Daddy/Boy Relationships?

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fuck, i think i'm in a daddy/boy relationship. who'd'a thunk it?

That's HAWT.

VERY.

I'd love to see you and Bliss in some of DC DEEP's leather gear with your men in sub mode--WOW!

Yeah, amazing, ain't it?

That's the epiphany I like to call "wow-you-gay-people-have-the-same-relationships-we-do-but-you-have-names-for-them!"

...

We're not so different after all. The thing that scares people are the similarities (once they know and understand them)

... Except for me, all his friends are str8 and in their late 20's; thus like this past weekend I had to endure about a dozen other str8 guys coming and going to watch football and drink. Gawd, was about to go nuts acting str8 around them for over 6 hours. I'm not sure that he likes any of my friends who all in their late 30's and early 40's. He also gives me a lot of flack about visiting this site and others. Yeah, I know, the writing is on the wall...THIS RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED TO FAIL.

Can you tell me a little more about what you mean about acting str8? DO you mean pretending to be straight by talking about women and pussy or acting masculine?
 

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i don't know about daddy/son scenarios but my bf and i are 11 years apart (me 23 him 34), and we've been together for a little over 3 years now. we met when i was 20 and he was 31. i never thought about being attracted to an older guy, not one in his 30's at the least. but when i saw chris he set me on fire. he wasn't like most of the gay guys i had met. he was lean and scruffy and butch more of a biker/construction guy than the abercrombie/gap boys i always saw (actually he is a construction worker/landscaper). he had just moved in with a guy i knew and turns out he was bi and had been married but divorced for a few years. anyways, from the moment i saw him i wanted him. i would always flirt with him and make suggestions, he would act flattered and wary at the same time. finally after about 5 months i asked him out on a date flat out. he said he wasn't sure if he should be dating a 20 year old but i made a good argument and he agreed. we went out on that first date and we have been inseperable since. we are best friends, lovers, partners, everything. we kiss, we hold hands, make love, get on eachothers nerves. just like any other couple. we are total equals. we were together for a little over a year when we made things totally serious and let our families and everyone know we were together and in it for the long haul. my family was a little nervous when they heard i was dating a 32 year old man and chris had his ex-wife and kids to think about along with the rest of the family but we stuck it out. now my family LOVES him, he even calls my mom mom when they talk and his ex-wife and i are good friends. i even spend time alone with the kids and they sometimes call me uncle allen. 4 years ago if anyone told me i would be "married" at 23 with "step kids" to a 34 year old man i would have called them crazy. but i love my man and he just keeps getting sexier looking every year and after 3 years our sex life is still alive and kicking. we experiment, keep things lively. we still have moments were we practically rip eachothers clothes off and we have sex 7-9 times a week on average. i never saw this coming but i wouldn't trade it for the world.
 

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...Can you tell me a little more about what you mean about acting str8? DO you mean pretending to be straight by talking about women and pussy or acting masculine?

Okay, Sunday afternoon, he had 10 of his friends over to the house to watch the playoff games. We'd agreed it was okay as our living area is large and we have a 60 inch TV. Everyone shows up with beer, chips, etc. and we'd planned to grill out. All that was fine. He and I are both closeted and outwardly are as str8 or masculine as everyone. I didn't invite any of my buddies. I'm the oldest one in the group by 8 years. As far as his friends go, he's told them for quite some time is that we're third cousins and share housing expenses. Most of the conversation and talk was about the games but certainly not limited to football. Jokes and banter thoughout the afternoon. Certainly about women, tits, eating pussy, DPing, etc. As a bi-, we're both fine with that and took part expressing our views. But there was also a fair amount of talk about fuckedup faggots, gays, fairies, fudge packers, etc. Occasionally if some one said something that some one else didn't like the common retort was "why don't you suck my cock, asshole" or "down on your knees, bitch." In retrospect, guess that he and I pulled it off okay, but at times it was real uncomfortable.
 

