Dads and Sons/Boys

[deano-uk]

How does one go about finding a "dad"?

Start by PMing me son! lol or is it lol:biggrin1:

 

[220483]

Plenty of guys out there looking for a ho but are you sure thats what you wanna be!

I was trying to be the 'comic relief' on this thread!
there's NO money in the world that would buy my body! I give it for free..!
LOL [just being funny!]

 

[1BiGG1]

I was trying to be the 'comic relief' on this thread!
there's NO money in the world that would buy my body! I give it for free..!
LOL [just being funny!]

:biggrin1: LOL, wasn’t sure with your post so I was just being a smartass also but loved your response!

One point is there are a lot of guys that are just in it for the cash/gifts but pretend to be romantically attracted. It usually doesn’t take very long to figure that out but they still try anyway!

 

[1BiGG1]

Start by PMing me son! lol or is it lol:biggrin1:

No doubt, if one looked up “smokin’ hot” in the dictionary I’m sure you will find his pic there! :wink:

 

[alex8.5]

When I was 22 I did date/see a man who was in his late 50's. We had a brief sexual affair, but were better at being friends. He would pay for dinner one day, and I would pay the next time. I never expected him to pay for me because he was older. That was my experience.

Why would anyone want to be kept by someone older, don't you lose your identity by doing that? You basically become someone's personal man whore.

 

[WellHung83]

I'm finding older guys quite hot actually, but only if they really fit a certain type of older gentleman I find sexually attractive. For example and this is for me only personally and in no ways means to insult none here, but a fit 'daddy' type always gets me hard and wanting to bend over asap LOL. I guess the closest 'celebrity' example of it is porn star Derek Steel. Quite a lot older than me but very fit and has a sexy voice.

 

[deano-uk]

No doubt, if one looked up “smokin’ hot” in the dictionary I’m sure you will find his pic there! :wink:

I take it you mean him, not me,

Buy a drink or a meal, but otherwise it's just prostitution in another guise

 

[Careym]

I’m not as old as the guy you mentioned but do date those half my age and am looking too settle down with one (again). With me it’s not like a father/son thing although I suppose it’s like that in a lot of ways. I view it more as somebody I can be best friends with and vice versa and just happen to be attracted too much younger guys. There are a lot of younger guys with issues that appreciate the wisdom of an older guy and there are a lot with no issues that are simply attracted to the mindset of an older guy from my experience. Stability I think is another factor.

Never had a problem keeping up with anybody as I’m pretty active myself.

One thing that is a problem is others often only see a younger guy that dates/lives with an older guy as a piece-of-meat gold-digger and don’t think there could be anything involved like real mutual interest, companionship and/or love. Some can be rude about it even but I expect they are just jealous or simpleminded.

I had never been interested in nor dated guys younger than myself until I met John. He was 24, I was 48. We have been together 3 years now. Age has never been an issue with us except for my own self doubts in the beginning. John simply prefers older guys. He is himself a very mature man in a younger man's skin.
As for keeping up with John? We have sex every day, occasionally twice a day. I initiate the sex at least half of the time, sometimes more often. I find him so incredibly stimulating that I simply can't keep my hands off of him. He is very smart, extremely witty, cute, sweet, and a fantastic kisser. What a stimulating mix indeed.
I pay all the bills and and am very glad to do so. John has access to all my accounts and is way more conservative than I am. I trust him implicitly. By the way, he is in school to become an RN and is an honor student. We consider that to be his full time job. He keeps the house as well, but I do all the yard work. I have never considered that he might be a "gold digger" or taking advantage of me in any way. I am the one who made the decision for him to quit working and go to school to get an education. I would love nothing more than for him to continue his education to get his BSN and Masters if that is what he wants to do.

 

[Careym]

Thanks for the advice guys. I think you are totally right. I will admit the older men that I have chatted to or hooked up with are always very surprised once I open my mouth and start talking and they realise that appearances can be deceiving and I am not your average, flighty, young guy. It's just getting to that part that I find hard! Part of the problem is that I am quite shy so find it very hard to approach someone in a bar even if I am salivating with lust. I am trying to work on it but it is very difficult.

I have recently started going to bear bars/club nights and it can be very intimidating being the "odd man out". I find that a lot of the gay scenes can be ironically very exclusive and not inclusive and a lot of the time I think we judge books by their covers. I tend to get a "fuck of twink" vibe, which can be very off putting... I have just come to the conclusion that I will not be able to get the men I am most attracted to for another 10 years when I am closer to their age!! I will definately try DaddyHunt as I do find I have more success online then I ever do in a bar/club.

