men. There was no role model, no one to mentor them. The daddies feel that they can not only help the younger men to achieve this but the relationship also helps them to heal their wounds by become the older, guiding, stable man the younger man needs-- in essence being the fathers they never had either. If the daddy and the son respect each other's explicit boundaries, this kind of relationship can be extremely stable as both roles take on the aspects of archetypes that each had previously lacked in their lives.

    In a successful relationship, the bond can be extraordinarily close. I didn't understand it, applying some frankly bourgeois preconceptions to this sort of relationship, until I bothered to look into it further. Now I am deeply touched by what some of these men have found in the daddy/son relationship and the extraordinary sense of bonding that takes place.

     
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    Dang, Jason_ELS, you've brought tears to my eyes again. What a wonderful post!
     
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    This article is about boys in their teens and older men. In this case the younger man is 25 which is considered an adult. In the straight world there are marriages with a twenty year difference.

    What this relationship is about is a dominant and sub dominate relationship.

    Some women or men want to be spanked as part of the sexual relationship. In this type of relationship the "boy" is sometimes tied up which is a great turn on for both people in the relationship.


    This is no way is related to a real "daddy/boy" relationship. It is a role play which for whatever reason gives both partners sexual thrill.
     
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with legal age older/younger relationships as long as both are on equal terms in the relationship. I myself am very much in love with my 26 year old boyfriend, I'm 42. we've been together since he was 22. I don't look at him like a son, but as my friend, lover and life partner.
     
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    Is this a Daddy/Boy sexual dom/sub 24/7 type of thing or just the "fuck me harder daddy!" cryout in the bedroom... ?

    Daddy/Boy or do u mean may/december type relationships?
     
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    Thanks Jason_els, that was a really great post! Like I said this is going to be more of a fuck buddy thing, not an actual relationship... For the most part I think it will just be a role play/fantasy scenario. I have been in May/December relationships before and I know they work and I enjoy being with an older man. This is different as I have never been in a "fetishised" May/December scenario. For instance our chats are very hot and its always "Can't wait for you to come suck my big daddy cock..." and "wait till my big daddy dick is opening up your tight boy arse..." etc etc. Its a real turn on!
     
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    There are both types. Usually when the terms Daddy/Boy are used they imply a dom/sub thing. Again, it's not always 24/7. It depends upon the needs of the couple, their environment, and what they negotiate. Some daddys are subs, some sons are doms. Sometimes they vary. Ages don't always match either. There are some sons who are older than their daddies!

    If you question this sort of relationship, let me cite something that I read before bed the other night which touched me very deeply:

    This is from a son writing of his daddy:
    My relationship with Charley deepened and became more profound for us both. It was to be forever in our hearts and minds. But the following September I left for college and we parted. In time our lives took us in different directions. Over the years that followed we kept in touch but I did not see Charley again for ten years.

    Looking back now I realize that I made one error in judgment -- a youthful one born of inexperience. I thought the world would filled with good men like Charley but I was mistaken -- he was one of a kind.

    In 1962 I was back living and working in New York City. I had a partner and we were living together as Master and slave. We had been lovers only about a year but the relationship had ripened and developed along traditional lines.

    The sixties revolution was still in the embryo stage. Stonewall was just a dance bar -- not yet a battle cry.

    When the phone call came, I was not prepared. I hadn't spoken to Charley in three years. We had almost lost touch. He seemed to be pulling away, or perhaps I was. His voice sounded weak and he said that he needed me to come at once. There was no question in my mind that I would go. I had no idea what was happening or why I was needed so desperately but my sense of responsibility was deeply rooted.

    I arrived at the Veteran's Hospital and taken to him. Lung cancer had reduced his once powerful body to a fragile fragment. Only his eyes remained the same as they searched my face, looking at the man while trying to see the boy he remembered from long ago. Time had strengthened me and ravaged him but time is a trick -- an illusion -- and within minutes we were together again. In our minds, the way we had been years ago. Time and pain were put aside and two lovers held hands and shared secrets.

    "I need you to walk me to the gate. I have the ticket but I'm afraid to go alone. Can I count on you?" he asked quietly.

    I nodded. We changed the subject and talked for hours. Finally I asked him when he wanted me to go and he asked me how much time I could spare. I assured him that I could take all the time he needed.

