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Nope, I never said anything about it in the beginning or during most of our relationship. The only time it came up was when he asked ME if I was only dating him for his big cock.
During the first hookup it was just really romantic, the sex was great, but it was silent ---the first couple times we hooked up maybe the first month it was just really gentle, romantic sex and we both came at the same time.

Then one day we filmed sex on the phone camera and two weeks later I went on vacation to Vegas, and when I got back things started up with the worries ...

**Ohhhhhh I should revise by noting that we did have anal the first date --- I think that probably uhhhh didn't help this whole situation. Whoops....

Neway, I had been hooking up with someone who was much bigger than current bf and so I was totally casual about the whole thing. I guess too casual, who knows, like I said you guys all seem super ready to jump on any girl who uses a word or a phrase that rubs you wrong.

Well I guess I got that all wrong didn't I. I guess Dear Abby will be keeping her job afterall. lol.
 

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well bumblebee, here's my 2 cents.....it all seems pretty normal to me.youre relationship is fairly young, and there are some insecurities there. He could simply be worried that you will leave him or cheat on him if you find a bigger man..know what i mean? If he feels that his cock is the main attraction for you. If he felt his personality was the main attraction he would know that that's something only HE would have.....let me tell you a little about my relationship, it may help a bit...
I'm with a girl that , like you, has a thing for big cocks. She is totally honest and open with me about it. and has been since we very first met. she is also one of the most honest ,trustworthy and loyal people you'll ever meet. and we communicate better than i ever have with anyone before. i know without a doubt, that i'm the guy for her and she's the woman for me...... But she IS cock crazy.lol...She says when she's on her knees in front of me, it's as though i'm not even there, and it's just her and my cock....which is actually a turn on for me , but it sounds like if you said that to your man it would only add to his insecurity. Mostly because he's scared he'll lose you to a bigger one , if one comes along. And that's because he doesnt have the confidence in the strength of your relationship to over power your sexual desire for a big weenie..Just be honest with him, communicate...your honesty will build his confidence in your relationship.....i hope this made sense.....lol.
 

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It was interesting to find this group, because maybe like most big cock loving gals, I thought any guy with a big dick was gonna be happy with it!

My current beau has a beautiful white horse-cock, but he seems like he has a really conflicted relationship with it and with women as a result! I was wondering if any dudes out there might be able to clue me in on to what is going on inside his head?

1) We had sex after the first date -- I liked him a lot already and remember thinking (I hope he isn't super small cuz this kid is awesome!) -- exactly the opposite. Biggest white boy I've ever met. Unfortunately, although we've been seeing each other for seven months he still seems really hurt and confused about the sex on the first date. He asks me a lot whether I like him or I just like his dick. Or he will put me in hypothetical: "What if I was ugly and had a small dick, would you like me then?"
2) He seems really skeptical of women and not very appreciative of their attention, I figure it is because so many girls see that monster and want to fuck it so he has never had any trouble getting girls. But I don't know...
3) It makes me feel a little bit nervous too because it is just so big, and I do love it and always wanted to be with a guy with a massive cock, but when we fuck it is so much like real porn it feels weird. It makes the animal nature of human sexuality so obvious that I feel confused... Also sometimes I am just scared because it is so big it is like a monster!

Otherwise we are really good together, we both love each other and have told each other, we hang out all the time and are really close, but for the first time in my life I feel like sex is actually the most problematic part of our relationship...

What gives??
Why is it so hard for us, and especially for him, to just relax and enjoy all that big dick sex?? :confused:

I guess he might have been suffering from schizophrenic paranoia. Y'all might want to see a professional therapist or a psychiatrist. Dick size should not be that important cuz a woman can give birth an 18" baby after all; 9" dick is nothing compared to the size of a baby.
 

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Suggest going without sex to prove that you enjoy doing other things with him. I don't know how often you have sex now but, I'll bet he comes around fairly quickly.

That's actually a pretty solid suggestion. Go on dates and like without sex - unless he initiates. But also simply let him know that you're trying to show him that you're not only with him for sex. Hopefully over time that will clear up any concerns he may have about the issue. Good luck.

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Just tell him to stop fighting a good thing. you had no idea about his size before you decided you liked him and it's a really lucky bonus. Ask him if he'd still like you if you weren't as hot as your pic.
 

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What gives??
Why is it so hard for us, and especially for him, to just relax and enjoy all that big dick sex?? :confused:

I'm guessing that dating a guy with a large peen is much like a guy dating a woman with large lovely boobies. Sometimes people become insecure with themselves after having been used for sexual purposes. Maybe his last few relationships ended because he found out that it wasn't actually him that "kept" his last partners.

