1. dolfette

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    not a quiz. the questions are just starting points if you want them.

    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?
    do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?
    do you feel like society supports you in this?
    do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?
    are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?
    is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?
    are there things that bother you?
     
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    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?
    yes, I think so

    do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?
    they are over 18 now but yes, I try very hard to be here for them

    do you feel like society supports you in this?
    being a widower, yes

    do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?
    well when they were young things weren't quite as 'rigid' as they are now....I am glad to see diaper stations in mens rooms now (nothing worse than a wiggling infant on a nasty sink

    are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?
    they try but...

    is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?
    not sure what you mean...sexual? that was 'dads' area, but we tried to deal with what we were more comfortable...

    are there things that bother you?
    again not sure what you mean
     
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    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?
    I always have been, but it seems like as they are getting older, it's getting less :frown1:. Some say that's typical of teenagers and preteens, but I'm not your typical Dad, and it makes me bit sad.

    do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?
    Just about my entre life is doing stuff for them and with them. Between riding horses, softball, schoolwork, 4-H meetings, (the list could go on and on), sometimes I think, "Gosh, I need some time for me. But then I realize that in a very short time, they will be young adults, and I'll never have this time back again :frown1:

    do you feel like society supports you in this?
    Depends, I do find a bit of pre-judging with a Dad-Daughters relatonship.

    do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?

    Back when they were in diapers, I did. At the time, very few Mens Rooms had changing tables, while all Womens Restrooms were equipped with it. Can't think of any instances where it applies now?

    are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?

    Mine is


    is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?

    Being a Single Dad, I don't really run into that.


    are there things that bother you?

    Not sure
     
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    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?
    Yes, but closer to my son (8) than to my daughter (12). Yet, as he grows, he spends more time with his peers.

    do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?
    Yes, but maybe I should spend less time on the internet, lol.

    do you feel like society supports you in this?
    Mmm, I am not sure about this one.

    do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?
    No, I haven't experienced that so far.

    are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?
    Yes, as long as you are not "abusive".

    is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?
    Yes, but that is not the whole truth. Yet, mothers are eesential when they get sick, lol.

    are there things that bother you?
    Yes, one is that, being an old father, I don't live long enough to see them doing well in their lives.
     
  5. dolfette

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    yours are about the same age as mine, but you've got more than 20 years on me... that must be tough.

    here's wishing you a long & healthy life!
     
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    Child rearing isn't supposed to be a quaint soap opera. And parents are not required to be their kids friends; other kids do that. If you have kids your job is to do parenting and not making excuse. "I love my kids ....... so I stuff their faces with junk food, dress like them at the weekend, buy them designer gear (produced by kids in the third world for 25 cents an hour) without instilling any ethical qualities in their lives". Your job is to nurture not to indulge.
     
  7. dolfette

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    lemme guess...you've had teenagers?
     
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    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?

    Our daughter is 18 and we are close, but she has issues at this point in time unrelated to my parenting that affect our relationship
    do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?
    When she was younger, I would have liked to spend more time with her, but my wife became critically ill, then disabled when she was 10. Between being a primary caregiver and working a demanding job with long hours, it was not what I would have preferred for her.

    do you feel like society supports you in this?

    Yes.

    do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?
    No.

    are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?

    Yes. My contribution at work is never questioned when it comes to time off needed with my family.

    is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?
    Not really, as I have had to be both parents at many times due to our family situation.

    are there things that bother you?
    The things that bother me are mostly because our daughter is unappreciative of the sacrifices I have made on her behalf and only bemoans what she missed in her childhood, even though we went to extraordinary lengths to make it as "normal" for her as possible, even though the situation was far from ordinary.
     
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    Are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?

    My children are now 20 and 18 and while we are close, we're not as close as I would like. This comes from when they were younger, and is mostly due to the concept that the man is the breadwinner. I had a succession of responsible and well-paid jobs. I never worked long hours, but I still wouldn't get home until, say, six in the evening, and often fatigued to a greater or lesser extent.

    Do you get to spend time doing stuff with them?

    From time to time when they were younger, but they do their own things now

    Do you feel like society supports you in this?

    When they were younger, I don't think so, but I also don't think that our society supports working mothers either.

    Do you encounter problems because parent/child facilities are aimed at women?

    I never encountered problems when they were younger.

    Are your employers sympathetic if you need time off or can't work late?

    The employers I had were sympathetic at the time

    Is it assumed that their mother knows more and should deal with the kids?

    No, not at all

    Are there things that bother you?

    Australian society and probably most Anglo societies, do not support child-raising, which makes it difficult to find a balance between work, home and family. This affects men because they are more likely to be working, but it also affects working women.
     
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    are you as close to your kids as you'd like to be?
    Yes, but closer to my son (8) than to my daughter (12). Yet, as he grows, he spends more time with his peers.

    Having been blessed (or cursed lol) with 3 sons, I have wondered what life would (have been) like with daughters... and felt sorry for any horndog that thought he was worthy of dating her lol.....

    3 (+1) hormones is bad enough....

    I do have to add my wifes death did affect my relationship with my sons, at a time when they would be becoming more independent I think we all rallied around each other..I also think to this day they tend to 'keep an eye on dad' more than they would normally...all in all I am honored by my sons.
     
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    wow...
     
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    they sound like good guys...empathetic and caring, looking out for someone else's welfare even when they're hurting.
     
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