But its not all bad and every once in a while I find someone who is interested. I do think appearance has a lot to do with it, and that the men I really like are attracted to the same things I am and therefore I am simply not their cup of tea. I have a friend who I go out with who is only a year older than me but much hairier, stocky and bearded and he literally has to fight them off the lucky bastard. Curse the gods for making me slim and pretty!

I for one am totally unattracted to most guys that I meet in a bar. I never drink more than one or two drinks when I go out because I want to maintain control. That makes someone who is very drunk seem all the more unappealling.
For me, just as you hate to be treated as a twink, I don't want a guy to make an issue of the fact that I am older. I don't mind a mention of the fact, just don't dwell on it. It is pretty much a given that is you are attracted to me, it is at least in part due to the age difference.
I would not want you to "act" mature either. I would want you to be who you are. We both know that you are younger so acting like young guys act with a zest for life and it's experiences is to be expected. I too had that zest when I was your age. What I love in young men is the fact that they have not been hardened by life's experiences and that they look at challenges with a fresh outlook.
I want to be respected, not revered. I will treat you as an equal as long as you act like one. Just be yourself and look for men in places outside of the bar setting. I for one gave that scene up a long time ago.
By the way, although I met my lover (now 27) on Bear411.com, my favorite site by far is Silverdaddies.com. Take care.

 

[Careym]

We do exist! :wink:

Yes, we do in fact exist!

 

[midlifebear]

I'm a bald polar daddy/grand dad type (57, silver beard, moustache, and what hair is left on my head I keep buzzed). The Squeeze is in his mid 40's (we have a running joke wherein I compliment him by saying "Pareces muy bien, aunque tienes 49 años.) Sorry, but the Squeeze does not speak any English (thank God). And accusing him of being older than he actually is always ruffles his vanity, but he likes to be teased.

I've read through all the posts and I'm somewhat startled. I've always preferred men older than me, long before the official "daddy" movement coalesced. Anyway, I'm in damn good physical shape, and despite a little tendinitis I enjoy the fact that I still turn a few heads at the nude beaches and the gym. I wasn't looking for a younger mate when The Squeeze suddenly appeared out of nowhere. Actually, he just saw me on the street one day and followed me 10 blocks to my apartment. "Look what followed me home! Should I keep it?" We've been together 8 years now and he's always had his own job, income, and paid his own way. I've been rather amused to watch him be crowned King of the Bears the last three years in a row at Club de Osos/Buenos Aires. The first two years he also won King of the Otters, but not this year (much to his dismay).

From reading most of the posts, you youngn's (not you, Lex) assume growing old is the worst thing that can happen to a gay man? It's icky to be attracted to us? I don't foresee myself alone, cruising toilets and adult book stores in my 60's and 70's, if I live that long. I'm reasonably confident The Squeeze (we're legally married) or someone equally pleasant will share my bed and my life until it's time for the big dirt nap. I've shed the 'Mericuhn and Anglo gay culture for the more relaxed and open-minded Latin world. Trust me, it's much more sensual. When The Squeeze texts me "¡Te amo!" umpteen times a day, he really means it.

Recently I've noticed The Squeeze has developed a slight panza/barriga/gut. Although it's sort of cute, I'm encouraging him to increase his cardio and lose 5 kilos. But like most gym rats he's sort of stuck on maintaining lots of upper body muscle mass and big, ripped arms. And although he still has a full head of thick black hair, over the last 8 years he's cultivated almost as much on his tasty bubble butt. Above all, he's a sincerely nice and gentle man with a natural demeanor and manners that shock the few friends who, upon occasion, visit me from my previous life in the USA. He's very courteous, but considers most of my old English-speaking friends to be crude. Trust me, I've certainly had to up my game to meet his expectations.

Anyway, remember kids, even Paul Newman is now in his 80's and still looking pretty good. At my age, Paul Newman would make a good "daddy."

You all could do a lot worse than hook up with a mature man who knows, from years of practice, how to push your buttons. :wave2:

 

[nailbender]

I'm always a little suprised at how many young(19-25) guys are interested in me(50). For some I'm sure it's the daddy/son thing but that seems to be a very small %. I 'm sure some are attracted to the large dick but most just seem to like the company of someone older and some have told me they like the attention they get from older guys.

 

[sdbg]

I was riding my bike to work yesterday and another cyclist passed me. He had a nice bike and a great body - you could tell from his arms that he spent time in the gym. He looked really hot in his riding outfit. I caught up to him when he stopped at a traffic light. He had to be in his 60s. I was floored. We exchanged "good morning", and he sped off when the light turned green. Men like that are an inspiration to me to push harder and raise the bar.

The bottom line - fitness is more important than age.

