Dating a Bisexual Man...A woman's perspective...

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I am a firm believer that once you get married you should not get divorced so I did not want to get married because I still had an attraction to both sexes. I know for myself, I would NEVER cheat but if I got married and then turned out I was more attracted to men, I would feel horrible for seemingly using her. Right now I am honestly very close to 50/50, but only God knows what the future holds.

What does monogamy have to do with bisexuality?
 

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I am a firm believer that once you get married you should not get divorced so I did not want to get married because I still had an attraction to both sexes. I know for myself, I would NEVER cheat but if I got married and then turned out I was more attracted to men, I would feel horrible for seemingly using her. Right now I am honestly very close to 50/50, but only God knows what the future holds.

You can be attracted to both sexes and still get married. Marriage is about love not just about being physically attracted to a person.

I have been married to women even though I am usually more drawn towards me when it comes to physical attributes. When I entered the marriages they were expected to be forever and they were based on love.

During 1 marriage, it was an open marriage, in 3 others I was never unfaithful and the marriage ended for reasons other than appearance. In the other (yes, I married 5 times) I cheated once and that was with another woman....which by the way does happen even in heterosexual people, they have a 1 night stand or an affair with someone who is the same sex as their wife or husband.
 
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My last relationship was with a bisexual man. I never felt insecure about him liking men too, in fact it was fun being able to talk about which men we liked lol. I think it led to some of the most interesting sexual experiences i've had too! I'd date a bisexual man anyday, i found it a rich experience :smile:
 
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I've dated 3 bisexual men in my life. I have to say, I kind of prefer it. Maybe it was the men themselves, but they seemed far more open sexually and certainly could be eager participants in threesomes with either men or women. I just liked it. Even a monogamous relationship seemed easier with a bisexual man. No hangups or areas of the body that he kept off limits to me. Just to be free sexually one hundred percent. Heaven!
Wow...has my perspective changed.
 

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Not in a relationship, but I've always been interested in dating someone whose not so worried about if they are gay or straight, but someone who simply leaves their mind open to fall in love with whoever they fall in love with. I know life doesn't work that simply, and some people are built differently with clear lines of who they are attracted to/sex and so on, but anyway it's always attracted me the idea of a bisexual man.

I'd never thought about more sexually transmitted disease, I mean, hello? Straight men/women have all kinds of STDs going on.

I also didn't associate a bisexual man with someone who naturally 'shares' his partner. Thanks for beefing that topic up a bit.

Interesting posts.
that is true considering 90% of people have HPV1/2.
 

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I could imagine that OUT NOT CLOSETED bisexual men would be more open-minded to both variety of a sexual or non-sexual nature than many straight men, because they lie outside of the typical heteronormative definition of a suitable man.

As long as both are consenting, informed adults, who they are and what they do, does not concern anyone else
 

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I hadn't considered the points ArtofDesire made, but they didn't seem to be an issue for me and the bi men I'd been with. Mostly because we accepted male partners we both liked into the bedroom to join us.

I can see how it could be a problem though. Would it not be the same issue if the situation was reversed, the guy dating a bisexual woman who has a girlfriend on the side? I definitely don't see a relationship with a bi person working out for very long unless the bi activities are incorporated into the physical relationship. Dividing one person's attention to be with a gf at one time, then with a bf at another time would be, well, exhausting. At least if you intend to have any meaning to the relationships with either person. Everyone would lose in the end.

My wife has known I am bisexual throughout our entire marriage. When I met her she was dating another guy and did not stop seeing him for sex until we moved out of state and well after we were married. She has had a couple of other men in her sex life since then and likes that she can talk to me about any aspect of those bedroom relationships. We have incorporated my bisexual side into our marital sex life a few times, but she prefers talking about time she spends with her FWB and hearing about the occasional encounters I have with the guy I see. We have talked about oral sex techniques, preferred penis sizes, the types of personalities we go for and lots of other things. She was seeing a guy some years ago that had an 8 1/2" penis that was straight as an arrow. After seeing him a few times she decided he was not for her because he was hitting her cervix too hard and she would be sore after sex with him. These are the kinds of issues she will talk about, but she would also come home happy as a clam and feeling incredibly energized after seeing another guy. It's being able to talk about literally anything that she loves, and having the freedom to see other men without any issues or hangups.
 
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