    For three days we wandered together back and forth between then and now. We were sitting out on the lawn and he asked me to lift him out of his wheelchair and sit him down under a tree. We sat there together as lovers, as we had years ago. My arms encricled him and he rested his head against my chest.

    "I think I'm ready to go now. How about you?" he spoke very quietly.

    "Sure, whenever you're ready," I replied, holding back my tears.

    He reached into his pocket and took out a capsule.

    "Just up to the gate, old buddy. I can manage from there."

    I took hold of his hand and lifted it to his lips. He took the capsule in his mouth and I could feel his jaw tighten as he bit down, breaking the seal.

    "Thank you, Sir."

    I closed my eyes and pictured a strong, handsome man striding proudly up to the gate. He turns smiling -- raises his arm and waves just as he had in a Hollywood bus station ten years ago. When I opened my eyes he was gone.
    By Thom Magister from Leatherfolk: Radical sex, people, politics, and practice. Mark Thompson, ed.
     
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    Age is nothing but a number..... at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that's what important. As long as both of you happy and love each other deeply, then who's to say you are not right to each other. I am in a realtionship with a guy who's 10 yrs older than me and we've been together for 12 years now.....

    All you need is love..remember what the Beatles said! :)
     
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    As with ANY mutually consentual relationship between 2 people, it should be about what BOTH parties want, and can put up with. Bottom line should be that both parties get something out of the relationship and are HAPPY.. What works for one doesnt necessarily work for another.. So judgement of others should not come into play here. As long as Both parties are open, and honest with each other, and communicate what they want, I see no problem (considering BOTH parties are of Legal age).

    Maturity comes in all ages, shapes and sizes. If 2 people are lucky enuf to find each other and have any sort of consentual relationship that makes them happy, then God Bless !!!
     
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    So it finally happened and WOW!!! He was even sexier in person than he was on his profile. We chatted, smoked a joint and got to know each other a bit. I was distracted by how unbelievably hot he was! He was like twice the size of me! Massive arms, huge broad chest and big thighs. Sexy smile, beard and beautiful eyes...

    We ended up in the bedroom and it was probably the best first off sex I have ever had. He has the perfect penis! 8", Thick, uncut and hard. Great kisser and the size difference was great, he literally threw me around his bed in every position conceivable. He got me nice and ready with lots of rimming and playing, growling appreciateively as he stuck his tongue deep in my arse. When he first penetrated me, wow, i mean we took it real slow and I was on back with my legs over his shoulders, holding locked eye contact as he slowly eased and coaxed it in.

    The Daddy/Boy dialogue was ssssoooo hot, like I said, new for me, but I loved it. When I was sucking his cock he kept saing "yeah, suck that big daddy cock, thats my boy..." And when we were fucking he kept giving me re-assuring comments "ggggoooood boy" and then when it was hot and heavy dirtier stuff like "yeah, you like the big daddy dick stretching your tight boy hole" and I would reply "oh yeah, fuck me daddy, your cock feels so big in my little hole"

    The thing that stood out for me was that although it was intense, passionate, hot pounding (im still feeling it today!) it was amazingly tender and sweet as well. The thing that I sometimes hate about guys who are strictly tops is that they fuck me like I am a woman. Which is why I like veratile men/relationhsips as the male dynamic is more equal. But even though I am 20 years younger and he is twice the size of my physically, I actually felt MORE manly while I was being fucked... I don't know if that makes sense but it was almost like he was giving me manhood by fucking me. Also, it wasn't a case of big bad man fucking young innocent boy. It was more like my big daddy was so grateful that his willing boy was allowing him to penetrate him...

    Hmmmmm, it was sssoooo hot I had to have a wank about it when I got home. I am relly hoping that I will be able to see him again and build on what we started!!
     
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    Sounds like a really good hot time. I'm glad you enjoyed it. I have a friend that is younger than me. We like to play those games some too. Before I met him I never thought I could do it with a straight face and get into it but I was wrong.

    I think I surprised my buddy. Like some have written in this thread I believe in a more equal relationship. So I treated him as my "grown" boy - a man of some maturity. He's in his 20's and I'm in my 40's. It actually worked for him and I think he appreciated the respect at the same time proceeded with the fantasy.
     
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