Thanks for the advice guys. I think you are totally right. I will admit the older men that I have chatted to or hooked up with are always very surprised once I open my mouth and start talking and they realise that appearances can be deceiving and I am not your average, flighty, young guy. It's just getting to that part that I find hard! Part of the problem is that I am quite shy so find it very hard to approach someone in a bar even if I am salivating with lust. I am trying to work on it but it is very difficult.
I have recently started going to bear bars/club nights and it can be very intimidating being the "odd man out". I find that a lot of the gay scenes can be ironically very exclusive and not inclusive and a lot of the time I think we judge books by their covers. I tend to get a "fuck of twink" vibe, which can be very off putting... I have just come to the conclusion that I will not be able to get the men I am most attracted to for another 10 years when I am closer to their age!!
I will definately try DaddyHunt as I do find I have more success online then I ever do in a bar/club.
But its not all bad and every once in a while I find someone who is interested. I do think appearance has a lot to do with it, and that the men I really like are attracted to the same things I am and therefore I am simply not their cup of tea. I have a friend who I go out with who is only a year older than me but much hairier, stocky and bearded and he literally has to fight them off the lucky bastard. Curse the gods for making me slim and pretty!