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i remember this really old guy in his 40's or so used to hit on me all the time at my job. it gave me the creeps to say the least
 

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Okay, Sunday afternoon, he had 10 of his friends over to the house to watch the playoff games. We'd agreed it was okay as our living area is large and we have a 60 inch TV. Everyone shows up with beer, chips, etc. and we'd planned to grill out. All that was fine. He and I are both closeted and outwardly are as str8 or masculine as everyone. I didn't invite any of my buddies. I'm the oldest one in the group by 8 years. As far as his friends go, he's told them for quite some time is that we're third cousins and share housing expenses. Most of the conversation and talk was about the games but certainly not limited to football. Jokes and banter thoughout the afternoon. Certainly about women, tits, eating pussy, DPing, etc. As a bi-, we're both fine with that and took part expressing our views. But there was also a fair amount of talk about fuckedup faggots, gays, fairies, fudge packers, etc. Occasionally if some one said something that some one else didn't like the common retort was "why don't you suck my cock, asshole" or "down on your knees, bitch." In retrospect, guess that he and I pulled it off okay, but at times it was real uncomfortable.

Wow. This is interesting to me. I don not know that I have ever been able to stomach that kind of talk. My own experience was one where I was transitionally bi--I thought (for a time) that I liked both women and men, but realized (it scared me shitless) that this was not the case. I hope you are both able to come to a point where you can be comfortable being who you truly are in front of your friends.

Isn't is funny how guys talk all this gay shit? SUCK MY DICK--like they WANT that to happen. Weird.
 

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I think from now on your friend should entertain alone and spot you $20 to pay for a movie and a few drinks while he has the house.

But there was also a fair amount of talk about fuckedup faggots, gays, fairies, fudge packers, etc. Occasionally if some one said something that some one else didn't like the common retort was "why don't you suck my cock, asshole" or "down on your knees, bitch." In retrospect, guess that he and I pulled it off okay, but at times it was real uncomfortable.
 

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SpoiledPrincess, have you ever had a man just hold you in his arms with your head against his chest? It's a good feeling, right? That's the concept. I get the impression that your "ick factor" is from nothing more than the terminology.

The ick factor possibly is from the terminology which has an incestuous ring to it, and not being a gay man I can only comment from what I've seen but to me it seems that the there's an underlying feeling that the younger man is being taken advantage of sexually.
 

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I can see that until he yanks your chest hair to pull him to his face to suck your tongue down his throat in between gasps of, "Oh yeah daddy, fuck me harder! Fuck me with that fat daddy cock, oh yeah, oh yeah, ride me!" :cool:

The ick factor possibly is from the terminology which has an incestuous ring to it, and not being a gay man I can only comment from what I've seen but to me it seems that the there's an underlying feeling that the younger man is being taken advantage of sexually.
 

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I have always been attracted to older men, so am used to being the younger one in my relationships casual or serious. I recently got out of a relationship and have been online looking for fun. I have met online the sexiest older man ever, the epitomy of my type 45, rugged, masculine, handsome and muscled. Our chats are always hot and we are planning to meet up soon.

But, basically he is a "Daddy" and wants me to be his "Boy", the chats we have had and the idea of this kind of role play really turns me on. But, I am very curious, can anyone enlighten me on the dynamics/rules/expectations of a Daddy/Boy relationship? Or any experiences of your own current or past? Cheers!


but you list your self as GAY ,,,,,, gay ok , ok , YAHOO , sargedadpertrainer@yahoo.com SUBJECKT , best to IM me , ADD ME as . DAD
 

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The ick factor possibly is from the terminology which has an incestuous ring to it, and not being a gay man I can only comment from what I've seen but to me it seems that the there's an underlying feeling that the younger man is being taken advantage of sexually.

I can tell you first hand that this is definately not the case SpoiledPrincess. Like I said before I have always been attracted to older men, as soon as I started having sexual feelings towards men (around 18-19). I am attracted to manly characteristics - Beards, hairy chests, muscles etc. Perhaps there is a pyschological explanation, who knows? But I would argue its just the same as men having preferences for women, ie. petite and blonde, or big and busty etc. We all have things that turn us individually on.

I have had many sexual interactions and relationships with older men, usually 10-20 years older than me, but this was the first time when I had encountered the Daddy/Boy roleplay. Older/younger relationships dont have to have a Daddy/Boy dynamic at all in fact. As a younger male attracted to older men I find it is the opposite of what you have stated. Most of the time I have to do the chasing, and I have to persuade the older man to get involved. I have found that most older men avoid younger guys to save themselves drama, dealing with immaturity etc. It takes a lot of effort/seduction/bargaining to convince the older subject of my infatuation that I am serious and mature enough to be a match for him. Usually if I can convince them to have one date with me I can work my magic though :tongue:

All I know is I am quite mature for my age, am turned on by older men and have great sex and relationships with the types that I find attractive. Like I said, the Daddy/Boy dynamic was new to me. But it was like many of the other posters said (Lex, Jason_Els etc) the dynamic was a turn on and I felt safe, secure and protected. After sex we snuggled and I nested my head into his big, manly, hairy chest and he held me and stroked me and I felt safe and protected. It was nice as a man to feel like that, to be the one who was looked after, protected and catered for. And I can't wait to feel like that again!
 

