Dating A Co-workers ex, unknowingly

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  1. BremerChick

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    So what if you met this really cool guy and everything and your interested in him and then it turns out that he was married to your co-worker how would you handle this?
     
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    If he's an ex- it would depend on my relationship with the coworker. I wouldn't date my roommate's ex, but I know him LOL - but Im pretty direct, Id have the 'conversation' probably with the coworker. Though I seriously doubt it would change my intention if I were really into the guy. :smile:
     
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    "Incestuous pool of labor", get out of that pool before it escalates.
     
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    Im Sorry I have to agree with Transformer........... The Best addvice i can give is............Don't Shit Where You Eat
     
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    Ditto....
     
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    If he's an ex, why should I bother? The only problem might be that eventually you two could get invited by your co-worker, that'd be likely to become an evening full of badly-aimed pieces of custard pie flying around, or probably a very silent evening.

    As an addition to that, I should maybe say that in 20 years of living at AFB's, I find it nothing extraordinary to still see ex's, or ex's dating other women. I saw that nearly on a daily base.
     
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    He's her ex therefore it's no longer any of her business what he does. Although some people do feel rather proprietary about ex's feeling the only reasonable thing for an ex to do is join a monastery or castrate himself, certainly not go around having sex with other women EVER. I don't feel you have to ask her permission to see someone who's now a part of her past.
     
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    If you are friends with your co-worker just out of respect and good faith id say keep away from him. If you dont know her very well then all bets are off and go for it girl.:wink:

    Probably best to make sure he and her are on good terms too so you dont get caught in the middle of their sticky situation
     
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    Um, why don't you just ask her?
     
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    Asking her would be one of those awkward moments and to tell you the truth I dont think she would be honest newayz. I mean sometimes intuition just tells me the best idea would be to think about it first
     
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    You're probably right. My wife says she can hardly believe she's hearing the words that come out of my mouth sometimes.
     
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    Thats a tough one...

    ...OB
     
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    three-way is the only reasonable solution ;-)

    i JEST, i JEST with you!

    workplace romance, very difficult. ex's and all, very difficult. gotta be easier opportunities out there for a sexy young things such as yourself.

    but as for this one, imo it all depends on what you're going for i guess, if its just a wacky one-shot NSA time, i'd probably go for it and keep it all on the downlow. if you're feeling he may be "the one" and you feel this is a shot at eternal happiness, definately go for it, those are rare. if its just a maybe possibly dating scene for who knows how long, no real huge long-term prospects, i'd say there's other fish in the sea and avoid all the drama that could very easily blow up in your face on this one.

    applying some one size fits all rule to "when to date a co-worker's ex" is too cut and dry, black and white for a grey world.

    and btw, is he hugely hung? then absolutely go for it ;-)

    I JEST!!
     
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