Daddy/Boy Relationships?

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If you say you are going out with some cute girl...no one thinks you mean an actual girl...you mean female right...same idea to some degree. It is not about an actual boy

I know but it's kind of creepy with all the pedophiles around.

Your thinking to much again Italian978 :biggrin1:

lol

I had a relationship with a 19yo kid once and he loved calling me daddy and im only 27yo, it was hot hearing him call me daddy when i was pounding his hole.

lmao Work it daddy, work it!

Yeah, really, Italian978... can you actually imagine yourself getting over yourself and having fun?

I am having fun! :tongue: It sounds weird. Like nursery rhymes for adults. Daddy bear had sex with baby bear........

... And what is up with you shaving your pubes? Trying for that pre-pubescent look?

Yes, I want to be someone's boy. :eek:

I much prefer to use the phrase "Daddy/boy" rather than "Daddy/son." Much less of the "ick factor."

Boy is okay but son is icky. :confused:

For those of you who are having trouble understanding, it is not really about age, and it's not about having a father-son relationship.

Then what is it? Just calling you partner dad because you love and respect him? Sort of like a term of endearment maybe.

It is about some more ethereal qualities in the relationship dynamics. A "Daddy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of making the boy feel safe and protected. The "boy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of pleasing Daddy.

But you're both grown men. To each his own.
 

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I know but it's kind of creepy with all the pedophiles around.
Those who keep coming back to this are starting to make me wonder. It is a totally unrelated issue.

Let me ask this: Have you ever heard the old saying, "Most any man can be a father; it takes someone special to be a Daddy"? Do you comprehend the idea that a Daddy (and here, I'm going back to the real daddy, not the role-playing daddy) is something more than a man who ejaculated inside a woman and produced a baby? Beyond the pure biological processes, what is a Daddy? What are the qualities?
Then what is it? Just calling you partner dad because you love and respect him? Sort of like a term of endearment maybe.
I don't call my partner Dad (and "Dad" rather than "Daddy" seems inappropriate - a small, but important distinction). He and I are both daddy-types.
But you're both grown men. To each his own.
Yes, we are both grown men; I'm not sure I get what your point is.

Again, I think it's probably the terminology that caused your mind to slam shut. It's about the energy flow, it's about the dynamics.

Lots of people love to claim that their relationship is 100% perfectly equal and balanced. Great concept, especially if you are referring to how much worth you assign to each person involved.

But in practice, it's very rarely perfectly 50/50 in every aspect of a relationship. My partner is Type A, I'm more of a Type Z. He's very organized, I'm not. So he handles the bill paying, renewing the car registrations, keeping up with our social obligations, association memberships, those kinds of things. Mostly typically "male/head of household" things. On the other hand, I'm a much better cook so I typically do most of the cooking (typically the female/homemaker role, right? Keep reading.) I'm also much more mechanically inclined, so home repairs, such as fixing a leaky faucet or replacing & rewiring a light fixture or reglazing a broken window or changing out the gaskets and hardware in the toilets, all fall into my domain (again, the typically "male").

We each bring something to the relationship, besides just our penises. The same goes for "Daddy/boy" relationships. Two people with unequal qualities can still have equal value in a relationship, and it doesn't have to be all about someone wanting to have sex with a family member.
 

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You would definitely by my Daddy Bear.

And yes I can see you smile.

Can you feel me resting my head on your furry chest sniffing your pit as we watch tv?

MMmmmMmmmmm....

Can you see me drinking all your beer? Can you hear me belching now? Smell my feet through the socks I've been wearing for two weeks, resting on your coctail table? MmmmmmMmmmnnn.....

Take me from both ends! Now my friends!
 

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I don't get it. Daddy/Son, Sir/Boy, Bear/Cub, Coach/Player, boy1, boy2
I know it's not about pedophilia, but the words sound like it.

Focus less on the words and more on the qualities and concepts that we are trying to describe to you. In every instance of which I speak, there are two consenting adults involved.

Thanks sdbg and HM.

My first daddy/son experience was 46 and I was 41, two months ago. I'm going to blog about it but right now Erato is on vacation and I don't know when she'll get back.

Jason_Els -- thanks for your very insightful posts on this topic. Your words have really made me think in ways I had not already.

I much prefer to use the phrase "Daddy/boy" rather than "Daddy/son." Much less of the "ick factor."

For those of you who are having trouble understanding, it is not really about age, and it's not about having a father-son relationship.

It is about some more ethereal qualities in the relationship dynamics. A "Daddy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of making the boy feel safe and protected. The "boy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of pleasing Daddy.

SpoiledPrincess, have you ever had a man just hold you in his arms with your head against his chest? It's a good feeling, right? That's the concept. I get the impression that your "ick factor" is from nothing more than the terminology.

Lex: Love ya!

Love ya Back, Bro!

The head-on-the-chest thing is really what it is all about. DC--that whole example you gave is really the crux of it.

Personally, I do enjoy the fantasy of my dad seducing me for sex. Role playing fantasy. However, I have NO interest in my own father.

I know but it's kind of creepy with all the pedophiles around.
Remember: Consenting adults. No kids around here.

lmao Work it daddy, work it!