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i don't know about daddy/son scenarios but my bf and i are 11 years apart (me 23 him 34), and we've been together for a little over 3 years now. we met when i was 20 and he was 31. i never thought about being attracted to an older guy, not one in his 30's at the least. but when i saw chris he set me on fire. he wasn't like most of the gay guys i had met. he was lean and scruffy and butch more of a biker/construction guy than the abercrombie/gap boys i always saw (actually he is a construction worker/landscaper). he had just moved in with a guy i knew and turns out he was bi and had been married but divorced for a few years. anyways, from the moment i saw him i wanted him. i would always flirt with him and make suggestions, he would act flattered and wary at the same time. finally after about 5 months i asked him out on a date flat out. he said he wasn't sure if he should be dating a 20 year old but i made a good argument and he agreed. we went out on that first date and we have been inseperable since. we are best friends, lovers, partners, everything. we kiss, we hold hands, make love, get on eachothers nerves. just like any other couple. we are total equals. we were together for a little over a year when we made things totally serious and let our families and everyone know we were together and in it for the long haul. my family was a little nervous when they heard i was dating a 32 year old man and chris had his ex-wife and kids to think about along with the rest of the family but we stuck it out. now my family LOVES him, he even calls my mom mom when they talk and his ex-wife and i are good friends. i even spend time alone with the kids and they sometimes call me uncle allen. 4 years ago if anyone told me i would be "married" at 23 with "step kids" to a 34 year old man i would have called them crazy. but i love my man and he just keeps getting sexier looking every year and after 3 years our sex life is still alive and kicking. we experiment, keep things lively. we still have moments were we practically rip eachothers clothes off and we have sex 7-9 times a week on average. i never saw this coming but i wouldn't trade it for the world.

That is awesome. I love love stories!:smile:
 

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The reality is that no relationship is equal. All social relationships are in a perpetual flux of power. I think it's better to acknowledge and negotiate that power than to pretend it doesn't exist.

Most daddy/son relationships have explicit boundaries and that's a good thing. Some are only daddy/son in the bedroom, others go further so that the daddy essentially adopts his son and they live publicly as father and son.

The relationship plays out a scenario that is very attractive to some gay men because it exemplifies what is arguably the closest male/male relationship that most men have. Many young gay men feel that their father never validated their sexuality or even their manhood. Their fathers never gave them the sense that it was good to be a man who uses his sexuality to be with other men. There was no role model, no one to mentor them. The daddies feel that they can not only help the younger men to achieve this but the relationship also helps them to heal their wounds by become the older, guiding, stable man the younger man needs-- in essence being the fathers they never had either. If the daddy and the son respect each other's explicit boundaries, this kind of relationship can be extremely stable as both roles take on the aspects of archetypes that each had previously lacked in their lives.

In a successful relationship, the bond can be extraordinarily close. I didn't understand it, applying some frankly bourgeois preconceptions to this sort of relationship, until I bothered to look into it further. Now I am deeply touched by what some of these men have found in the daddy/son relationship and the extraordinary sense of bonding that takes place.


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I don't think there's anything wrong with legal age older/younger relationships as long as both are on equal terms in the relationship. I myself am very much in love with my 26 year old boyfriend, I'm 42. we've been together since he was 22. I don't look at him like a son, but as my friend, lover and life partner.

A very healthy way to look at it!! Bravo to this response!
 

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Most times people probably shouldn't judge any other consenting adults relationships. Enjoy what you have, especially if it is really turning you both on, keep having your hot fun.
 

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shinato

Really happy fr you shinato yr man and family
everyone and everything going for you in yr life
Congrats on securing a decent man and lifestyle while so young
(have to say i am happily endorsing such a i was the older person in our 8 year partnership..he 23 and me 31.)
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