He does sound a bit judgmental on the first time sex thing. If he can't get past that then you clearly won't be able to build a healthy loving relationship. You both need to have a good amount of respect for each other or just some sort of mutual agreement on how you will interact with each other that works for the both of you.

You do seem to be excited about him having a big one but maybe you should focus more on his other qualities. Such as humor, intelligence or something else. If he feels that you are only there for his cock he may have concerns about ED. It happens to everyone but if a guy is known for having a big one but can't really use it well it becomes a real issue.

I'd say cut out sex completely. I know it sounds like crap but just let him initiate it. Express to him how much you enjoy him not only in the bedroom but everywhere and anywhere else too.

Seriously, it might not seem like it but guys get emotional too. He's likely afraid that you don't know how to handle this awesome toy you just found, doesn't want to be thought of as a toy, thinks of you as only a toy, is only toying with you or thinks you're toying with him.

No one wants to be thought of completely as a sex thing. Or at least not all the time.
 

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I would suggest that he join on here and work out a lot of these issues for himself. There is extensive documentation in the forums about the trials and tribulations of having a big dick, and I know I've gained enormous solace and wisdom from it all.

Having a big dick tends to make guys self-conscious in a different way to having a small one. As guys, our penis is the center of our being to some degree. When it's really big, that feeling becomes inflated (mind the pun), relative to the inch. I've had a myriad of different responses, both positive and negative, to my size. You're filled with all kinds of thoughts concerning the impact and influence of your size and what it means to your partner. I would strongly encourage him to work these issues out. This isn't a bad place to do it.

And to you, there is NOTHING wrong with loving sex with a big dick. If he can't appreciate being appreciated, that's his problem.
 

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This thread is hilarious, and I'm said to say, a new low for you petite.

The OP should be saying "MAKE MY BOYFRIEND LIKE ME BECAUSE HE DOESNT"

Have the two of you not realized it isn't about her, but him? That's the whole fucking point. And then when everyone (including a fantastic post by a woman who echo'd the first response, which was so heavily criticized by you two) goes on to make that point, the OP just gets angry.

Get over yourself lady. Why haven't you realized that the fact whether you are genuine or not isn't relevant IF HE DOESNT THINK SO? Thats like basic fucking math.

He doesn't think you are genuine. If you can come to terms with the people that are telling you this and not rage at them for some sort of perceived judgement, you might actually be able to learn something to help you.
 
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This thread is hilarious, and I'm said to say, a new low for you petite.

The OP should be saying "MAKE MY BOYFRIEND LIKE ME BECAUSE HE DOESNT"

Have the two of you not realized it isn't about her, but him? That's the whole fucking point. And then when everyone (including a fantastic post by a woman who echo'd the first response, which was so heavily criticized by you two) goes on to make that point, the OP just gets angry.

Get over yourself lady. Why haven't you realized that the fact whether you are genuine or not isn't relevant IF HE DOESNT THINK SO? Thats like basic fucking math.

He doesn't think you are genuine. If you can come to terms with the people that are telling you this and not rage at them for some sort of perceived judgement, you might actually be able to learn something to help you.

What do you mean, "a new low"?

I don't understand how my telling her that his low opinion of her is the real problem is any different than you saying that he doesn't think she's genuine and that's the real problem. That's just saying what I said using different words. Then you say that's a new low? For what?
 
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Um, having read through all the posts in this thread, I'm not surprised that the hang-ups he has are exacerbated by you. I mean, really? The way you write/talk about him...


We had sex after the first date -- I liked him a lot already and remember thinking (I hope he isn't super small cuz this kid is awesome!)

For all that you say you genuinely like him, why was that one of your first thoughts? Not that I'm trying to say there is anything wrong with being a size queen, but I can see why your behavior could possibly make him feel more insecure.


He seems really skeptical of women and not very appreciative of their attention, I figure it is because so many girls see that monster and want to fuck it so he has never had any trouble getting girls. But I don't know...

Nor am I trying to say he's blameless either. It doesn't sound like he's had healthy relationships/sexual encounters. It does sound like you've been talking with him some at least, which is good. I'd highly recommend talking more. There's also always the possibility that you just aren't a good couple. I don't know. There's only so much information you can glean from a post on a message board online.
 

