Dating A Mentally Challenged Person

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I was wondering if anyone has ever dated a mentally challenged person before. My cousin has a friend ith low iq and he has become quite attached to me and Im starting to develop feelings for him. I cant stop thinking about him. Has anyone dated a person with low iq?
 
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i think you need to be careful when using terms like mentally challenged - this includes a wide spectrum of people from those with autism and aspergers who have a different mental make up but may have a huge IQ, to those whom we used to call 'simple' which I presume is what you are talking about.

if you want to engage with a person on more than a social friendly basis then you really need to be sure that you're not taking advantage and reading signals wrong and that the person involved truly understands the implications.

If however you're merely saying he has a low iq (judged how? ) but he is mentally aware thats fine - but don't associate low IQ with lack of intelligence which comes in many forms - and high IQ doesn't equate to intelligence either (we've enough daily proof of that with our politicians and the likes of Lehman brothers).

So you do need to phrase your question more carefully i think, and understand the person you're talking about, but so long as you're not taking any advantage of that person and anything you do is in a loving/caring/respectful way, I personally think thats ok.
 

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I would consider how this person is viewed by the State. What I mean by that does he have a caregiver? Has the State Government determined that he is unable to take care of himself and has given control of his affairs to another person; family or court appointed.
If he falls into this category you must be exceedingly careful. I had a medical colleague who went to prison for crossing this line (not his patient) with a guy. The guy's parents were very conservative and couldn't abide that their son might be gay and therefore he was coerced and forced into a sexual relationship.
If the guy has been deemed incompetent to make decisions on his own you had better walk very slowly and carefully into any potential relationship. You should have frank discussions with all those concerned before doing anything that could get you sent to prison.
 

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I was wondering if anyone has ever dated a mentally challenged person before. My cousin has a friend ith low iq and he has become quite attached to me and Im starting to develop feelings for him. I cant stop thinking about him. Has anyone dated a person with low iq?
I haven't, but a friend of mine has a long term partner that I would put in the low average range, on this scale.

They love each other very much, support each other in all the usual ways, and have been together for over 15 years.

It really depends on their ability to reason, function as an adult, and if they need care in any way for various basic things. If their general functionality is in the low range, then I would advise not going any further than what you've already described.
 
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