That's the spirit! ;)



I am having fun! :tongue: It sounds weird. Like nursery rhymes for adults. Daddy bear had sex with baby bear........
You should look these dynamics on Wikipedia and the internet. It's hard for any of us to give you the global picture in just a few posts. I do, however, really appreciate you trying to "wrap your head" around the concepts as they are new to you.

Yes, I want to be someone's boy. :eek:
C'mere, then Boy! NOW!! Grrrr!
 

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The reality is that no relationship is equal. All social relationships are in a perpetual flux of power. I think it's better to acknowledge and negotiate that power than to pretend it doesn't exist.

Most daddy/son relationships have explicit boundaries and that's a good thing. Some are only daddy/son in the bedroom, others go further so that the daddy essentially adopts his son and they live publicly as father and son.

The relationship plays out a scenario that is very attractive to some gay men because it exemplifies what is arguably the closest male/male relationship that most men have. Many young gay men feel that their father never validated their sexuality or even their manhood. Their fathers never gave them the sense that it was good to be a man who uses his sexuality to be with other men. There was no role model, no one to mentor them. The daddies feel that they can not only help the younger men to achieve this but the relationship also helps them to heal their wounds by become the older, guiding, stable man the younger man needs-- in essence being the fathers they never had either. If the daddy and the son respect each other's explicit boundaries, this kind of relationship can be extremely stable as both roles take on the aspects of archetypes that each had previously lacked in their lives.

In a successful relationship, the bond can be extraordinarily close. I didn't understand it, applying some frankly bourgeois preconceptions to this sort of relationship, until I bothered to look into it further. Now I am deeply touched by what some of these men have found in the daddy/son relationship and the extraordinary sense of bonding that takes place.

As happens with so many of his posts, Jason has written the definitive post on the subject.

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Can I see?

Great. NOw I'm blushing like a schoolboy on his first date :tongue: Thanks Monster :)

But on the subject of Daddies, the only Daddy type that has really turned me on in porn at least is a guy called Derek Steel. Anyone else know him ? Totally buff and sexy as hell.
 

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Remind me one day to tell you how I went from 100% straight to 99% gay in 4 years (I joined in 2004 or so). :tongue:


I'll be waiting...

You shared that with me Lex and I'm still in awe. There are some people on LPSG I really respect but fewer still of whom I am in awe. You're one of them.

Thank you for being here.
 

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No. Not me.

Thank a guy named Jeff who introduced me to it. It's difficult to understand even if you're gay until you experience it yourself. It's overwhelming.

As happens with so many of his posts, Jason has written the definitive post on the subject.

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You shared that with me Lex and I'm still in awe. There are some people on LPSG I really respect but fewer still of whom I am in awe. You're one of them.

Thank you for being here.

Now I am blushing. Thanks jason_els. It has been a tough journey but a remarkable one and one that has been most rewarding.
 

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I much prefer to use the phrase "Daddy/boy" rather than "Daddy/son." Much less of the "ick factor."

For those of you who are having trouble understanding, it is not really about age, and it's not about having a father-son relationship.

It is about some more ethereal qualities in the relationship dynamics. A "Daddy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of making the boy feel safe and protected. The "boy-type" is more comfortable with the concept of pleasing Daddy.

SpoiledPrincess, have you ever had a man just hold you in his arms with your head against his chest? It's a good feeling, right? That's the concept. I get the impression that your "ick factor" is from nothing more than the terminology.

Lex: Love ya!

fuck, i think i'm in a daddy/boy relationship. who'd'a thunk it?
 

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fuck, i think i'm in a daddy/boy relationship. who'd'a thunk it?
Yeah, amazing, ain't it?

That's the epiphany I like to call "wow-you-gay-people-have-the-same-relationships-we-do-but-you-have-names-for-them!"

Now, take off that Master's cap and hand over the riding crop. We know how you like to get dirty!
 

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I was lucky enough to have a very decent man, happily married, to introduce me to what love between two men can be. I was young (19) so I appreciated this gentle guidance he gave, but I don't need a daddy now. Why do you need an older man in your life to be your 'daddy'? How did people get into this kind of role-playing? Doesn't it get tiring for you?

Older man, some of them, are confident, strong, assertive and sophisticated. Very skilled lovers also! Isn't that enough?
 

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Yeah, amazing, ain't it?

That's the epiphany I like to call "wow-you-gay-people-have-the-same-relationships-we-do-but-you-have-names-for-them!"

Now, take off that Master's cap and hand over the riding crop. We know how you like to get dirty!

You know, you keep bringing up that master's cap and riding crop thing and you're going to have to change your percentage from 100%gay. And I know exactly the, um, tools needed to persuade you to do so. :biggrin: :naughty:
 

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My guy is 10 years younger than me...2 months after we first met in Cancun, he moved in with me....our relationship is rather open and more of convenience and sexual needs than based on true love. We each have our own bedrooms even tho most of the time we play and then sleep together. He calls me daddy and isn't offended if I call him boy, son, babycakes, or talking about his boy pussy. We both need our own space and are both closeted bisexuals. Except for me, all his friends are str8 and in their late 20's; thus like this past weekend I had to endure about a dozen other str8 guys coming and going to watch football and drink. Gawd, was about to go nuts acting str8 around them for over 6 hours. I'm not sure that he likes any of my friends who all in their late 30's and early 40's. He also gives me a lot of flack about visiting this site and others. Yeah, I know, the writing is on the wall...THIS RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED TO FAIL.