im only 5.5 inches hard, only 3, sometimes 2.5, inches soft just depending on a wide array of factors. anyway, i was in the club dancing with ladies, i have no lack of confidence in anyway shape or form, im very out going and at least marginally good looking. but im pretty sure that when they start to actually grind on me, and you know place their but and other parts near my groin area, that they dont feel anything or they feel its small soft. or is this just a misconception and they cant feel anything just by dancing. ps dont say it shouldnt matter.