DADS, and your adult-ish sons.

[TDJ6]

1. I know that if your son is 18 or older, you might joke around with him about sex ... but I'm curious do you have very in-detail talks about sex? Like can he come to you with questions about performance and things like that... or is that too cringey for you?
2. If your son is 18 or older, how would you feel about them getting into porn or like doing onlyfans? If you knew your son was hung, would you encourage it?

 

[deleted627832]

No, neither one of my adult sons have come to me. I am always open if, they feel like taking. What they do in their life, is their business.

 

[GS_PL]

That would be far to cringe-y IMO. A disconnected relationship in general doesn't garner this kind of conversation, ever. Brothers would be a far more likely scenario than a father.

 

[longstroke7]

No.

 

[Longwood8]

Not a dad here, but my dad and I have a relationship where we talk openly about sex and sexual things. We make jokes about sex, make dick and jerk off jokes, shared stories of having hardons at the worst times, but we have also shared our sexual experiences in detail. I've told him about past relationships and hookups. It's not cringey for us, since we're not awkward about it. My dad made it feel natural from the get go.

In talking about porn, I brought it up once about OF and stuff like that and he said it would be my decision obviously, but think down the road if it could cause issues with jobs or future girlfriends, or a wife.

Now that relationship is not the norm for most and I have a couple friends that do have a similar relationship with their dads, but most would die of embarrassment to have those conversations. But I've also had friends that wanted that relationship and wished their dads weren't shy or felt awkward.

So to the dads that feel awkward, open the door slightly to those conversations and gauge their reactions. If they seem comfortable or somewhat okay, then ease into it and see if they open up some. If they seem uncomfortable, then casually mention how brothers/cousins/best buds can all help to answer questions.

 

[Uniballer]

I have a SIL who is a Junior in college. He asked how I paid for school. I looked at him and asked if he was ready for some fun.
I worked as a stripper and escort to pay for my masters. He was a little surprised but had seen the photo album of me back when pictures had negatives and cameras had film. I was flexing in a see through thong then buckass naked hard as a rock.
Then he asked how I got the money to build my Jeep. I had a lifted truck and built a Jeep while in school. He now has my Jeep that I built in 1995 and he is super stud at school with my CJ-5. I told him my best friend and I did gay for pay. I literally got fucked to get money to build his Jeep.
I have earned good money because of my education and ratings. I have great horses, bad ass Jeep and nice trucks and now I saved and bought an airplane. My SIL and daughter are thinking about knocking her up next year. I had a bad cardiac event last April so my survival is in question. When my grand kids are older they will know grandpa worked his dick to get the money to build these toys. He also agreed begrudgingly to the rules.
No road head while driving. I told him the winch is a great place to play, forgetting I am much taller than he but a work block or nosed into a hill works I have been told.
No joining the mile high club while you are pilot in command.
I may have taken them on a flight to join the club. I will never tell. That rule is not negotiable. He is flying a 2500 pound plane at 175 MPH, I expect him to do the job not cum on my new seats.
Yes, my kids know what I am packing and they know I paid the bills any way I could. Even my pastor knows, he was not too surprised that I did it nor was he surprised I owned up to it. I shared the blessings God gave me.
My daughter is hot enough to do OF and other, she asked what I thought. I asked why, she said for money to pay for her schooling, post grad and to get advanced Pilot ratings. I told her we have all of that covered. We have the money. I told her to video them making their child. Video and photograph every week of her pregnancy. That will be meaningful for them when they are our age. Show your friends if you want but don’t charge. Was my advice. I did it for money, we have that covered.