rough_neck_9_1
Expert Member
Okay first of all we need a little Forum 101; stop posting multiple answers in your own thread. It's a refelction of a needy attention seeker, it also makes you sound insane beacuase you wont stop babbling to yourself.
Anyway let's start off with the short answer, relationships are complicated
Now in long format let's review;You went out with a man and had sex on the first date, he has expressed to you specific trust issues regaurding sexuality on top of body issues concerning his genitalia directly related to his trust issues. As a result you two are having trust and commitment arguments that is a source of conflict in your now relationship. If I'm not correct so it doesn't matter because that's what you've told us.
Now starting with the sex on the first date aspect;
Men like women, are complicated sexually when it comes to our emotions. I know shocking truth right? The biggest truths aren't original. The truth is ketchup. It's Jim Belushi. Its job isn't to blow our minds. It's to be within reach, and the truth is, people by in large get weird with one another when they start putting tube steak's in meat holes and jiggle them around.
Now take that mess and put into a potentially rushed relationship, or at least its a fair point to argue your significant other sounds like he feels he was rushed into sex. A point of friction also worth noting is his trust issues with women and them being sexual predators in his eyes, your quote of "coke whores and his friends", come to mind. As a result he's even questioning you directly about this, "would you still like me...", now you mentioned the small dick angle. I'm here to tell you that wasn't the point, the key phrase is the "would you" part. This is a question about your commitment to his character, a very common question and the source of it sounds like its because you were an easy lay. Regardless of your level of okay with that, he sounds like he didn't like it, it upset him, so we've already found an easy hole in your relationship.
The next item on my agenda come to you;
Remember how I started off this post by saying you sound like a needy attention seeker? I'm bringing that back up but now in context. By posting a ten or so times to yourself within the same couple of hours I'm guessing you've never been one to take the sound of scilence all that well. This while not directly related to the sex with a big penis part of these forums, it does play into your problems in your relationships. Again going back to your others mistrust with women, I'm guessing being a bit needy doesn't help him out feeling better about jumping into a relationship with you. He already sounds like he feels mistrusting with you and throwing your own flaws and insecurites into the mix doesn't sound like it will help all that much. So the point to this is, you might want to start looking internally for some of the things you could be doing better just as a person.
Lastly, don't bring this to the internet;
I know what this site is called and where you took your question to sounds appropriate, the point is that doesn't matter it was the wrong place. Your significant other was the onyl person you should be talking to about this unless you both agree to seek counsel elsewhere. This isn't rocket science, again its the truth, ketchup anologies and ripping off communty, people feel alienated when you don't bring up the problems concerning them to them. Furthermore hiding it seems like the wrong way to go about this kind of stuff given it inevitably comes back up and then its no longer about whatever bullshit subject the friction was about, its now about the lie.
So I hope that all helps, cheers with the donkey dick and good luck.
Anyway let's start off with the short answer, relationships are complicated
Now in long format let's review;You went out with a man and had sex on the first date, he has expressed to you specific trust issues regaurding sexuality on top of body issues concerning his genitalia directly related to his trust issues. As a result you two are having trust and commitment arguments that is a source of conflict in your now relationship. If I'm not correct so it doesn't matter because that's what you've told us.
Now starting with the sex on the first date aspect;
Men like women, are complicated sexually when it comes to our emotions. I know shocking truth right? The biggest truths aren't original. The truth is ketchup. It's Jim Belushi. Its job isn't to blow our minds. It's to be within reach, and the truth is, people by in large get weird with one another when they start putting tube steak's in meat holes and jiggle them around.
Now take that mess and put into a potentially rushed relationship, or at least its a fair point to argue your significant other sounds like he feels he was rushed into sex. A point of friction also worth noting is his trust issues with women and them being sexual predators in his eyes, your quote of "coke whores and his friends", come to mind. As a result he's even questioning you directly about this, "would you still like me...", now you mentioned the small dick angle. I'm here to tell you that wasn't the point, the key phrase is the "would you" part. This is a question about your commitment to his character, a very common question and the source of it sounds like its because you were an easy lay. Regardless of your level of okay with that, he sounds like he didn't like it, it upset him, so we've already found an easy hole in your relationship.
The next item on my agenda come to you;
Remember how I started off this post by saying you sound like a needy attention seeker? I'm bringing that back up but now in context. By posting a ten or so times to yourself within the same couple of hours I'm guessing you've never been one to take the sound of scilence all that well. This while not directly related to the sex with a big penis part of these forums, it does play into your problems in your relationships. Again going back to your others mistrust with women, I'm guessing being a bit needy doesn't help him out feeling better about jumping into a relationship with you. He already sounds like he feels mistrusting with you and throwing your own flaws and insecurites into the mix doesn't sound like it will help all that much. So the point to this is, you might want to start looking internally for some of the things you could be doing better just as a person.
Lastly, don't bring this to the internet;
I know what this site is called and where you took your question to sounds appropriate, the point is that doesn't matter it was the wrong place. Your significant other was the onyl person you should be talking to about this unless you both agree to seek counsel elsewhere. This isn't rocket science, again its the truth, ketchup anologies and ripping off communty, people feel alienated when you don't bring up the problems concerning them to them. Furthermore hiding it seems like the wrong way to go about this kind of stuff given it inevitably comes back up and then its no longer about whatever bullshit subject the friction was about, its now about the lie.
So I hope that all helps, cheers with the donkey dick and good luck.