 

[EBlend]

Very interesting thread. I'm 46 and have salt and pepper hair. . .in decent shape. I have sometimes wondered if younger guys can be really attracted to older guys. I'm not specifically looking for younger guys, but once in awhile I see a good looking and mature seeming younger guy and wonder if he could actually be attracted to me. What I'm getting from this is that yes, some are! Guess I'm not "over the hill" yet! LOL

 

[Sabln7]

I am older than most of you guys. I had sexual relationships with guys of my own age until I met my current lover 7 years ago. He is younger than my children. He has an attraction to older men. Our relationship is really different in that we are both into pretty heavy SM, and he really takes the top position, so I don't think I qualify as a "Daddy." However, he has a fetish for older men. As far as finances, we do not live together because of our jobs and their locations. But, we see each other several times a year for extended periods. We each pay our own way. Oddly enough, he has offered to help me with finances even though I am older. I have refused. I like the pay your own way situation better. We are hoping to be able to live together in the same town when I retire. Our sexual relationship is fantastic and pleasing to both of us, and we are good friends to boot. It is a perfect relationship for me, and I am so glad that we found each other even though it is not the kind of relationship that I would have sought out.

 

[B_CBTallthetime]

has anyone found a younger dude that they have made a "project"

Built them into a muscle freak??

 

[B_CBTallthetime]

none?

 

[Principessa]

I'm a bald polar daddy/grand dad type (57, silver beard, moustache, and what hair is left on my head I keep buzzed). The Squeeze is in his mid 40's (we have a running joke wherein I compliment him by saying "Pareces muy bien, aunque tienes 49 años.) Sorry, but the Squeeze does not speak any English (thank God). And accusing him of being older than he actually is always ruffles his vanity, but he likes to be teased.

I've read through all the posts and I'm somewhat startled. I've always preferred men older than me, long before the official "daddy" movement coalesced. Anyway, I'm in damn good physical shape, and despite a little tendinitis I enjoy the fact that I still turn a few heads at the nude beaches and the gym. I wasn't looking for a younger mate when The Squeeze suddenly appeared out of nowhere. Actually, he just saw me on the street one day and followed me 10 blocks to my apartment. "Look what followed me home! Should I keep it?" We've been together 8 years now and he's always had his own job, income, and paid his own way. I've been rather amused to watch him be crowned King of the Bears the last three years in a row at Club de Osos/Buenos Aires. The first two years he also won King of the Otters, but not this year (much to his dismay).

From reading most of the posts, you youngn's (not you, Lex) assume growing old is the worst thing that can happen to a gay man? It's icky to be attracted to us? I don't foresee myself alone, cruising toilets and adult book stores in my 60's and 70's, if I live that long. I'm reasonably confident The Squeeze (we're legally married) or someone equally pleasant will share my bed and my life until it's time for the big dirt nap. I've shed the 'Mericuhn and Anglo gay culture for the more relaxed and open-minded Latin world. Trust me, it's much more sensual. When The Squeeze texts me "¡Te amo!" umpteen times a day, he really means it.

Recently I've noticed The Squeeze has developed a slight panza/barriga/gut. Although it's sort of cute, I'm encouraging him to increase his cardio and lose 5 kilos. But like most gym rats he's sort of stuck on maintaining lots of upper body muscle mass and big, ripped arms. And although he still has a full head of thick black hair, over the last 8 years he's cultivated almost as much on his tasty bubble butt. Above all, he's a sincerely nice and gentle man with a natural demeanor and manners that shock the few friends who, upon occasion, visit me from my previous life in the USA. He's very courteous, but considers most of my old English-speaking friends to be crude. Trust me, I've certainly had to up my game to meet his expectations.

Anyway, remember kids, even Paul Newman is now in his 80's and still looking pretty good. At my age, Paul Newman would make a good "daddy."

You all could do a lot worse than hook up with a mature man who knows, from years of practice, how to push your buttons. :wave2:

I've actually never dated a man that was younger than me. I was sincerely shocked to find so many significantly younger men on this site finding me attractive. I rebelled strongly until I realized that there were no men my age or older here for me. :frown1: Then again an intelligent, physically fit, attractive, straight man of 55+ seems to be a rare commodity and not just on this site but many others.

If you or your hubby have a straight twin send him my way. :flirt:

 

[teddy03]

I have sometimes wondered if younger guys can be really attracted to older guys.

Don't worry we do exist, and I'm sure with your good-looking dick you'll find one soon :tongue:

I love older men, they're more experienced and in my experience much more comfortable in their own skin. Plus I find they're usually hairier than younger guys and a little more meaty.

 

[kiwirower]

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