No, you didn't miss anything. Who would I be married to, with you all the way in the Lone Star state? :frown1:
Men don't really care about all the stuff you are doing.[/QUOTE]
So you say. But the men women stop and stare at, the ones that get asked to dance at clubs, or out to lunch by the water cooler, are the ones who have gone through the prep work that I mentioned. Hell, half the female population does this anyway just to go to work.
I thought they just noticed the ones with big boobs. :biggrin1:
But actually, sometimes I get noticed as well when I go to clubs and stuff - but the guys who notice me usually can't speak English. :biggrin1: (I don't know what it is about me and attracting people who haven't been in the US for very long - which there's nothing wrong with that per se, it's only a problem when there's a language barrier like there often is in these cases.)
To be honest though, it's a battle to try and look better than the other women. At least if you look better than them, you'll have the confidence that men are attracted to.
Some women do wear too much makeup where the best thing they could do is take better care of their skin, because that's where natural radiance comes from. I still promote Mary Kay for this reason, because freakish scents or not, I have seen it work miracles where prescription creams could not.
NJ, you mentioned that some women go through all that just to go to work... I know! Drives me bonkers. I had co-workers at the historical park try to get away with a little "natural makeup", except that women don't have natural black lines around the perimeter of their eyes.
I don't have time to put on full makeup and go all out to go to work. I'm lucky to get out of bed in time to take a shower first. :biggrin1:
I like the mineral makeups for foundation, like Bare Escentuals and Jane Iredale. They don't clog pores. But, they're rather expensive. So usually I don't wear foundation. I do wear eye shadow, eye liner, blush and lipstick though. I don't wear mascara because it irritates my eyes. (I have to be careful with eye liner and sometimes eye shadow too for this reason).
Men and women both are attracted to confidence. The best way to show confidence is not to appear frumpy, insecure or uncomfortable with yourself. You can fix up (no one loves make up more than i do) but going way out of your way to look glamourous is not necessary. Women like to primp and look their best, sometimes we go a little too far trying to look the way WE would like, not necessarily what HE would like.
We also tend to assume if a little make up is good then a lot must be even better.
How I dress or how much makeup (if any) I put on depends on a few things: what we'll be doing on the date (no need to wear a lot of makeup or dress glamorously if we're going hiking, but I'll go more all out- but not spend hours primping because I'm not known for my patience and that bores me - if we're going to a nice dinner). Also, how much time I take depends on how much time I allow myself to get ready. I often lose track of time and end up rushing to get ready because I've spent so much previous time doing other stuff.