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I've kind of been on the other side of this. I spent a couple of years with a woman who really couldn't get enough of my cock, which was great for me as all my sexual fantasies were based around keeping a cock hungry nympho happy, she was a gorgeous, if rather overweight woman ten years younger than me and 5'9" (only two inches shorter than me) with a very straight laced attitude to everything but sex.

She kind of got off on the fact she was a nympho behind closed doors and when we were serious in our on-again-off-again relationship we fucked every night and every morning. Going to bed before 10 PM and fucking for an hour or so (i'm no superstud, I just find it hard to cum but so did she and NEVER complained of being sore) and waking up for a quickie at 6AM before her young kids woke up.

We split up many times in those two years, invariably getting together again as 'fuckbuddies' which meant even more sex but less often (we didn't see each other's kids or families at those times) but after a month or so of fantastic sex it would always morph into trying again at a relationship for real.

We always broke up for non-sex related issues (she was kind of a control freak and suffered from a very hard to handle depression) and around these times she was worried that our whole relationship was built on sex, she'd ask if I'd still want to be with her if we weren't having very regular great sex and I was too stupid to just lie.

When we got back together it was always because we convinced each other that sex was very important to us and sexual compatibility was the most important aspect of that. We'd both previously been in frustratingly sexless relationships.

To be honest, my biggest regret since my splitting with my wife (only six months before I met this woman) is that I didn't try harder to make it work.

When I look back the non-sexual aspects of our relationship were pretty good but I wasn't ready for commitment at the time as I wasn't even divorced from the mother of my kids.

My biggest regret these days is that I didn't just reassure her that I loved her for all sorts of reasons. Maybe I could still be spending every night in bed with the only woman I ever knew where the sex was not only better but also as regular as it had been at the start, two years on.

When we finally "broke up" and stopped torturing each other with the idea we were 'meant for each other' we carried on meeting, just to fuck for several months until both of us met other people.

I miss her, that sex was something worth building a relationship on and all it would have taken was a little give and take from each of us.

Maybe you should try telling him what he wants to hear and keep doing it until you believe it yourself. He sounds like a slightly odd guy to me but maybe that's just because these days I'd love to be with a woman who I sometimes suspected only wanted me for my cock rather than one who occasionally puts up with it...
 

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I can't speak for you, but for my former guy, I made a point of letting him know that his big cock was a bonus, not a necessity. I stood up for him and stood by him, and he knew that.

He still calls and wants to reconcile, but I can't be with a guy who thinks it's okay to hit women. He hit me once in the back of the head, and no matter how much I love him (have loved him for over 19 years), it's over. I'm nobody's punching bag.
 
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I find it quite amusing that you titled the thread "Dating a large penis" and not " Dating a guy with a large penis". I think he has a point.
 

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It seems to me your bf has some insecurity issues. None of us here can truly figure the root of those out as we do not know him. However it is possible they reach far beyond his penis size.

The fact now is that you are aware of this issue, and should you chose so, you may be the person to help him make peace with it. Arm yourself with patience and the love you say you feel for him and figure this thing out /with him/.

Deep rooted issues require patience and a whole lot of love. He obviously has something he needs to heal here. The only way to do that is by talking with him A LOT, and most importantly... listening. Show him how much you truly love him by supporting him in getting to the bottom of this. That in itself will be a true testament of your love for him.

Wishing you both all the best in sorting this out.
 

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It was interesting to find this group, because maybe like most big cock loving gals, I thought any guy with a big dick was gonna be happy with it!

My current beau has a beautiful white horse-cock, but he seems like he has a really conflicted relationship with it and with women as a result! I was wondering if any dudes out there might be able to clue me in on to what is going on inside his head?

1) We had sex after the first date -- I liked him a lot already and remember thinking (I hope he isn't super small cuz this kid is awesome!) -- exactly the opposite. Biggest white boy I've ever met. Unfortunately, although we've been seeing each other for seven months he still seems really hurt and confused about the sex on the first date. He asks me a lot whether I like him or I just like his dick. Or he will put me in hypothetical: "What if I was ugly and had a small dick, would you like me then?"
2) He seems really skeptical of women and not very appreciative of their attention, I figure it is because so many girls see that monster and want to fuck it so he has never had any trouble getting girls. But I don't know...
3) It makes me feel a little bit nervous too because it is just so big, and I do love it and always wanted to be with a guy with a massive cock, but when we fuck it is so much like real porn it feels weird. It makes the animal nature of human sexuality so obvious that I feel confused... Also sometimes I am just scared because it is so big it is like a monster!

