Dancing in the clubs

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I'm just curious... What type of dancing class would teach you how to dance in clubs? You're not exactly doing the salsa or the tango, or really any time of ballroom dancing... Are you?

Because if I could dance, I would go to clubs just to dance. But I can't, so my only reason to go out would be to hook up (well, that was always my intention, at least).
 

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Hmm. I've always been fine just going to a girl and dance against her. Either in front or behind her. No real words need to be spoken. She either continues to dance or pushes you away and that's that. I've never got smacked if I just started dancing against her ass. Maybe it's the parties I go to.

Dancing byself with confidence also works too.
 

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I'm just curious... What type of dancing class would teach you how to dance in clubs? You're not exactly doing the salsa or the tango, or really any time of ballroom dancing... Are you?

Because if I could dance, I would go to clubs just to dance. But I can't, so my only reason to go out would be to hook up (well, that was always my intention, at least).
so the root of the problem is that the leg humpers just can't dance? :tongue:
 

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for me clubs r quite boring.... and it makes me look awkward, u know why? the music in those places r just too boring to get me into the mood of dancing there.

I prefer Hakkuh places but there r none here :S...Im very picky when it comes to music as well. if there is something I really like, it will make me move xD
 

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Those fucking bulldykes.

Clubs are pointless, OP.

You want to dance with women? Go take a dance class. They actually want to dance with you, there's no idiot mind games or mixed signals, and it's actually fun. Seriously. Way better than mindless clubbing.

^^^^Well that seems like a good idea. A dance class or well any sort of class might be a good idea. Not for picking up women but for learning something new and enjoying yourself. I've never enjoyed clubs, way too much BS going on there.
 

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Thanks Mercurygirl and dolfette it's cool to have some confirmation on that. Taiofox try it out!

No problem. I'll have you know that my advice was reported by someone in this thread as a, "hate speech" (hmmm, I wonder who?). But I'll happily take that ridiculous assertion and file it under, "Huh?" as long as it helped you out. :wink:
 

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I dunno.
I haven't been groped or manhandled for a little while now?
I love to dance and these days I inhabit the same salsa clubs where the men actually know how to dance and maybe the regulars are whispering words of wisdom into the new men and they are taking heed?
The dance floor is heaving with sweaty, grinding couples.
Rarely do you see that tragic posse of drunk girls dancing in a circle around their handbags.
You don't see women spitting at men manhandling them...admittedly there are a lot of bouncers who come down hard on borish behaviors.
My rule of thumb is, don't touch me unless I touch you first and then it has to be an equal touch.
If I ask you to dance it means "dance" so I can see if we are compatible. If you have enough self restraint to hold out with the leg and crotch grinding until I feel there is a connection and some respect.
Going to the usual clubs, yes I have thrown my drink at asshats who have groped me.
Yes, I have marched straight up to bouncers and the offender has been thrown out without quibble.
More often than not giving "the look" has saved things from going further.
 

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Don't ask the women that are standing around watching.. Scan the dance floor and when the tune ends get one of the babes walking off.. Some of the women standing and watching won't dance with you until they see your moves.. When you ask the women, ask them in a fun no pressure type of way.. Just tell them it's just for fun and it doesn't matter if they don't know how.. Tell her the song only lasts a couple of minutes and that it's no big deal.. Once you get one out there on the floor they usually enjoy it and don't stop.. After that dance, make sure you go and get her friend for the next tune..

But you definitely can't go wrong with the babes that are already dancing..
 
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just go to a techno club or even a rave...if there are any near you. A lot of the people from what I hear at raves are really 'whacked' out of their minds however I will say a lot of us go because of the music. If you find the right crowd then you'll find people who dance in groups just in a general motion. The plus side is that everyone around you probably is f'd up so much that they could care less about how you dance.

:D
 

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It is so hit or miss man. Im a really shy guy too when it comes to walking up and talking to women. Ive had reactions all the way from a woman turning around and walking away, to a chick playing with me in my pants while we were dancing.

Dont let this one bad experience get you down. But you may want to try picking up women somewhere other than a club.
 

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You want to dance with women? Go take a dance class. They actually want to dance with you, there's no idiot mind games or mixed signals, and it's actually fun. Seriously. Way better than mindless clubbing.

One of the things I like about salsa clubs over these house clubs is that rather than being about getting drunk and humping a girl, you can actually ask, "shall we dance" and hit it off in a sexy yet consensual way.

Do this. Salsa classes always have more women than men and salsa dancing is hot. The women are hot, hot, hot. If you can salsa, it makes traveling to Latin countries a lot more fun, too.

Great suggestion.