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  1. D_Chocho_Lippz

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    First off, I'm not really sure if this post should go here. If not, mods, move it.

    So, a few weekends ago I went to a club to be with a girl I was interested in. Now, this is a bold move for me who never goes to clubs because I know I cannot dance.

    Long story short, I am pretty sure I made an ass of myself and I ended up leaving early because I felt so out of place.

    In any case... how the heck do you learn to dance? Or, are some people just born with moves and others are not?

    I'm probably not the most coordinated person out there, but I'm surely not the most clumsy. In fact some very clumsy people I know are very good dancers.
     
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    I'd say the majority of people aren't good dancers mate. But the difference is that a lot of bad dancers have confidence which hides the fact a bit. Basically if you are confident and having fun it won't matter so much what your dancing's like (unless it's some really crazy moves you're trying to do haha)

    In my case i usually find that a bit of alcohol always helps to lose the inhibitions- which you seem to have, and then you can just have fun. When in doubt make fun of your own dancing. Works for me and the girls seem to respond.
     
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    Drinking alcohol always makes me "feel" like I'm a good dancer.......
     
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    Follow a few classes to learn the basics, veru fast and it make you look like you know a bit of it and that is cool. I did it and I'm happy I did.
     
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    I wasn't born with natural moves, either.

    Alcohol helps a bit if it reduces anxiety and the awkward sensation. It's not called "liquid courage" for nuthin'... lol. Blending into the crowd also helps. Watch others move and try to mimic them with your own individual adaptation. Try to make yourself "feel" less self-conscious and it'll become second nature.

    Good luck and don't give up.
     
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    I was a horrible dancer till I took ecstasy and learned to be in tune with the beat of music, now I dance somewhat normally.

    I don't recommend doing E though, try alcohol and relaxing.
     
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    Yeah, I've tried the whole alcohol thing and I guess my self-consciousness still is there enough... tried the blending in too...

    The night in question I only had one drink and that didn't do anything for me. I think part of my problem was because I wasn't really invited to her "group." So that made me feel like an extra nuisance... and I probably was viewed that way - an intruder. However, I think that if I was a good dancer, then they wouldn't have minded me being there. So, I just want to know how to dance so in the future I can work my way in there and not feel like I am making a scene.

    If I was ever to go take some classes pieter, where? I'm embarrassed to go. LOL.

    I guess I just need to be more confident. I have faith in myself... until I meet someone who thinks inversely (whether they say it or just imply it or I just get that feeling). Horrible, I know. Hell, maybe I am not a bad dancer in general. It's just that when I feel like I'm doing something wrong, I fall right into being a bad dancer.
     
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    You should just watch how other people dance and try to copy them... you don't really need many moves... just a few good ones along with a few really simple ones. If you just stand in one place and move your body to the beat, that is pretty much all you really have to do. Also, dance in a crowded club... if the club is not crowded, find one that is.

    As a caucasian... you need to work on your hip independence, which doesn't come easily to most white guys... it takes a lot of practice. Check this out for how to move your hips.
     
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    At least you thought you were dancing until somebody stepped on your hand.
     
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    Aint that the truth :wink:
     
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    Take a dance class, It will do wonders...You can go to clubs and be very popular at Wedding receptions!
     
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    In any case... how the heck do you learn to dance? If your family and peers did not expose you to dance moment and dance music, you have to find other ways to get exposed... classes, girl friends, imitation. It doesn't take much, especially since many clubs are so packed that you can't do much even if you could.




    Or, are some people just born with moves and others are not?

    You learn to dance from exposure... usually family, peers and friends. It's a natural progression in many cultures to develop a personal expression around music. And it is considered a necessary part of the dating and mating routine.
     
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    Look into classes at your Local YMCA, if you live on the upper east side of NY, you could get me for Ballroom or Salsa!
     
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    Am I going to have to fly to NY then?
     
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    No seriously! Look into a class.... It's one night a week and everyone there just wants to look cool on the dance floor and you might make some friends. It's really fun!!
     
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    I should go, I know. However, half the problem is my work schedule... I work night shift and night classes are kind of out the window. :frown1:
     
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    Don't worry about it I can't dance that well either. But I RULE at the Horizontal Mambo. I like to think it all balances out in the end.
     
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    I think I'm pretty good at that at well. But, I was hoping to be able to pick a gal up by dancing so we could do the HB later... :cool:
     
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    I found this when looking up some info for another thread. It may help you. It hooks up to your tv so you can see yourself dancing! :smile: There is a freestyle mode and you can connect it to an MP3 player so you can move to popular tunes rather than nursery rhymes.
     
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    This is sound advice for a person like you. You're not trying to do too much, but you are keeping up with the crowd.

    This, I disagree with sort of. A lot of white guys can dance because they practice. And every black person can't dance either:biggrin1:. So, don't believe that. That's the truth. If you want to learn how to dance, then you need to study it, especially for the type of dance that's done in clubs. I love music and I'm always listening to something. You need to find a way to integrate it more into your life if you want to become a better dancer. To move to a beat well, you have to feel the beat, become the beat.

    Make sure that you can mimic a common dance move and know that you are doing a good mimic and then you'll be able to interpret your body to the rest of the music that you hear and you won't have to be invited in the 'group'. Your body language will naturally draw women to you. And just accept the fact that you can't dance now, and be willing to learn...and just feel it, become it. It will come to you...
     
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    What do you mean exactly by "a common dance move"?
     
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    I mean like a hot song that could be out at the current time and how everyone listens to that or it's all over the radio. The common dance move that everyone is doing to date. The waltz, the mambo, salsa...common. A dance that most people can do or relate to. A couple of years ago, that Soulja Boy dance was common. The Butterfly, the Perculator, I can't even remember the names of anything...even if they have names. That's what I mean by common. I hope that helps.
     
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    Sometimes PK, I don't think it really matters. At least you seem willing to learn and some girls love nothing more than to teach a willing novice like yourself even in a club; some may even find it appealing.

    I say screw it if you are having fun what you need to get over is "everyone is looking at me being clumsy"....

    One way to learn is to keep trying. You would be amazed at the number of willing "instructors" who would be more than happy to accomodate you (no pun intended).
     
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    As far as hip and shoulder movements go, hip hop is pretty good -- it can really teach you how to consciously separate your body into movable sections instead of a clumpy mass. The best part about most dances is that you can learn just one style and apply the principles to your body movement in general.

    Also, you may feel silly at first, but you should practice in front of a mirror -- say, when you brush your teeth or whatever. It can help you start visualizing how you look when you do a certain movement (and alter it so it looks even better), so eventually you can feel more confident that you don't necessarily look bad.
     
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    Remember that nobody is going to think about how bad a dancer you are and they are certainly not going to go home and think about how bad you were. Just don't worry what other people think when you are on the dance floor. I feel the same way you do. I am tall and big and think I am going to accidentally hit people if I try to let loose and dance.
     
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    First things first, listen to the beat. Try to move in time to it. Don't try to hit every beat. Vary your rhythm, but keep to rhythm of the music. Counting can help although that can make things very stilted. Relax, especially your lower spine and hips. Don't make the mistake of just doing hip thrusts etc. I think the best advice I've been given is to dance like no-one's watching. Chances are no-one is except for the person you're dancing with. Try mirroring/copying her moves.

    There are some daytime dance classes. It might be worth looking into that. Just Google dance classes in your area. Another point with daytime classes is that you're probably going to be the only guy there, so be ready for that. You may also find that the women who go to them are older, but, as with sex, an experienced dance partner who can teach you a few moves is way better than one who hasn't a clue.
     
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