Otherwise we are really good together, we both love each other and have told each other, we hang out all the time and are really close, but for the first time in my life I feel like sex is actually the most problematic part of our relationship...

What gives??
Why is it so hard for us, and especially for him, to just relax and enjoy all that big dick sex?? :confused:
He wanted a wholesome girl and in a nut shell he thinks you're just like all the rest of the women he's complaining about but you're too hard headed to get the hint he's putting out for you which is to move on or you're very smart.
What he doesn't know is that you're just what he needs, he's just never had it before so he doesn't know it when he sees it, hindsight is 20/20 but most guys are too busy looking at the goods.
Maybe you're a wholesome girl who craves large cocks, he might learn something from you if he'd just shut his mouth.
You're not willing to give up his cock so he fucks you because in his mind you're easy, he knows you love his cock so he doesn't have to put much effort into the relationship so he thinks.
Even though he complains all the time you're right there to fuck him so in his shallow mind he thinks he's right about you but he will not commit to a decision, he's indecisive because he's never met a woman like you.
You're a woman who craves large cocks but also at the same time you care about his fragile ego.
If he had a clue that he really cared about you then he wouldn't have so much diahrea of the mouth, he does so because it's a defense mechanism.
He wants you to break it off because he's too shallow to see it through himself, he's treading on new ground and that makes him very uncomfortable.
He'd rather go back to what he knows than walk blindly.
You just have to show him that he's being foolish without hurting him too much, you're dealing with a fragile species called Homo Sapiens who think they're smart & wise along with an incredible ego.
He's still transitioning when it comes to finding the kind of girl in his fantasy, some wholesome girl that sucks his cock daily because she loves him and not just because she's in love with his large cock.
The only problem with that is that he can't see the forest through the trees, he's already found what he's looking for but he needs it spelled out.
In his mind he's faced with two dilemma's,
One:
He likes the sex he has with the cock craving women he complains about, girls who put out on a first date and don't mind a booty call, they're often the ones calling him back for more.
And two:
The problem with him is that wholesome girls who love to suck cock but are not just in love with his cock or worship it are also the kind that can hold out, which is still hard for him to accept.
He wants his cake & cookies at the same time.
He's complaining about what he doesn't want to give up, he's caught in the middle.
What he doesn't understand is that you could hold out on him but choose not too, he's too caught up in thinking he's always right.
He loves it when a woman slobbers all over his cock telling him how big it is because deep down it boosts his ego, he might complain but deep down he loves it when his cock is the center of attention.
If you're in love with this guy then show him by holding out on sex & see if his mouth lines up with his feet.
Give him a taste of wholesomeness with a dash of this is my pussy not yours and make him put up or shut up.
Your best option might be to dump him and move on, it's up to you but if you think his personality and cock is worth it then go to any lengths and make him understand instead of trying so hard to be understood.


C.
 
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It seems to me your bf has some insecurity issues. None of us here can truly figure the root of those out as we do not know him. However it is possible they reach far beyond his penis size.

I disagree.

Like me, I think the guy has either first hand or perhaps second hand (unlikely) experience of an NSA sex scene. There's nothing wrong with this scene, everyone is adult hopefully, but the rules are you get what you want from it.

If you happen to be a guy with a big dick, you are going to get a lot of attention. I started a thread in the Women's Forum a long time ago after one of my female friends in that scene told me rather bluntly that all the other women only wanted to fuck me because of my dick. And I have to say, they were mostly fucking my dick. As I said before, it is good for the ego for a while, but most people have a limit.

Personally I left that scene as a result and for a few other reasons. The difficulty is though that you know when a woman is fucking your dick and the OP is describing a reaction and behaviour that is reminiscent of this. I have some sympathy however in that how is she supposed to respond if it is really doing it for her. I love to go down on women, and if I thought that you had a remarkable pussy and went wild with it, would you start to wonder whether it was you or your pussy.

Great ass btw, Mystic.
 

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I don't believe any of us here are in any position to analyze this guy in such specifics. Fact remains there is an issue and the best way to resolve issues is through respectful communication, until everyone involved has voiced what is really going on. From there they will both know which foot to dance on and be able to move on, be it together or separate.
 

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Sorry, but I have to disagree again and wonder why if this is your opinion, you made an analysis before.

We may not be absolutey correct, but sharing an opinion based upon experience may just help people to understand what is happening either to them or their "partner". Furthermore, if you ask the wrong questions, the ensuing communication will be of little use, added to which some people either are unwilling or unable to communicate in certain matters.